Dating Tips [Archive] - Chief Delphi

purpledaisy

10-12-2002, 12:33

hey all
my first post on the chit chat board... wow. lol. seriously, dating tip from me: be sweet. Don't be so sugary she feels sick, but sweet is good. That doesn't always have to be presents or always paying or anything like that. it's the way you talk to her, the way you listen (key word LISTEN!!!! it helps!!!), the way you give hugs (and if you're close enough, kisses). Also, don't ever push her. if she says she doesn't want to, and you give her puppy dog eyes, she'll probably give in, but it's not the best way. I know I can't take the puppy dog eyes, but I often resent the control they give him. Finally, seriously be yourself. If you put up an image, you may get the girl, but what good has it done you if she likes you for who you aren't?
Wow... hope maybe that makes some sense...
byes
Stacia

Shannon Maloney

10-12-2002, 15:56

Originally posted by JosephM
You have the right one if they know what the Segway is and they want to ride one. And, yes, I've met some of those before (but they were taken, d---).

you can't settle for the girls that want to just ride a segway....ya gotta go for the ones who want to OWN a segway!! :) (my mommy wouldn't buy me one :( )

Frank(Aflak)

10-12-2002, 21:48

Heres a good one!

"Hey! I'm in the Math Club, the Science club, AND the Robot Club!"

yup . . .. . . they'll be all over you in a second! EXPECIALLY if you turn red and start sweating!

heee heeee heeeeee, go ahead, try it . . . . . . . . .. . . . ... . . . .

Of course, you could always use:

"Did you know that you can find an extremely close apporximation from pi by taking a regular n-gon with a really big n, like 10 to the 99th or something and then . . . . . . . . . . . . [insert thing to find a 'pi' value for any regular n gon (i know it exists, i deduced it last year)]"

yuppers, that'll get them for sure.

Amanda M

10-12-2002, 21:50

This is what my teacher.. dude... thingy told my team when the subject was brought up:

Party trivia aka pickup lines (he's a bio teacher):

Did you know that your body makes 2,400,000 red blood cells a second?

Now, I know I would absolutely MELT if a guy told me THAT! haha

Joe Matt

10-12-2002, 21:58

Originally posted by Amanda M
This is what my teacher.. dude... thingy told my team when the subject was brought up:

Party trivia aka pickup lines (he's a bio teacher):

Did you know that your body makes 2,400,000 red blood cells a second?

Now, I know I would absolutely MELT if a guy told me THAT! haha

Ok, that's why I still don't have a date. j/k

My biggest thing would be to make sure she knows your smart and stuff so it's not a big surprise when you say "Sorry, I can't, I only have 3 more days left" and she thinks your dieing.

Mike Soukup

11-12-2002, 14:12

Originally posted by AdamT
Sorry DJ, Mike's too busy with a girl to be cynical about girls...

Kinda ironic, I think.....
Busy, but not too busy to be cynical, I'll always find time for that.

Dress like a slob, show up late, expect her to pay for everything, have your mom drive both of you to the movies, ask if she's really going to wear that when she's out with you, and leave her alone in front of the TV while you play computer games or read CD for an hour. I could go on, but I have to get back to work and earn my pay.

Seriously, be yourself - even if being yourself includes what I said above. There's no point in pretending to be someone else, he/she will either find out you're lying and eventually leave or you'll continue the act and be miserable. It's much more enjoyable when you can be yourself and know he/she will like you for it. And if a girl doesn't like you, don't be a psycho and call her 5 times a day or send her emails / letters saying that you two belong together and she should give you a chance. Just give up like a sane person would do.

Mike

Johca_Gaorl

11-12-2002, 14:31

Originally posted by Mike Soukup
And if a girl doesn't like you, don't be a psycho and call her 5 times a day or send her emails / letters saying that you two belong together and she should give you a chance. Just give up like a sane person would do.

However, if you know she does like you, but she is being stubborn, it might be good to not give up. Speaking from experience here.

Greg Perkins

11-12-2002, 14:59

guys learn from me, girls dont like when u talk about...er...yourselves...anyway, i got slapped for that, take it from me, keep ur mind clean...to a point!!!

Bad

Amanda M

11-12-2002, 17:41

Originally posted by badjokeguy
guys learn from me, girls dont like when u talk about...er...yourselves...anyway, i got slapped for that, take it from me, keep ur mind clean...to a point!!!

Bad

Okay, I will have to speak from experience on that one. At homecoming this year, my date started talking like that. It was disgusting. I mean, I understand the whole hormone thing, but you guys gotta tone it down. Maybe if guys weren't so much like that they would get a date. I mean, you don't have to be appealing to yourself, but to the opposite sex, and if they think you have a gross attitude, then there's obviously something wrong there.

David Kelly

11-12-2002, 20:17

what if the female is the one with the dirty mind??

Melissa Nute

11-12-2002, 20:22

Originally posted by David Kelly
what if the female is the one with the dirty mind??
shhh...
we don't have dirty minds...

well we aren't as vocal about it as guys are

but if you don't like it...ask her to stop? and girls usually would

Greg Perkins

11-12-2002, 21:32

Originally posted by Amanda M
Okay, I will have to speak from experience on that one. At homecoming this year, my date started talking like that. It was disgusting. I mean, I understand the whole hormone thing, but you guys gotta tone it down. Maybe if guys weren't so much like that they would get a date. I mean, you don't have to be appealing to yourself, but to the opposite sex, and if they think you have a gross attitude, then there's obviously something wrong there.

soo... u are the "amanda" who one of the kids on our team thought u were stalking, i met u in the arcade that night at nationals...anyway, you are right, but if the girls the one with the dirty mind then u are golden guys;)

bad

Mike Schroeder

12-12-2002, 00:02

Originally posted by Meli W.
shhh...
we don't have dirty minds...

well we aren't as vocal about it as guys are

but if you don't like it...ask her to stop? and girls usually would

Girls have dirty minds? nah never

oh wait what am i talking about never mind:D

Shannon Maloney

12-12-2002, 08:35

Originally posted by David Kelly
what if the female is the one with the dirty mind??

girls minds are cleaner than guys...we change them more often!:)

Greg Perkins

12-12-2002, 10:11

*sniff, sniff* ewwwww whats that smell, o yea its my brain frying, looks like i need to get a new pair of brain boxers now.

:p

Bad

Amanda M

16-12-2002, 20:31

Originally posted by badjokeguy
soo... u are the "amanda" who one of the kids on our team thought u were stalking, i met u in the arcade that night at nationals...

bad

Hey! I was not stalking him! He was stalking me! So :p ! Ha! Anyways, I don't think he really cared, man. He's still my buddy.

And personally I think that if it was the girl who had the dirty mind, then the guys wouldn't mind, because most of them have their minds in the gutter anyhow. I could be wrong, but for the most part, I don't think so

Amy Beth

17-12-2002, 13:33

guys....just act like a complete fool. She thinks you're crazy anyway; let her know you are crazy about her.

girls.....don't make him act like a fool.

Dave_222

17-12-2002, 23:18

Originally posted by Amy Beth
guys....just act like a complete fool. She thinks you're crazy anyway; let her know you are crazy about her.

girls.....don't make him act like a fool. Does being crazy in general count? cuz i am not exactly "balanced".

Mike Schroeder

18-12-2002, 01:01

okay i got a question

Is Breaking out in random bouts of White Boy Dancing Okay,

What about random hugs

or Pokes
?????????

ahhh to many questions

purpledaisy

18-12-2002, 12:32

well... dancing, probably ok, but it depends on the girl.
random hugs ~ usually only if you know her well or a well known to be a huggy person.
random pokes ~ can be dangerous. be prepared to duck after the first time, she may not like it. Personally, it's alright as long as it's not ALL the time.
I hope you guys don't mind my random posts... :)
Stacia

Amanda M

18-12-2002, 12:33

Originally posted by "Big Mike"
[COLOR=darkblue]okay i got a question
Is Breaking out in random bouts of White Boy Dancing Okay,

What about random hugs

or Pokes

White boy dancing? How... interesting... I think so. Of course, I am kind of a nut, so I think the weirdest things are interesting... And dancing is fun! So, no problem there!

Poking.... I know that as long as you are doing it in a "nice" way, I won't care, but people poke me really hard sometimes and I bruise... Not fun.

And random hugs are really happy. Or. at least in my book.

Ricky Q.

18-12-2002, 13:50

Randomness is the key to life :p well maybe not, but its fun to have those random moments sometimes, I keep them a daily part of my life, to make my self and others laugh :D

Amy Beth

18-12-2002, 14:37

/me hugs her teddy bear randomly, looks away, and whistles

What i don't get is guys who ask you a question like "Do girls like it when guys talk about...."themselves"?" "Do girls like random hugs and pokes?" "Do girls like it when guys pay on dates?" and then the guy expects they can get an answer that will always help them no matter the situation. Um...sorry, no. Me, personally, i love random hugs, but i have pinned guys to the ground for randomly poking me. But, i mean, if you like poking girls randomly, i'm sure there is a pokable soulmate for you out there somewhere. It's not about what girls in general like, but what your specific girl likes, and if you take the time to find that out, she will appreciate it. Really.

purpledaisy

19-12-2002, 12:49

I agree, Amy. Some girls LOVE being hugged and tickled, etc. Some girls HATE it. It depends on the girl, and if you try to date someone before you find things like that out (if they're important to you), that's, bluntly, stupid. don't jump into dating until you know the person well. I set a 1 month waiting period before my current boyfriend could ask me out. Granted, it wasn't just to wait, there were other reasons, but I (and he) am really glad I did that. We know each other alot better than we would have before, and it's helped alot. Now, because we know each other well, and care alot about each other, we can work through the arguements that naturally come up. Also, if she's having a bad day and snaps at you, don't take it too personally. I know that when I do that, I usually end up 5 minutes later practically crying on his shoulder. It is reasonable (I think) to expect an apology, and possibly an explanation, but if she doesn't want to talk about it, don't push (unless you know her well enough to know she needs to talk it out). Anyway, that's just my two cents.
thanks for listening!
Stacia

Katie Reynolds

19-12-2002, 17:48

Going back to the hugging/tickling/poking thing ... like Amy and Stacia said - it really depends on the girl! For me, I don't mind hugs but I hate it when most people poke or tickle me. I just generally don't like people touching me (especially my arms and back for some reason.) I've had guy friends get mad at me for yelling at them for touching me! Usually, it's nothing personal, just some people, both guys and girls, don't like being touched (for whatever reason.)
It is reasonable (I think) to expect an apology, and possibly an explanation, but if she doesn't want to talk about it, don't push (unless you know her well enough to know she needs to talk it out).

Exactly! I think that's true for both sexes too. If the other person doesn't want to talk about it, just let it be. Maybe they're still upset about whatever happened, don't know how to say it or just want to keep it to themselves. Just because you're together or really close friends doesn't mean you have to tell each other everything! Anyway, back to writing my history paper (:()

- Katie

Greg Perkins

19-12-2002, 21:53

o i guess i am guilty of all 3 of those we just mentioned, although i dont intend to be malicious about it :p. also, i do it as from a sweetness perspective, i wont go up randomly to Ammy, and "jump start" her, ill prolly get decked, but i dont do that, i usually go for a shoulder or the belly poke/nudge.

Yea, so im a sweet single male, uh... im me? lol

Bad

MarkF

19-12-2002, 22:02

Random pokes are my signature. However, I have found that if a girl doesn't like it, she'll probably say something, and that's that. You have to know where and when to draw the line.
As for the radom hugs....nah. Hugs are good, but as far as I'm concerned, only with people you know well enough. My girlfriend is the recipient of daily, multiple random pokes, but she doesn't mind, because we know each other, as earlier posted *winks at purpledaisy*, extremely well. I finish alot of her sentences for her, too. ;-)

Johca_Gaorl

20-12-2002, 07:40

Originally posted by MarkF
I finish alot of her sentences for her, too. ;-)

Hehe, my g/f and I do that too, it can be scary.

Katie_269

22-12-2002, 00:14

These are things that I think are most important:

1) Long Distance Relationships are HARD!!!! I KNOW
2) Don't do anything you don't want to.
3) Talking helps a lot.
4) Be yourself, NO MATTER WHAT!!!
5) Give hugs, and maybe kisses if you are close.
6) No means No
7) Be sure of your feelings.
8) Have fun

Katelyn

Johca_Gaorl

22-12-2002, 11:56

1) Long Distance Relationships are HARD!!!! I KNOW

Yes, they are.

2) Don't do anything you don't want to.
3) Talking helps a lot.
6) No means No

These all sorta go together, in order to make sure that No means No, you should talk about things before hand so that you don't end up doing things that you don't want to and regret it later. It's easier to decide before the moment, and then follow it up, than it is to decide at the moment when hormones are running high.

Katie_269

22-12-2002, 20:08

Originally posted by Johca_Gaorl

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These all sorta go together, in order to make sure that No means No, you should talk about things before hand so that you don't end up doing things that you don't want to and regret it later. It's easier to decide before the moment, and then follow it up, than it is to decide at the moment when hormones are running high. [/B]

Yes, exactly. It is a lot better to talk about things to make sure both of you are on the same page with things, and so that there are no regrets. It is better to talk about it, than to find yourself in an uncomfortable situation.

Katelyn

Katie Reynolds

23-12-2002, 10:59

Originally posted by Katie_269
1) Long Distance Relationships are HARD!!!!
::nods::
Originally posted by Katie_269
2) Don't do anything you don't want to.
3) Talking helps a lot.
4) Be yourself, NO MATTER WHAT!!!
5) Give hugs, and maybe kisses if you are close.
6) No means No
7) Be sure of your feelings.
8) Have fun
Yep.

- Katie

Katie_269

24-12-2002, 18:50

KT, you have it worse than I do.........I am sorry...

Katelyn

Katie Reynolds

24-12-2002, 22:41

KT, you have it worse than I do.........I am sorry...
Nah, it's ok -- we deal with it :)

So whay about Holiday dating tips? Anyone have any interesting holiday dating stories?

- Katie

Katie_269

25-12-2002, 00:23

Originally posted by Katie Reynolds
Nah, it's ok -- we deal with it :)

So whay about Holiday dating tips? Anyone have any interesting holiday dating stories?

- Katie

Well Jeremy and I can't be together for Christmas, but we will get to be together for New Years. He is going to pick me up on the Sunday after Christmas, and then on Monday we are going to go to the Dells. Then we are going to spend New Years together at his house. Then on the 1st he is going to drive me back to O-Town.

Katelyn

Firewolf

26-12-2002, 13:21

Yah, about being your self, that's important and all ... be careful...
'cause see, even though the person is ment to like YOU for YOU, doesn't mean they need to see all the... uh... details,
what i mean is, create some kind of buffer zone,
and be ready that the other person might not like you for who you are (harsh, yes, i know)
so be nice, not overly nice like you're playin' it, but -natural
just as nice as you would be to ... you grandmother - sweet,

yeah you want it to work, but, don't fake it,
and don't throw him/her into the deep end on the first date.
They might be one of those people that like to wade into the ocean, not be pushed out of a helicopter in the middle of it.

does anyone get what i mean?
be you self, but be careful so show good sides 1st
that usually warms a person up to another.
even if there is a chance for you and whomever (being that you don't know much about this other person - such as you would w/ a good friend) it would be pretty certain that they don't wanna spend the 1st date hearing 'bout you not-offical-obsession w/ ... something (i think it would be safe to say FIRST in the company).

just put your best foot forward ... just make sure it's yours

and guys, if you can, be funny - that gets most girls - be relaxed
and be careful not to offend her on the 1st date (like if she is just acting weird - don't shoot her down... she might be nervous too), if she doesn't like your jokes, stop - even if your not ment to be together, you don't want her thinking you're an imbecile - it might ruin your chance w/ any other girl in the vicinity of 20 miles

happy hunting

Katie_269

27-12-2002, 14:56

Originally posted by Firewolf
does anyone get what i mean?
be you self, but be careful so show good sides 1st [B]

Exactly. You should be yourself, but only show your good side first. Meaning you should be sweet and be "on your best behavior" once you start getting to know eachother a little better that is when you share other sides of yourself.

Katelyn

Katie_269

27-12-2002, 20:32

Ok I guess my previous reply sounded kinda bad. What I meant was basically you "naturally" only act a certain way with someone when you first meet them, and that is usually the good side of you. It is only because you are probably kinda nervous, or whatever. But then after you get to know eachother better you start to show eachother other sides of yourself, and I think that is really when relationships are decided because then you can see what the person is really like and you can see if that is something you can live with.

Katelyn

FotoPlasma

29-12-2002, 07:50

Just thought I'd post some general relationship/dating links.

Warning: some of these things might include some four letter words (like "like", "word", and "four" [along with "friend" if you listen to Cake]), so don't yell at me for not warning you. Also, please keep in mind that I did not write any of these, and they are not necessarilly my views, or even those anyone I know, so if something pisses you off, complain to the writer, don't blame me.

Ladder Theory (http://www.intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html)
What happens when you tell a girl you'll call and you don't (http://www.everything2.com/index.pl?node_id=629353)
You can't make someone love you (http://www.everything2.com/index.pl?node_id=676328)
I just want to be friends (http://www.everything2.com/index.pl?node_id=125071)
The Friend Zone (http://www.everything2.com/index.pl?node_id=488882)
I can't tell the girl I love that I love her (http://www.everything2.com/index.pl?node_id=852032)
You are smart, I would like to make love to you (http://www.everything2.com/index.pl?node_id=162134)
and for hilarity's sake, from The Simpsons... Fuzzy Bunny's Guide to You Know What (http://www.everything2.com/index.pl?node_id=684933)

E2 (www.everything2.com) is full of great stuff, and you don't even have to know where to look...

Carolyn Duncan

29-12-2002, 17:49

Ok Y'all, here's my input (not that it matters to anyone other than me) on the whole relationship thing. One of the things I learned the hard way is really know the person before you start dating them. Be good friends first, if you can't talk to them and you cant predict certain reactions from them maybe you should wait. one of the best things I've learned is not to expect anything, then you cant be dissapointed. For better explanations watch the movie 100 Girls, take notes (this is not just for guys girls can learn too). On the first date move your drink to the left side of you plate if you are right handed or vice versa for us lefties, this reduces the chances of spillage.

For girls: Don't expect a guy to pay for everything all the time; split the bill or even take him out sometimes.

For guys: Be chivalry should not be dead. Even femi-nazis (if you are offended by that term you prolly are one and shouldn't't be offended) appreciate it when you open the door for them and let her be the first one that everyone sees when you two enter the room, then when they see you they will be instantly jealous.

Oh, and don't forget to have fun. Once the fun ends th relationship is dead too. There's more but that's enough for now, if in doubt consult EJ ;) he knows what to do and say.

purpledaisy

02-01-2003, 12:51

feminazis...grr!
I agree with Carolyn. chivalry should not be dead! however, I don't agree with the girls who stand outside the door and bang on it until a guy opens it for them. that's just wrong.
Also, girls (again, with Carolyn), at least offer to pay. if he says no, whatever, but make the offer (make it sincere, too!).

MUST BE FRIENDS FIRST!!! I learned that the hard way... but then he didn't tell me I was his girlfriend until after everyone else knew it (not Mark, he asked). Also, if you do break up, don't go bashing them to the rest of the world. What they told you in confidence should still be kept secret, what they did that was "between you" should not be advertised, etc. in other words, respect their privacy, no matter how messy the break up.

also, don't let yourself get so caught up in your "dating life" that you loose all your other friends. this is a recipe for disaster. if he can't stand your friends or they can't stand him, you should hear the warning bells! also, this is leaving you with no support system or escape if you do break up or have a fight.

ok, nuff for now
Stacia

Johca_Gaorl

02-01-2003, 14:22

Originally posted by Katie Reynolds
So whay about Holiday dating tips? Anyone have any interesting holiday dating stories?

Just this new years, I was out on the west coast, and my g/f stayed up till 3 in the morning to countdown with me, after I had also counted down with her. Nice, huh?

Lauren Hafford

02-01-2003, 18:19

I don't know about you guys, but i date to have fun!
No rules, no regulations, I mean....how can it be fun if you're constantly wondering if you're doing it all right? It won't matter in the long run, becuase most of us are just in high school or college and personally i'm not looking for my lifelong mate at this point in my life. relaxation and honesty are things that make dating fun because neither person is hiding anything and we can laugh at anything.

less rules = less uptight
less uptight = more fun
more fun = good!

lauren

Katie Reynolds

02-01-2003, 20:30

Originally posted by Lauren Hafford
I don't know about you guys, but i date to have fun!
No rules, no regulations, I mean....how can it be fun if you're constantly wondering if you're doing it all right? It won't matter in the long run, becuase most of us are just in high school or college and personally i'm not looking for my lifelong mate at this point in my life. relaxation and honesty are things that make dating fun because neither person is hiding anything and we can laugh at anything.

less rules = less uptight
less uptight = more fun
more fun = good!

lauren
... What's the point of dating if not to find your 'lifelong mate'? I mean, obviously if you're dating with someone who bores you to death, you should end the relationship - but isn't the point of dating to find the person you want to spend the rest of your life with? You should be relaxed and honest with anyone. Don't hide things from people, both of you will only end up getting hurt in the long run.

[/end_semi-rant]

- Katie

MRL180YTL2002

16-01-2003, 10:40

I say be yourself, and as a guy I stick to being a gentleman. But you know the FIRST code of ethics (look at the back of the FIRST-SME card) works too. Paying on dates, its should be whoever asked. (Equal rights)

chellyzee93

16-01-2003, 17:04

Definitely.. I broke up with a guy that I had been dating for two years cause i could never see myself spending my life with him. We fought 75% of the time! It's important to not settle for someone jsut because they like you. Date people that make you happy.. that you enjoy spending time with.. That you can carry on a conversation with. Long-distance or not

EddieMcD

16-01-2003, 19:44

Tips on dates... let's see here.

Date (n)-1 : the oblong edible fruit of a palm (Phoenix dactylifera)
2 : the tall palm with pinnate leaves that yields the date.

Or to put it simply "Big rasins that make you poop." Another thing that should be known about dates is -

::someone whispers to Eddie what the group is talking about::

Oh, why didn't you say so. My major tip is to take a chance with a girl, and don't be afraid if she doesn't like you. I've lost a few girls who I'm pretty sure (now, anyway) liked me because I never tried and eventually gave up.

But then again, what do I know? I have to rely on Carolyn for advice on things like this. As you can see, I'm not too great with the opposite sex. Eh, there's always college.

MRL180YTL2002

16-01-2003, 22:32

Originally posted by EddieMcD
My major tip is to take a chance with a girl, and don't be afraid if she doesn't like you.

simply the truth...the girl I took to my school's homecoming and to the movies once (she's also on 179)...and no we aren't going out yet....I've asked once (the FIRST and only girl) and she said no. We're both rather busy with IB schoolwork and robotics of course so neither one of us has time to devote to a long distance relationship. Maintaining a friendship that's right on the edge of going out (in a way) is tough as it is. But I took that chance...and its been a very interesting two years (well, this March) that I've known her. Also, definately go places (not necessarily steady) like me with someone you share a few common things. Despite our grade level differences (I'm in 12th, she's in 11th...but only 7 months and 3 days older...had to do explaining to parents) its actually a pretty good relationship (we could never get angry at one another) and love to be together, talk, write....but most importantly...it better be being together someplace. Last, it helps if the person's parents likes you....its a bit easier to go do stuff together (even if its as lame as walking up and down the pit area at the Championship).

tatsak42

17-01-2003, 01:00

well what am i doing here, i don't know anything. mwa ha ha ha... like, talking does help, i just can't very easily, woot... i worry too much. boo hiss to that

KennethToronto

17-01-2003, 02:31

Originally posted by Katie Reynolds
... What's the point of dating if not to find your 'lifelong mate'? I
lots of other stuff?

I think different people have different priorities in life.

Some might be out there trying to look for their lifelong partner...a lot more are probably out there just to have some fun :D I think both attitudes are fine..as long as no one gets hurt.

But then again, what do I know? :cool:

A. Snodgrass

17-01-2003, 11:19

Originally posted by Katie Reynolds
... What's the point of dating if not to find your 'lifelong mate'? I mean, obviously if you're dating with someone who bores you to death, you should end the relationship - but isn't the point of dating to find the person you want to spend the rest of your life with?
- Katie

Katie, sometimes we date to also find what we would like to see in a potential mate, and to find out what truly irritates us and that we couldnt deal with in a potential mate. It really depends on your goal in general though. That doesnt mean that every guy we date we think we would want to spend the rest of our lives with. Often times we just arent ready to make any such decision at early stages in our lives.

Sometimes we date to have fun. Casual dating with people when you are careful is good practice for the future when you are seriously dating. Please everybody note Im talking about "dates" and not "going out". Those two terms have become way too mutually exclusive....and they really aren't. You go on a date with somebody, possibly multiple times, but that doesnt mean there is an obligation to be their boyfriend/girlfriend. Also sometimes you can find somebody that while you wouldn't work going out, you would work with the idea of being friends. I agree with a lot that has been suggested by people in this thread. But I think for everybody, these would be good things to keep in mind.

On a final note, every time we date, we discover a little more about ourselves. The person who might seem like the perfect mate in the beginning, will likely not be the 'perfect mate' by the time you are in your 30's or 40's. Then again if you change with each other....they might be. My advice would be find somebody who is your friend, and you enjoy talking to; who always seem to make you feel good about yourself. After the original flush of romance that comes for newleweds is vanished somewhat, you will still be with somebody who makes you laugh, and who makes you feel special. And in that, there is some of its own romance and romantic feeling.

Firewolf

17-01-2003, 15:05

as far as I see, there is a trend going on here

No one knows anything
and I don't mean that in a mean way,
just matter of factly
I keep seeing
i.e.
"what do I know?"
and such well, isn't that just the point?

You're not supposed to know,
love is a fools game
as is life
you fumble through it
grasping in the dark
hoping you do something right.

so everyone, just calm down, there are no rules or regulations
do what comes naturally,

it's life, it's not that serious

MRL180YTL2002

17-01-2003, 17:39

Originally posted by A. Snodgrass
Sometimes we date to have fun. Casual dating with people when you are careful is good practice for the future when you are seriously dating. Please everybody note Im talking about "dates" and not "going out". Those two terms have become way too mutually exclusive....and they really aren't. You go on a date with somebody, possibly multiple times, but that doesnt mean there is an obligation to be their boyfriend/girlfriend. Also sometimes you can find somebody that while you wouldn't work going out, you would work with the idea of being friends. I agree with a lot that has been suggested by people in this thread. But I think for everybody, these would be good things to keep in mind.

First off, what's the difference between a girl that's a friend and a girlfriend. When you mention girlfriend, everyone thinks "going out...dating" and with the perveted teenage mind a few think "the girl who has dibs on you". This is what I've said so here goes....

The girl I took to my school's homecoming and to the movies once (she's on 179)...and no we aren't dating yet....I've asked once (the FIRST -one-and only girl) and she said no. We're both rather busy with IB schoolwork and robotics of course so neither one of us has time to devote to a long distance relationship (well she's 45 minutes south of me by car and doesn't live in the smae county, muchless go to the same school). Maintaining a friendship that's right on the edge of going out (in a way) is tough as it is. But I took that chance...and its been a very interesting two years (well, this March) that I've known her. Despite our grade level differences (I'm in 12th, she's in 11th...but only 7 months and 3 days older...had to do explaining to friends - parents were okay as far as I know) its actually a pretty good relationship (we could never get angry at one another) and love to be together, talk, write....but most importantly...it better be being together someplace. She maybe a blonde but she's highly intelligent...its an interesting as there are many dumb blonde jokes out there. Maybe the jokes on me. All I know is that she's definately the most highly attractive, intelligent, funny, beautiful, sexy, most intriguing, and interesting person I know. Just cause you go with somebody and do things on different occasions doesn't mean you're dating. Our problem is, people say we should just go out, start dating, why becuase you've been seen together in public multiple times with a member of the opposite sex too many times. That's the problem....in our case we've walked around holding hands (in particular Nationals). We don't want to date/go out exculsively with one another....we fear losing our great friendship. A friendship is far more important at this time in our lives than having a girl/boyfriend. if that makes any sense.

No one can predict the future...in my case, I may end up with my girlfriend Pamela from 179 (the one I've been talking about). But this casual dating or even going out occasionally to the movies or something is a way to get to know someone (so's writing but that's another story). Stick to maintaining friendships you have and make others, casual dating (I guess me and Pam are in a way) with someone, go head and do it. Again, friendship is far more important at this time in our lives than having a girl/boyfriend. if that makes any sense.

purpledaisy

17-01-2003, 23:17

I can't casually date. i have too passionate a personality. my solution? don't date unless i'm willing to be serious and can see myself marrying the guy. does that work for everyone? no. I can be friends with a guy and it goes no further than that, but once i start to put the label dating and making it one-on-one, i become very emotionally invested. again, that's me. I also have very specific ideas of what i want in a husband, so i don't date just anyone. I also am totally comfortable being single. I want someone special, who i can cry with, and is willing to cry with me. Someone who can understand i've had a bad day and just want to be held. someone who can tell me they've had a bad day. someone i won't fight with often, but when we do, we become closer when we make up. I want someone who won't laugh too hard at me for being a hopeless romantic. I want someone i can be completely honest with. i want the kind of relationship where when we've been married 20 years, we want to be together more than we did when we got married. the sweetest thing i ever heard was a man say of his wife that he thought her more beautiful 20 years after their marriage than he did on their wedding day. I want a husband who will say that. i can see myself marrying my current boyfriend, but that may not happen. i don't know. my basic tip is know yourself. if you can casually date, go for it. if, like me, you can't, know that about yourself. don't serial date because you can't be single. second tip: be honest with yourself and him. don't lead him on, but don't play too many games - he might give up.

MarkF

18-01-2003, 10:34

I feel the same way. My very first relationship was 7 months long, and this current one with purpledaisy looks like it will be MUCH longer. Being a man of commitment, I don't understand how some people are willing to have a one night stand and not feel guilty as all hell the next day. Whatever floats your boat, I guess.

chellyzee93

18-01-2003, 13:14

I date to find what i want in a guy. If I find that I can't see my myself spending the rest of my life with him, then i've made another friend and i can specify my standards.I take relationships a little more seriously then maybe i should, but i always remain friends with the guys I date so my system for works for me at least.

tatsak42

18-01-2003, 17:35

Well, I'm screwed now, thank you very much. Maybe she'll dump my sorry $@#$@#$@# now, or maybe just let it fade and be even worse. Dunno really what's going on, you could ask any robotics person from my team and they'd tell you something's messed. I love my life, don't I. woot!

MRL180YTL2002

19-01-2003, 00:25

Originally posted by MarkF
I don't understand how some people are willing to have a one night stand and not feel guilty as all hell the next day. Whatever floats your boat, I guess.

What I meant by casually dating, I guess its bad phrasing and different interpretations is that okay Pamela (on 179) and I are friends. So I asked if she wanted to go to my school's homecoming, the movies.....that's casual dating. Its not a one night stand, its in better words hanging out but Pamela and I aren't friends and we sure aren't dating one another exculsively. She could go with another guy somewhere sure, I don't own her and if we were dating she wouldn't, even then as long as we don't break our promises to one another (stuff like stay in school. don't do drugs...) I'd be fine. She has her friends and I have mine. Its respect for the other, trust in the other, time and effort into a relationship, and mutual agreements on certain issues (at least know how the other one feels) that make things in a relationship, even just a friendship like mine, work. The sad part is two friends go out, break up, and never speak to one another again. Pamela and I don't want that to happen so for now we aren't going to date. We will go on "dates" but we aren't going out, um search for the right word,..... steady. Though we'll probably end up dating someone else due to age and grade differences...see my previous post in this thread but for now I guess in my case Pamelaand I aren't dating yet.

hixofthehood

19-01-2003, 00:30

I want to say so much about dating and love...

so. much. I could type for hours and hours

But I won't

MRL180YTL2002

19-01-2003, 00:41

Originally posted by hixofthehood
I want to say so much about dating and love...

so. much. I could type for hours and hours

But I won't

Then why'd did you post?

Also commitment is a very good thing, I'm trying to think here. I find myself first, even JUST MAKING FRIENDS, I judge character, intelligence, beauty, humor, etc... unfortunately with girls that I find I kinda like somehow end up being (all the factors) compared to Pamela and well for some reason Pamela seems to be better. I guess its cause I've known her so long and I constantly evaluate my friends for who they are (helps keep them straight...this one does this, this one is going out with who, this one likes this......its endless)....I don't want to be associated with a jerk. Just see my earlier posts in this thread.

purpledaisy

19-01-2003, 23:02

yeah, that's another thing... red flags should go up if all your friends don't like him or you can't stand any of his friends. doesn't mean you should dump him cuz of it, just try to find out why. sometimes your friends can see things you can't.
anyways... for me commitment matters. don't play him - if he's worth being around, he'll see through you. and don't cheat. if you, like me, are a hardliner about your boyfriend cheating on you, don't cheat on him. now, sometimes things come up and its a misunderstanding or a game got out of hand or something, and always listen to his side, but if you let him get away with it, he's going to keep doing it.
tatsak42, what are you talking about? i'm totally lost, but if i should stay that way, that's ok too.

stacia

note - he and him and boyfriend and other male-gender pronouns and nouns are used merely for clarification. she, her, and other female gender prounouns and nouns can be substituted.

tatsak42

19-01-2003, 23:26

heh.... well, I was freaking out about stuff... It's all... good.. ish...
(*flinch*)

MRL180YTL2002

20-01-2003, 11:12

Originally posted by purpledaisy
yeah, that's another thing... red flags should go up if all your friends don't like him or you can't stand any of his friends. doesn't mean you should dump him cuz of it, just try to find out why. sometimes your friends can see things you can't.
anyways... for me commitment matters. don't play him - if he's worth being around, he'll see through you. and don't cheat. if you, like me, are a hardliner about your boyfriend cheating on you, don't cheat on him. now, sometimes things come up and its a misunderstanding or a game got out of hand or something, and always listen to his side, but if you let him get away with it, he's going to keep doing it.

stacia

note - he and him and boyfriend and other male-gender pronouns and nouns are used merely for clarification. she, her, and other female gender prounouns and nouns can be substituted.

It is also very helpful if your parents and your girlfriends parents like you. That fact makes life easier when they approve. I'm not saying your parents should control your life but if they're the ones controlling the car keys (heck they won't let me drive the 45 minutes to see Pamela down in Palm Beach Gardens) and money (I have no job).

purpledaisy

21-01-2003, 22:04

yeah, it does help if parents like your boyfriend... see thing is, with a dad like mine, i'm happy if he doesn't cause open hostilities. there are three daughters in the family, i'm the middle, and the first one he knows of dating (my older sister's in college). it makes life interesting. lol. i do, however, drive, and had a job until the deli closed... but that's alright, i'm getting another one sooner or later... for now i will rely on babysitting.

MRL180YTL2002

22-01-2003, 20:21

Pamela's parents like me. My parents like her. It helps when we want to get together. That makes life interesting all the while because sometimes its useful like allowing us to go to homecoming together (we don't even live in the same county, much less go to the same school). My parents said don't cross the line and hers....well they haven't said anything to me, a few words to her (what...is none of my business..although I have a few ideas of what). They trust a lot when we're us together. They're actually very respectful and as far as I know don't make many comments (a few occasionally).

Ken Leung

23-01-2003, 10:19

In my opinion... All these relationship stuff is not normal human behavior...

Just be good friends first, before you start dating. If anything you still have a good friend.

Firewolf

23-01-2003, 11:19

Originally posted by Ken L
In my opinion... All these relationship stuff is not normal human behavior...

Just be good friends first, before you start dating. If anything you still have a good friend.

So true,
you should just start going out w/ someone b/c you have a 'feeling' you to would be good together.
1st get to know them, maybe you'll find out you don't even have
a desire to be w/ them and you like the friendship soo much more.

MRL180YTL2002

23-01-2003, 22:51

Originally posted by Ken L
In my opinion... All these relationship stuff is not normal human behavior...

Just be good friends first, before you start dating. If anything you still have a good friend.

I firmly agree...which is partly why Pamela (179) and I aren't dating/going out. If we do later on in life, I cannot predict the future. Besides just cause you think you'd be good together doesn;t necessarily create a good relationship. A friendship you can base one off of as their is a relationship as just friends. You've learned more about one another and well you may decide you want a friendship more than a dating relationship.

MRL180YTL2002

27-01-2003, 20:37

I've done some thinking.....

First off, what's the difference between a girl that's a friend and a girlfriend. When you mention girlfriend, everyone thinks "going out...dating" and with the perveted teenage mind a few think "the girl who has dibs on you".

Consider this friendship is far more important at this time in our lives than having a girl/boyfriend. If that makes any sense.

But I am guilty of this being a human being. I told my best friend after I knew her for a month. Pamela (she's on 179) and I have been friends since 2001 KSC Regionals but we aren't dating. The important thing is that she knows know I feel and letting the other person know is important. Since it was a month after, I knew her well enough to admit it...nervous as heck but managed to get it across. It took me a while to figure out what to say, I forgot what as I was nervous, so it basically went....

Me: "Pamela, there's something I got to tell you." (hesitates)
Pamela: "What is it Mike?"
Me: (I pause and hesitate) "Somewhere in the middle of all this, I fell in love with you Pam"
Pamela: "Awwe." (and a little stunned)

Ever since Pamela and I have been very good friends. The downside is she's on 179 and I'm on 180. We live about 45 minutes away from one another but have different schedules as we are on different teams and go to different schools but are in the same tough program...the world of IB. Not to mention the fact that we're in different grades (right now she's a junior and I'm a senior in high school but we're only seven months & three days apart). And, yes I have taken her out to the movies once and also to South Fork's Homecoming (to you S.P.A.M.mers from SFHS that was there, that is the girl I was slow dancing with and talking to the entire evening). Which brings me to a dating tip (actually a few) for the guys

a) be a gentleman
b) when slow dancing...definately put your arms around her waist and if she let's you that's a good sign
c) also with b let her rest her head against your shoulder (which is a better sign than b)
d) with b anc c as well, watch it, don't step on her feet and guide her around the dance floor

purpledaisy

27-01-2003, 22:24

/me gets stars in my eyes

MRL180YTL2002

30-01-2003, 20:18

First, good luck purpledaisy with your boyfriend.

Yeah.....I'm so glad my friends didn't see us (Pamela obviously doesn't go to my school) dancing at homecoming. ;) It was definitely great.....my hands around her waist (interesting cause her hair's down to her waist), pulling her in close, her arms around my neck, and her head on my shoulder (for some reason she like my right shoulder over my left.....I haven't figured that out...guess cause she's often to my right). Snuggled up close. Her eyes definitely were brighter, shining like stars that night. It was wonderful!!!!!!

(AUTHOR'S NOTE - Two of my friends probably will read this.....and they are going out and they will annoy me. In return I will annoy them as they are going out still....prom's coming up sometime in April :p ;) . You've been warned K.K. and I.M. or should I say K.M. and I.M., etc...!!!!!!!!!!! );)

Firewolf

30-01-2003, 20:59

Originally posted by MRL180YTL2002
First, good luck purpledaisy with your boyfriend.

Yeah.....I'm so glad my friends didn't see us (Pamela obviously doesn't go to my school) dancing at homecoming. ;) It was definitely great.....my hands around her waist (interesting cause her hair's down to her waist), pulling her in close, her arms around my neck, and her head on my shoulder (for some reason she like my right shoulder over my left.....I haven't figured that out...guess cause she's often to my right). Snuggled up close. Her eyes definitely were brighter, shining like stars that night. It was wonderful!!!!!!

yeah, OK, go ahead and make me feel sad and lonely why don't you?:(

Johca_Gaorl

30-01-2003, 21:30

Originally posted by MRL180YTL2002
(AUTHOR'S NOTE - Two of my friends probably will read this.....and they are going out and they will annoy me.

That's the whole point of friends, isn't it? :D

Your first love is a FIRST love, how cute :) :p

hehe, gotta rib you a bit man. And before you ask if I am just jealous, no I'm not, I'm very happily spoken for.

tatsak42

31-01-2003, 00:08

Originally posted by Firewolf
yeah, OK, go ahead and make me feel sad and lonely why don't you?:(

ditto. :P hehehe

MRL180YTL2002

31-01-2003, 09:54

Originally posted by Johca_Gaorl
That's the whole point of friends, isn't it? :D

Your first love is a FIRST love, how cute :) :p

hehe, gotta rib you a bit man. And before you ask if I am just jealous, no I'm not, I'm very happily spoken for.

Yeah I know robotics and the first girl I love. They've said that already. At least she know's why communication slows down during build season. Both being in IB, we know how crazy if can be during school. The downside is we don't see one another often because of our busy schedules.

tatsak42 and Firewolf So Sorry!!!! Pamela is a very good friend of mine, we're not dating or anything. Also I must add that the way we were dancing and basically how people see us together makes them think we're a couple.

So Johca_Gaorl are you jealous? I hate to make anyone jealous.

But if you or anyone wants to rib me about Pamela go ahead....I've heard a lot...and will hear more as prom is coming up in April.

mgreenley

31-01-2003, 16:01

I don't know any great tips, but I figure if thing keep going how they are now I'll be taking our robot to the prom. Wouldn't that be a sight...

purpledaisy

31-01-2003, 16:35

mike, you poor boy! you, first of all, have another two years to worry about this, since you're a freshman - can't go to prom unless with a junior or senior. second, by the time you do have to, i'm sure you'll have found SOMEONE. if you haven't, let me know, i'll hook you up with one of my college gal friends (i should have them by then ;) )

tatsak42

31-01-2003, 17:01

Hey, btw, I was kidding. Lonely, no, single yes. whatever... :P

MRL180YTL2002

31-01-2003, 19:59

I don't know about you guys but there is something different about girls that participate in FIRST and other tech stuff like the NYLF-Tech (National Youth Leadership Form on Technology...the old YTL....International Summit of Young Technology Leaders) than other girls who don't.

mgreenley not a bad idea at all....put it on a teher or with out (begins to laugh) ...bot's 30" wide...it should fit through the door...or make a new one!

And tatsak42 you never know what the future brings. Until I met Pamela...I wasn't lonely and now I am (it stinks to be apart *sniffles* :( ). But we both are single at the moment. ;)

Firewolf

31-01-2003, 20:24

Originally posted by mgreenley
I don't know any great tips, but I figure if thing keep going how they are now I'll be taking our robot to the prom. Wouldn't that be a sight...

why didn't I think of that!!!
oo that would soo rock!...
can you imagen it on the dance floor??:ahh:

MRL180YTL2002

01-02-2003, 19:27

Yeah a fast one too....geared for 12 feet per second.......terrorize everyone!

Jeff_Rice

01-02-2003, 22:17

:(

I am really depressed now.
I've never had a good b/f g/f relationship.
The only girlfriend I ever had dumped me after three days.
One person I asked and they looked at me kind of disgustedly.
And the girl I asked to the dance yesterday didn't come.

My tip is don't date.
Besides, look at the odds. Lets say there are 200 people in your general age bracket. 40 you know well. 20 you know well and are of the opposite sex. Each of those people will know well at least 20 who are of your sex. Assuming each person would be willing to date two people ( not at once, you know what I mean) and assuming a fifty percent shared friends amount, there is a 1 in 10 chance of a person being willing to go out with you. Add in being willing to go out with them, there is a 1 in a 100 chance of liking someone who likes you.

Looking at this I think I might ask the robot to our next dance.

purpledaisy

01-02-2003, 22:32

jeff - that's depressing! one major tip to getting a significant other, or at least a trend i've noticed that makes people interested, become completely resigned to being single. Enjoy singledom - everytime i've gotten to that point (and it's only happened twice - it's HARD), i've gotten asked out shortly after... or at least i've gotten a boyfriend (the first one didn't ever ask...). another tactic to make people like you is get a significant other... for some reason that makes people come out of the woodwork and say i'm crazy about you. one of those people, i could almost have strangled for it - i'd had a crush on him for a year and a half, and, according to him, he'd had one on me for a similar amount of time!!!! grr shyness!!!!!
stacia

Jeff_Rice

01-02-2003, 23:02

Thank you.

I appreciate the tip, but I am trying to pull my mind back together right now.

Logic and emotion need to be finely balanced. I just put too much on the emotional side of the scale.

Yes, logical emotion is best. Logic never hurts. Logic is either true or false, logic is digital, 0 or 1.

Thats why I get along with computers and robots. I aspire to act like them.

Firewolf

02-02-2003, 12:51

aw jeff!
I give you my love!
I don't really even know who you are,
but i still do!
and don't feel so sad!

well, really I shouldn't be one to say that...
I understand what you mean by the logical emotions..

Hey! If you DO go to the prom w/ your robot
and seeing how I prob. will be too,
take pictures!
mine will probably be of me running over
all the people:p
and we can post them on!
...
I just have to figure out how to get a tux on it w/o
the gears getting jammed...

EddieMcD

02-02-2003, 15:14

I guess it's nice to know I'm not the only loser here when it comes to the opposite sex.

MRL180YTL2002

02-02-2003, 20:36

Originally posted by Firewolf
I just have to figure out how to get a tux on it w/o
the gears getting jammed...

Use the holes for the sleeves to expose the gears....better yet rig a frame on the bot so it can "wear it."

MRL180YTL2002

02-02-2003, 20:58

Originally posted by purpledaisy
jeff - that's depressing! one major tip to getting a significant other, or at least a trend i've noticed that makes people interested, become completely resigned to being single. Enjoy singledom - everytime i've gotten to that point (and it's only happened twice - it's HARD), i've gotten asked out shortly after... or at least i've gotten a boyfriend (the first one didn't ever ask...). another tactic to make people like you is get a significant other... for some reason that makes people come out of the woodwork and say i'm crazy about you. one of those people, i could almost have strangled for it - i'd had a crush on him for a year and a half, and, according to him, he'd had one on me for a similar amount of time!!!! grr shyness!!!!!
stacia

Take a chance and just say it. Its hard to say "I like you." which is easier then what I said..."I love you."

MRL180YTL2002

02-02-2003, 21:09

I am replying to a number of posts in this column.

Originally posted by Johca_Gaorl
Your first love is a FIRST love, how cute :) :p

I've heard that a million time before. -laughs- The team adults tease me about it....they use me to talk to her team sometimes but basically they do it themselves as my authority is rather limited and I refuse to have my relationship with her and her parents to be used in such a way. But the funny thing is sometimes her parents call mine to relay information. Actually, the adults know where to find me because I am in one of five places.

1. in the pit
2. in the restroom
3. eating food
4. cheering in the stands
5. MOST IMPORTANTLY, WITH PAMELA!

Now my friends....oh geez...I never hear the end of it. But A LOT of GOOD THINGS in my life are because of Robotics.....Tech Conference, Friends, College Choice, Career, a BEST FRIEND...needless I say more.

Da SPAMinatress

02-02-2003, 22:07

But A LOT of GOOD THINGS in my life are because of Robotics.....
I'm definately going to have to agree with that... as for expanding on it, theres just too much... plus i feel like i'm about to die... you know where to find me if you want to talk (anyone)

Firewolf

02-02-2003, 22:24

Originally posted by EddieMcD
I guess it's nice to know I'm not the only loser here when it comes to the opposite sex.

you know,
loser is such a harsh word
though i lable my self as one,

but the op. sex isn't a prob. for me,
it's the same
so i'll have to modify that "" of yours:rolleyes:

Johca_Gaorl

02-02-2003, 23:39

Originally posted by MRL180YTL2002
Now my friends....oh geez...I never hear the end of it. But A LOT of GOOD THINGS in my life are because of Robotics.....Tech Conference, Friends, College Choice, Career, a BEST FRIEND...needless I say more.

Hehe, that's what friends are for, if they didn't do that, you should wonder what is wrong! :p

Robotics is definitely one of the best things that has ever happened to me.

torn_paperdoll

03-02-2003, 02:10

BEEEEEEEEEE YOURSELF
AND DONT DRINK THE BLUE KOOLAID IT MAKES YOU FART

MRL180YTL2002

03-02-2003, 09:36

Originally posted by Johca_Gaorl
Hehe, that's what friends are for, if they didn't do that, you should wonder what is wrong! :p

Robotics is definitely one of the best things that has ever happened to me.

You can say that again! But you wonder.... can't you come up with something new?

Johca_Gaorl

03-02-2003, 15:17

Not with the kind of sleep I am getting :D ;)

EddieMcD

03-02-2003, 18:38

Originally posted by Firewolf
you know,
loser is such a harsh word
though i lable my self as one,

but the op. sex isn't a prob. for me,
it's the same
so i'll have to modify that "" of yours:rolleyes:

I suppose I'm not a loser when it comes to the opposite sex. Come to think of it, most of my friends are girls. It's actually finding that "more than friends" thing that gives me trouble. So, let's rephrase that quote: "Nice to know I'm not the only one here who has trouble finding love."

torn_paperdoll

03-02-2003, 19:52

Truthfully.. lately I haven't been dating much.. But it is really kinda thought provoking.. You can just make one big joke out of all of it, and it doesn't hurt as much.. Besides.. It is kinda overrated.. Why go out looking for it, when it will probably come to you.. Sooner or later.. anyway..

purpledaisy

03-02-2003, 22:03

hear hear! at least that's what i did. get comfortable single, and someone will come, that's been my experience, anyways. also, everyone has to have their "mistake". i guess you could say i've had mine, but what i'm trying to say is even if you do find a girlfriend (or in my case boyfriend), don't expect it to last forever. in high school they rarely do. that doesn't mean you can't hope, but it does mean that you shouldn't get more involved than the other person (i've been the other person - it scares the bejeezes out of you!!!!)

yes, i did just use the word bejeezes in a sentence. deal with it ;)

MRL180YTL2002

03-02-2003, 22:14

[QUOTE]Originally posted by torn_paperdoll
Why go out looking for it, when it will probably come to you.. Sooner or later.. anyway.. [/QUOTE

I didn't go out looking for it. It found me, catching me by suprise. As the song goes "I was your face and that's the last I've seen of my heart...." I forget who the artist is.

MRL180YTL2002

03-02-2003, 22:21

Originally posted by purpledaisy
hear hear! at least that's what i did. get comfortable single, and someone will come, that's been my experience, anyways. also, everyone has to have their "mistake".

How true. People also make the mistake of believing that fate brought them together and that they're soul mates early on. And then it doesn't work out. Don't fall into that trap either.

But I am guilty of having that someone come and by golly she's one of my best friends and one of the VERY (and there's an understatement) GOOD things to come out of robotics. Which reminds me I would like to point out the only thing between me and Pamela that I expect is our great friendship that we have will survive forever. Now if we end up as a couple that remains to be seen.....it remains to be seen what the future brings. With dating someone, you must keep that in mind as well. But like me you can plan ahead to make time available for those dates (advance notice, ask way in advance).

Lori Beth

04-02-2003, 19:54

Ich bin ein Berliner.
-President John F. Kennedy

(I am a jelly doughnut.)

MRL180YTL2002

04-02-2003, 21:41

Why pick your nose? Flirt, tickle one another (well a few girls like that, depends on the person). Instead of fighting and having to make up, just make out, there's all kinds of stuff you can do (just don't do something stupid like drugs, alochol, etc...)!

Lori Beth

04-02-2003, 21:45

I didn't know you dated at all.

Da SPAMinatress

04-02-2003, 21:53

Instead of fighting and having to make up, just make out
yes!! you don't have to be boyfriend/girlfriend to make out...
it's fun, and it's a good workout!

SwordSerenity

06-02-2003, 11:36

sometimes its cool to just kiss, thats is a very romantic thing any two people can do

EddieMcD

06-02-2003, 15:38

Even a peck on the cheek can mean something if done at the right time.

MRL180YTL2002

06-02-2003, 20:37

Originally posted by EddieMcD
Even a peck on the cheek can mean something if done at the right time.

Just make sure your breath doesn't stink. And a peck on the cheek every so often really does show that you care about him or her.

purpledaisy

06-02-2003, 22:38

personally, i'm a very commitment oriented person, so i don't hold with the "just make out" theory. i also didn't let my current boyfriend so much as kiss my cheek until we were officially going out. I give hugs to friends, and close guy friends are (if they want) allowed to kiss my hand or something. I know that's not the way most people are, and i'm not saying everyone should do it, but it's the way that works for me, and I'm putting it out there as an alternative. I didn't get my first real kiss until I was 17, nor did I have my first real boyfriend until then. I'm almost 18 (26 days left, but who's counting?), so it's not like I've been around much. I was the team prude (and team flirt, someone explain THAT to me!!), and I guess I haven't changed that much. I only kiss one person (mark), and unless we break up and I get together with someone else, that's how it's going to stay. If we weren't committed, I wouldn't kiss.

However, back on topic - a kiss on the cheek or hand can send a thrill up my spine. It's SO sweet. In my mind, it's the little things that count, like a kiss or hug on a bad day, walking hand-in-hand, a whispered "I love you", a phone call when you're feeling under the weather. *sigh* and of course, flowers.

Firewolf

06-02-2003, 22:46

"Intimacy,n. A relation into which fools are providentially drawn for their mutual destruction
...
Kiss,n. A word invented by the poets as a rhyme for "bliss." It is supposed to signify, in a general way, some kind of rite or ceremony apperaining to a good understanding; but the manner of its performance is unknown to this lexicographer."

~Ambrose Bierce
The Devil's Dictionary
(nothing satanic, just satire)

haha, and people wonder why I love this guy

cheer up people,
its not all that important:yikes: :D :p ;)

Biggs717

06-02-2003, 22:48

Call me crazy...but to me romantic is just hanging out in comfy clothes renting a movie and ordering pizza and cuddling on the couch...thats my kind of date! Everyone once and a while getting dressed up and going out is fun! But I'm a pretty simple girl!

tatsak42

07-02-2003, 02:35

Yah, looking for it never helps, it usually comes when you don't expect it, aren't looking for it, or when you don't want it (eh, the last one's not as good). And as for me, I'm pathetic :P Didn't ever have enough confidence or whatever to try. And yah, watching a movie on a couch (the movie's playing on the tv, not on the couch) is very nice... (ya know, I realized I can't really say very much :P)

EddieMcD

07-02-2003, 13:13

Originally posted by purpledaisy
personally, i'm a very commitment oriented person, so i don't hold with the "just make out" theory. i also didn't let my current boyfriend so much as kiss my cheek until we were officially going out. I give hugs to friends, and close guy friends are (if they want) allowed to kiss my hand or something. I know that's not the way most people are, and i'm not saying everyone should do it, but it's the way that works for me, and I'm putting it out there as an alternative. I didn't get my first real kiss until I was 17, nor did I have my first real boyfriend until then. I'm almost 18 (26 days left, but who's counting?), so it's not like I've been around much. I was the team prude (and team flirt, someone explain THAT to me!!), and I guess I haven't changed that much. I only kiss one person (mark), and unless we break up and I get together with someone else, that's how it's going to stay. If we weren't committed, I wouldn't kiss.

However, back on topic - a kiss on the cheek or hand can send a thrill up my spine. It's SO sweet. In my mind, it's the little things that count, like a kiss or hug on a bad day, walking hand-in-hand, a whispered "I love you", a phone call when you're feeling under the weather. *sigh* and of course, flowers.

Ahh... the hug. Something we've neglected to mention in this thread. I'd personally give a hug to a girl I knew but don't see often (generaly FIRST people, as I only get to see some people once a year, sometimes less). It's not meant to be intimate, just very friendly.

MRL180YTL2002

07-02-2003, 20:06

Originally posted by EddieMcD
Ahh... the hug. Something we've neglected to mention in this thread. I'd personally give a hug to a girl I knew but don't see often (generaly FIRST people, as I only get to see some people once a year, sometimes less). It's not meant to be intimate, just very friendly.

I must agree with you on that. I do the same with my friends....some which after July 16, 2002 (The International Summit of Young Technology Leaders - renamed Nationals Leadership Youth Form on Technology) I never saw or will see again....talk yes but see it would be by chance. The hug, definately give them especially to a few friends I see twice a year. Its a sign that well, you care about them as friends, will and still do. However my question is....have any of you done that in front of your aignificant other (if you have one) or someone you really liked? I've done that...Pamela did not mind me giving a hug to her best friend Savanna. But some people are different. :confused:

Its the little things that make a friendship work as well as any more involved relationship with somebody.

E Jones 234

07-02-2003, 23:58

Dating... where did it come from? Medieval days when the torture chambers were full. I can see a round-bellied king pounding his staff on the castle floor to sentence some poor trouble-maker to the dungeon-- but suddenly a court aid, wearing puffy sleeves and leotards, whispers in the king's ear, "Dungeons are full, Sire." The king would and bluster for a few seconds and then he'd stop-- a light bulb going off in his head. (ok, a candle in those days:D) But an idea nonetheless. He'd whisper back to the aide, then gather his advisors together and they'd all giggle at the deliciously evil scheme the king had just hatched. The king would dismiss his yes-men, who would scurry to their places along the red carpet. Then the king wuld clear his throat. "I sentence you..." he would boom slowly, "to spend five years... DATING!" From that day forward, dating was somethign inflicted mostly upon unruly teenagers who typically sneered at the royals. In time, all teenagers fell victim to the practice, and within 2 or 3 centuries, society had convinced itself that dating was in fact necessary, an essential step to marriage.

chellyzee93

08-02-2003, 00:30

sometimes it's nice just to play, nothing physical really... just having fun with other. Run around, play tag, box, tickle each other i promise you'll have fun. Then when you're done some cuddling is a nice way to end the fun and rest. Being comfortable with each other is extremely important so that you can be your self, so that they like you for the real you :)

Ricky Q.

08-02-2003, 01:47

Originally posted by chellyzee93
sometimes it's nice just to play, nothing physical really... just having fun with other. Run around, play tag, box, tickle each other i promise you'll have fun. Then when you're done some cuddling is a nice way to end the fun and rest. Being comfortable with each other is extremely important so that you can be your self, so that they like you for the real you :)

Except when you get kicked and/or punched in the nose :p

Firewolf

08-02-2003, 08:06

Originally posted by Ricky Q.
Except when you get kicked and/or punched in the nose :p

what are you talking about!
That's still romantic!
... Isn't it...?

haha
"I had so much fun, my nose started to bleed
And I knew it was love when I couldn't see
you punched me in the face
you punched me in the face"

haha, hey thanks for the lyric inspiration -- now I just have to write the rest of that song...:yikes:

MRL180YTL2002

08-02-2003, 21:31

....is it romantic??? Not really unless you're playing around. Most kicks and punches are generally a dirty (sorry but girls do fight dirty, clawing and biting you.....at least in the ones I've seen).

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Originally posted by chellyzee93
sometimes it's nice just to play, nothing physical really... just having fun with other. Run around, play tag, box, tickle each other i promise you'll have fun. Then when you're done some cuddling is a nice way to end the fun and rest. Being comfortable with each other is extremely important so that you can be your self, so that they like you for the real you
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but that is so true.

Firewolf

09-02-2003, 18:58

Originally posted by MRL180YTL2002
....is it romantic??? Not really unless you're playing around. Most kicks and punches are generally a dirty (sorry but girls do fight dirty, clawing and biting you.....at least in the ones I've seen).

yeah, well, if a girl starts fighting dirty - that means YOU'RE doing something wrong apprantly she doesn't want anything to do w/ you (or atleast at that point)

clear out boy or clean up your act

MRL180YTL2002

09-02-2003, 19:44

Therefore avoid fights!!!! Like I said before why worry about making up from fighting when you could have been making out, go out, etc... in the first place. Sometimes its a problem that has dragged on for a while and the powder keg just blew. One misinterpreted act, move, etc... can end relationships.

SwordSerenity

10-02-2003, 11:55

a true relationship wont end over a fight, there must be an initial reason to be apart if you fight over something. true someone may have done something inappropriate but put yourself in their shoes, sometimes that can help. cheating ehh thats a good reason to go, but little things like not being able to talk for a little while, shouldnt hurt someone if you truly care

A. Snodgrass

10-02-2003, 14:48

actually fighting is a normal and healthy part of the relationship if it isnt going on all the time. if you agree with somebody ALL the time something is likely wrong, although not always.

Specialagentjim

10-02-2003, 18:45

Sorry for posting this, as it seems odd its a comment this far past the prom comments, BUT

Heh, robot to prom...now THAT sounds like a good idea. Let's see...Im a sophomore, so I've got one or two years to figure out how to get this to work....

...and hey, those that called yourselves the L word, don't worry, you're not alone....This year Alone I've posted over 150 posts in the 6 week period.

...Maybe that should be an option in the profile...

Loser?
~Yes
~No

Ehhh..I should stay away from this side of the Chit-Chat bar, I juss end up posting meaningless things of depression...sorry...I'll go back to the animation forums (yeah...I'm not even one of the people that are assigned to work on the robot usually [Hoping that will change drastically next year]...I went to work on it the other day and they sent me home to work on the animation... :o Oh well, it's gotta get done...)

MRL180YTL2002

10-02-2003, 20:36

Originally posted by A. Snodgrass
actually fighting is a normal and healthy part of the relationship if it isnt going on all the time. if you agree with somebody ALL the time something is likely wrong, although not always.

true...but you better not be fighting all the time too. A fight or minor disagreement is fine but when violence comes into play is a different story.

Melissa Nute

10-02-2003, 21:19

Originally posted by MRL180YTL2002
true...but you better not be fighting all the time too. A fight or minor disagreement is fine but when violence comes into play is a different story.
i know my b/f and I play fight all the time... its fun...
never violence except i know a friend that enjoyed a violence in a her relationship...but it was playful...

MRL180YTL2002

11-02-2003, 10:46

Originally posted by Meli W.
i know my b/f and I play fight all the time... its fun...
never violence except i know a friend that enjoyed a violence in a her relationship...but it was playful...

playful is okay....but when blood is drawn is not very good. Injury is bad, very bad, it can be considered abuse. So watch it. Fighting occasionally should be considered in a relationship. You cannot agree on everything.

SwordSerenity

11-02-2003, 12:09

i have never really fought in many of my relationships (then again i havent had many) but i can agree it can eb healthy, it does make bounds. but as for fighting for a relatioship to be healthy, i cant say i agree there...

MRL180YTL2002

11-02-2003, 19:22

Let me clarify......if you're fighting all the time over various issues its bad. A disagreement here and there is good as you learn (the hard way) what makes someone ticked off. its heathly as you increase your knowledge of the other person and sometimes yes at the moment weakens a relationship but in the long run over coming a bad time makes it even stronger.

purpledaisy

11-02-2003, 22:31

ok, i think we've all agreed that constant fighting is bad. what is good is being able to make up after a fight. you will fight - it's almost guaranteed if you stay together for a long enough time. mark and I fight, it happens. what is important is that when we fight, we don't degenerate into name-calling and insults, and we learn from the fights. Fights can make or break a relationship, you have to choose not to let them break it. Remember, even when you're angry and in a fight, that you care about the person, and it will be fine.

oh, and violence in anger is bad. playing around is up to those involved, but if someone gets hurt, is not good.

MRL180YTL2002

12-02-2003, 08:44

purpledaisy I think you summed up that one!

Biggs717

12-02-2003, 15:54

yea I agree with purpledaisy too!...arguements make a relationship grow...just as long as they aren't happening every day...I had that happen with my ex boyfriend and it was not fun! but I'll never forget after our first real arguement how bad we both felt and then we talked about it and worked everything out...sometimes you just have to let everything out before you can talk about it! the healthy part is being able to sit down after it happens...however long the wait is up to you...and just talk...we're all human and we'll all get mad and say things we don't mean...everyone does it! but being able to talk things through afterwards to me is very important!

Specialagentjim

12-02-2003, 17:08

Yeah, whereas I can't speak from a first hand basis (not in/had a relationship....) I've seen soo many friends get so mad at each other when they've tried for a long time to not fight. They let it build up within them without letting it out until the end, where the big fight comes out. Smaller little fights are healthy, but that last one is the one that kills the relationship.

...but then again, what do I know? These are simply observations from a 3rd person point of view..

Firewolf

12-02-2003, 18:32

you can see things pritty clearly from a 3rd person pov b/c ur mind
isn't clouded by all thats going around

o yeah, those few lines of a song i wrote was a mockery,
i simply like to write silly song

***i do not endorse fights in relationships

Specialagentjim

12-02-2003, 19:11

heh, yeah...I'm just saying that maybe theres something I dont see from a 3rd person pov. But yeah...things that are obvious to me can be the thing that they're most blinded by...

purpledaisy

14-02-2003, 12:02

of COURSE there are things you won't see from a 3rd person POV. However, there is ALOT you DO see that a first person won't. the real trick is to let the 1st person know without being a busybody or ending up being hated by all. This only comes into play in major fights or incidents, but is a concern. anywho, i think we've beaten the issue with fights to death, so now my question is this - if you are a third person, is there any situation where you should interfere? if yes, when?

just curious
stacia

Kyle

14-02-2003, 13:36

yes there are many times when a 3rd person should interfere such as when something gets violent or harmful in any way to either of the people also it is mostly a judgment call, i my self interfere alot, i am a teen consular(a teenage version of a guidance consular to give the best advice or to just listen and be there to hear problems 24-7 i also sometimes act a personal suicide hotline but i try to forward those calls to pro's) and that is something i do when you interfere it doesn't have to be to break up anything but to just drop hints or have a small talk about the problem in private. But don't take this that you should always do something because it isn't some thing that u like there have been many times where i hate some of the things people tell me about and i want to do what i can to help but cant. there have been times where interference from a 3rd person has saved lives so yes if the 3rd person uses there judgment and knows something about the situation should do something even if it is just writing an unsigned letter.
for any info on teen consulars go to your local branch of the YMCA YWCA or teen center