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You don't have to treat alcohol like a taboo or avoid it completely for half the year because it's the build/competition season... But it just makes so much sense to separate the two. I don't drink around students, I don't show up to meetings under the influence of anything. When I do partake, I do so in appropriate circumstances... And frankly, it's not appropriate to be exposing underaged kids to it without first Consulting the parents. Think about the kids you mentor, and their parents. What do you think the parents would say if you went up and said "when we're travelling for this competition, the other mentors and I plan to take the kids to eat at this bar I like, and we wanted to make sure it was ok with you if the adults drank while we were there.". I can almost guarantee that there will be at least one set of parents on every team that would not be ok with it. |
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And just to be clear, yes parental wishes or school rules come first in ALL of these situations. |
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So I see we are back to discussing general mentor behavior :]
If you read the First YPP above (post 79) It says "Alcohol, tobacco, or other controlled substances must not be used during team activities..." It then allows exception for "support" activities. I would not call team dinners while traveling support actives. Hardly a blanket permission to consume alcohol. Realize First policies are guidelines and not hard rules. This is necessary because of it covers policies world wide. Realize that other parts of the world have different policies, but in the US none of the youth serving organizations i have been involved with approve of the responsible care adults consuming alcohol while in charge of youth. These rules would not necessarily apply to periphery mentors or sponsors. I am not being judgmental in this. If your team's sponsor allows responsible alcohol use, it is not for me to judge. I a parent comes to me and says "But you knew", I would ask and you didn't? I am not responsible for their child's behavior. While I try to be a good role model and willing to be a friendly ear for advice, that is really outside my job description. I might take on projects if I think it will be useful. I do help with a team that works with at risk youth. Their job description is different. My hat is of to the mentors of that team and others like them. |
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Personally, I think that any parents reasonable, safe request should be honored as much as reasonably possible, where it doesn't interfere with normal team procedures. Things like respecting allergies, religious requirements, limiting involvement, photographs... All would, I think, be considered a reasonable request. Demanding that their kid be placed on the drive team, or be made a captain, or other nonsense like that should simply result in a clear explanation of the teams processes and an invitation for the student to enter said process for an equal chance as everyone else. |
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In other cases I would tell the parent that I don't supervise to youth to the level to be sure parental rules are followed that is really between the youth and the parent. General behavior and team rules are a different subject. Genuine safety issues like peanut allergies I will try to be aware of, but I am not accepting responsibility for. I have way too much other stuff on my plate. |
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