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of COURSE there are things you won't see from a 3rd person POV. However, there is ALOT you DO see that a first person won't. the real trick is to let the 1st person know without being a busybody or ending up being hated by all. This only comes into play in major fights or incidents, but is a concern. anywho, i think we've beaten the issue with fights to death, so now my question is this - if you are a third person, is there any situation where you should interfere? if yes, when?

just curious
stacia

yes there are many times when a 3rd person should interfere such as when something gets violent or harmful in any way to either of the people also it is mostly a judgment call, i my self interfere alot, i am a teen consular(a teenage version of a guidance consular to give the best advice or to just listen and be there to hear problems 24-7 i also sometimes act a personal suicide hotline but i try to forward those calls to pro's) and that is something i do when you interfere it doesn't have to be to break up anything but to just drop hints or have a small talk about the problem in private. But don't take this that you should always do something because it isn't some thing that u like there have been many times where i hate some of the things people tell me about and i want to do what i can to help but cant. there have been times where interference from a 3rd person has saved lives so yes if the 3rd person uses there judgment and knows something about the situation should do something even if it is just writing an unsigned letter.
for any info on teen consulars go to your local branch of the YMCA YWCA or teen center

How true....talking a private trying to help anotehr person one on one is difficult as they don't want to "see" it. Or if you have a few friends like mine who suddenly annouce "We're going out" or "I'm not going out with him/her anymore." out of the blue for no apparent reason.

I just got back from my <3 day date, and it was totally cool
no relationship man! 2 friends going to the movies,
he was feeling down, i asked him to be my <3tine,
and he picked the movie (the recruit <~kicked butt),
i picked him up,
i paid for him (i had a 20 )
and now he owes me one -
no 'going out' bit there, we were out togather,
but friends, on the most stariotypical love day of the year

so see! it's possible!'
just chill out, have fun
... throw popcorn at people
and most of all DON'T TAKE IT SO SERIOUSLY!

life's a game ~ get in YOU'RE IT!

Quote:

Originally posted by Firewolf
I just got back from my <3 day date, and it was totally cool
no relationship man! 2 friends going to the movies,
he was feeling down, i asked him to be my <3tine,
and he picked the movie (the recruit <~kicked butt),
i picked him up,
i paid for him (i had a 20 )
and now he owes me one -
no 'going out' bit there, we were out togather,
but friends, on the most stariotypical love day of the year

so see! it's possible!'
just chill out, have fun
... throw popcorn at people
and most of all DON'T TAKE IT SO SERIOUSLY!

life's a game ~ get in YOU'RE IT!

ya know what? You're absouletly right!

Couldn't have siad it better. Part of the problem is asking for the first time....its not as bad as time goes on in comparision to the first time.