Re: excuse the pointless post
 

Then why'd did you post?

Also commitment is a very good thing, I'm trying to think here. I find myself first, even JUST MAKING FRIENDS, I judge character, intelligence, beauty, humor, etc... unfortunately with girls that I find I kinda like somehow end up being (all the factors) compared to Pamela and well for some reason Pamela seems to be better. I guess its cause I've known her so long and I constantly evaluate my friends for who they are (helps keep them straight...this one does this, this one is going out with who, this one likes this......its endless)....I don't want to be associated with a jerk. Just see my earlier posts in this thread.

heh.... well, I was freaking out about stuff... It's all... good.. ish...
(*flinch*)

It is also very helpful if your parents and your girlfriends parents like you. That fact makes life easier when they approve. I'm not saying your parents should control your life but if they're the ones controlling the car keys (heck they won't let me drive the 45 minutes to see Pamela down in Palm Beach Gardens) and money (I have no job).

Pamela's parents like me. My parents like her. It helps when we want to get together. That makes life interesting all the while because sometimes its useful like allowing us to go to homecoming together (we don't even live in the same county, much less go to the same school). My parents said don't cross the line and hers....well they haven't said anything to me, a few words to her (what...is none of my business..although I have a few ideas of what). They trust a lot when we're us together. They're actually very respectful and as far as I know don't make many comments (a few occasionally).

In my opinion... All these relationship stuff is not normal human behavior...

Just be good friends first, before you start dating. If anything you still have a good friend.

So true,
you should just start going out w/ someone b/c you have a 'feeling' you to would be good together.
1st get to know them, maybe you'll find out you don't even have
a desire to be w/ them and you like the friendship soo much more.

I firmly agree...which is partly why Pamela (179) and I aren't dating/going out. If we do later on in life, I cannot predict the future. Besides just cause you think you'd be good together doesn;t necessarily create a good relationship. A friendship you can base one off of as their is a relationship as just friends. You've learned more about one another and well you may decide you want a friendship more than a dating relationship.

I've done some thinking.....

First off, what's the difference between a girl that's a friend and a girlfriend. When you mention girlfriend, everyone thinks "going out...dating" and with the perveted teenage mind a few think "the girl who has dibs on you".

Consider this friendship is far more important at this time in our lives than having a girl/boyfriend. If that makes any sense.

But I am guilty of this being a human being. I told my best friend after I knew her for a month. Pamela (she's on 179) and I have been friends since 2001 KSC Regionals but we aren't dating. The important thing is that she knows know I feel and letting the other person know is important. Since it was a month after, I knew her well enough to admit it...nervous as heck but managed to get it across. It took me a while to figure out what to say, I forgot what as I was nervous, so it basically went....

Me: "Pamela, there's something I got to tell you." (hesitates)
Pamela: "What is it Mike?"
Me: (I pause and hesitate) "Somewhere in the middle of all this, I fell in love with you Pam"
Pamela: "Awwe." (and a little stunned)

Ever since Pamela and I have been very good friends. The downside is she's on 179 and I'm on 180. We live about 45 minutes away from one another but have different schedules as we are on different teams and go to different schools but are in the same tough program...the world of IB. Not to mention the fact that we're in different grades (right now she's a junior and I'm a senior in high school but we're only seven months & three days apart). And, yes I have taken her out to the movies once and also to South Fork's Homecoming (to you S.P.A.M.mers from SFHS that was there, that is the girl I was slow dancing with and talking to the entire evening). Which brings me to a dating tip (actually a few) for the guys

a) be a gentleman
b) when slow dancing...definately put your arms around her waist and if she let's you that's a good sign
c) also with b let her rest her head against your shoulder (which is a better sign than b)
d) with b anc c as well, watch it, don't step on her feet and guide her around the dance floor

slow dancing... mmm...
 

First, good luck purpledaisy with your boyfriend.

Yeah.....I'm so glad my friends didn't see us (Pamela obviously doesn't go to my school) dancing at homecoming. ;) It was definitely great.....my hands around her waist (interesting cause her hair's down to her waist), pulling her in close, her arms around my neck, and her head on my shoulder (for some reason she like my right shoulder over my left.....I haven't figured that out...guess cause she's often to my right). Snuggled up close. Her eyes definitely were brighter, shining like stars that night. It was wonderful!!!!!!

(AUTHOR'S NOTE - Two of my friends probably will read this.....and they are going out and they will annoy me. In return I will annoy them as they are going out still....prom's coming up sometime in April :p ;) . You've been warned K.K. and I.M. or should I say K.M. and I.M., etc...!!!!!!!!!!! );)

yeah, OK, go ahead and make me feel sad and lonely why don't you?:(

That's the whole point of friends, isn't it? :D

Your first love is a FIRST love, how cute :) :p

hehe, gotta rib you a bit man. And before you ask if I am just jealous, no I'm not, I'm very happily spoken for.

ditto. :P hehehe