Dating Tips
 

Hey, I am really bored!

so ummmm, post your best dating tips up here (keep it clean!)

Don't pick your nose.

Flatulence is not proper.

...until the second date.


j/k j/k j/k :)

don't show up too late

check these three threads:

http://www.chiefdelphi.com/forums/sh...&threadid=3511

http://www.chiefdelphi.com/forums/sh...&threadid=3713

http://www.chiefdelphi.com/forums/sh...&threadid=3860

I think we should call the expert, Mike Soukup for this topic :p :D

Guys: Be a gentleman, and be creative at least some of the time.

Ladies: We would rather hear what you want then have to try and guess.

Sorry DJ, Mike's too busy with a girl to be cynical about girls...

Kinda ironic, I think.....

Yes I am...
 

I was told by some of the students (HS & College)
that you gotta wear your FIRST volunteer
T-shirt, speak with a deep voice and
say "Whyyyy YES..... I ammm'a FIRST Volunteer."

This turns the FIRST girls on, I guess?

:D :D :D

You could always try:

How you doin'?

I would slap a guy if he actually ever said that....

hey...
 

...even said with a serious Brooklyn accent?

:D :D :D

lol, I only say it jokin around. :D

Ummm...
 

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Dreamer...... :)

I must agree with Dr. Unknown
 

FIRST women are the only ones who understand and will join you in the six weeks come January......another thing, just be yourself, if you're a total FIRST nut give her somethign you made in the metal shop and see how she reacts....

You have the right one if they know what the Segway is and they want to ride one. And, yes, I've met some of those before (but they were taken, d---).

Got one! :D

/me slaps Dave around with a large trout
/me glares

/me slaps Dave around with a large trout
 

Harsh Harsh Harsh!!!! man oh man look out. j/k Mel, he deserves it

Do you have a heart for the trout!!! j/k

wow this got off-topic

I've learned this the hard way. Dont insist on paying for evrything u and ur gurl do together.

Did she eventually get pissed off at being payed for, or did you run out of cash?

I have no dating tips. I shouldn't be posting in here.

I'll buy a social life from anyone for $20 (after taxes), if you're selling...

Time: 4:20am
Setting: dark alley

You a cop? You know you've gotta tell me if you're a cop...

You got the money? I got the stuff...

/me pulls out a Pringles can


<edit>
On the advice from my counsel (read "girlfriend")...
Anyone who can't spell "girl" isn't intelligent enough to date one yet.
</edit>

No. Not crack. A social life...

err.. on second thought... nevermind, I'll take whatever you got...

I agree...

Jim: I know someone's I could sell...

No, but I'm a cop. :)

you can't settle for the girls that want to just ride a segway....ya gotta go for the ones who want to OWN a segway!! :) (my mommy wouldn't buy me one :( )

Heres a good one!

"Hey! I'm in the Math Club, the Science club, AND the Robot Club!"


yup . . .. . . they'll be all over you in a second! EXPECIALLY if you turn red and start sweating!

heee heeee heeeeee, go ahead, try it . . . . . . . . .. . . . ... . . . .

Of course, you could always use:

"Did you know that you can find an extremely close apporximation from pi by taking a regular n-gon with a really big n, like 10 to the 99th or something and then . . . . . . . . . . . . [insert thing to find a 'pi' value for any regular n gon (i know it exists, i deduced it last year)]"

yuppers, that'll get them for sure.

This is what my teacher.. dude... thingy told my team when the subject was brought up:

Party trivia aka pickup lines (he's a bio teacher):

Did you know that your body makes 2,400,000 red blood cells a second?


Now, I know I would absolutely MELT if a guy told me THAT! haha

Ok, that's why I still don't have a date. j/k

My biggest thing would be to make sure she knows your smart and stuff so it's not a big surprise when you say "Sorry, I can't, I only have 3 more days left" and she thinks your dieing.

Busy, but not too busy to be cynical, I'll always find time for that.

Dress like a slob, show up late, expect her to pay for everything, have your mom drive both of you to the movies, ask if she's really going to wear that when she's out with you, and leave her alone in front of the TV while you play computer games or read CD for an hour. I could go on, but I have to get back to work and earn my pay.

Seriously, be yourself - even if being yourself includes what I said above. There's no point in pretending to be someone else, he/she will either find out you're lying and eventually leave or you'll continue the act and be miserable. It's much more enjoyable when you can be yourself and know he/she will like you for it. And if a girl doesn't like you, don't be a psycho and call her 5 times a day or send her emails / letters saying that you two belong together and she should give you a chance. Just give up like a sane person would do.

Mike

However, if you know she does like you, but she is being stubborn, it might be good to not give up. Speaking from experience here.

guys learn from me, girls dont like when u talk about...er...yourselves...anyway, i got slapped for that, take it from me, keep ur mind clean...to a point!!!


Bad

Okay, I will have to speak from experience on that one. At homecoming this year, my date started talking like that. It was disgusting. I mean, I understand the whole hormone thing, but you guys gotta tone it down. Maybe if guys weren't so much like that they would get a date. I mean, you don't have to be appealing to yourself, but to the opposite sex, and if they think you have a gross attitude, then there's obviously something wrong there.

what if the female is the one with the dirty mind??

shhh...
we don't have dirty minds...

well we aren't as vocal about it as guys are

but if you don't like it...ask her to stop? and girls usually would

soo... u are the "amanda" who one of the kids on our team thought u were stalking, i met u in the arcade that night at nationals...anyway, you are right, but if the girls the one with the dirty mind then u are golden guys;)


bad

girls minds are cleaner than guys...we change them more often!:)

*sniff, sniff* ewwwww whats that smell, o yea its my brain frying, looks like i need to get a new pair of brain boxers now.

:p



Bad

Hey! I was not stalking him! He was stalking me! So :p ! Ha! Anyways, I don't think he really cared, man. He's still my buddy.

And personally I think that if it was the girl who had the dirty mind, then the guys wouldn't mind, because most of them have their minds in the gutter anyhow. I could be wrong, but for the most part, I don't think so

guys....just act like a complete fool. She thinks you're crazy anyway; let her know you are crazy about her.

girls.....don't make him act like a fool.

Does being crazy in general count? cuz i am not exactly "balanced".

White boy dancing? How... interesting... I think so. Of course, I am kind of a nut, so I think the weirdest things are interesting... And dancing is fun! So, no problem there!

Poking.... I know that as long as you are doing it in a "nice" way, I won't care, but people poke me really hard sometimes and I bruise... Not fun.

And random hugs are really happy. Or. at least in my book.

Randomness is the key to life :p well maybe not, but its fun to have those random moments sometimes, I keep them a daily part of my life, to make my self and others laugh :D

/me hugs her teddy bear randomly, looks away, and whistles

What i don't get is guys who ask you a question like "Do girls like it when guys talk about...."themselves"?" "Do girls like random hugs and pokes?" "Do girls like it when guys pay on dates?" and then the guy expects they can get an answer that will always help them no matter the situation. Um...sorry, no. Me, personally, i love random hugs, but i have pinned guys to the ground for randomly poking me. But, i mean, if you like poking girls randomly, i'm sure there is a pokable soulmate for you out there somewhere. It's not about what girls in general like, but what your specific girl likes, and if you take the time to find that out, she will appreciate it. Really.

Going back to the hugging/tickling/poking thing ... like Amy and Stacia said - it really depends on the girl! For me, I don't mind hugs but I hate it when most people poke or tickle me. I just generally don't like people touching me (especially my arms and back for some reason.) I've had guy friends get mad at me for yelling at them for touching me! Usually, it's nothing personal, just some people, both guys and girls, don't like being touched (for whatever reason.)
Exactly! I think that's true for both sexes too. If the other person doesn't want to talk about it, just let it be. Maybe they're still upset about whatever happened, don't know how to say it or just want to keep it to themselves. Just because you're together or really close friends doesn't mean you have to tell each other everything! Anyway, back to writing my history paper (:()

- Katie

o i guess i am guilty of all 3 of those we just mentioned, although i dont intend to be malicious about it :p. also, i do it as from a sweetness perspective, i wont go up randomly to Ammy, and "jump start" her, ill prolly get decked, but i dont do that, i usually go for a shoulder or the belly poke/nudge.

Yea, so im a sweet single male, uh... im me? lol


Bad

Random pokes are my signature. However, I have found that if a girl doesn't like it, she'll probably say something, and that's that. You have to know where and when to draw the line.
As for the radom hugs....nah. Hugs are good, but as far as I'm concerned, only with people you know well enough. My girlfriend is the recipient of daily, multiple random pokes, but she doesn't mind, because we know each other, as earlier posted *winks at purpledaisy*, extremely well. I finish alot of her sentences for her, too. ;-)

Hehe, my g/f and I do that too, it can be scary.

These are things that I think are most important:

1) Long Distance Relationships are HARD!!!! I KNOW
2) Don't do anything you don't want to.
3) Talking helps a lot.
4) Be yourself, NO MATTER WHAT!!!
5) Give hugs, and maybe kisses if you are close.
6) No means No
7) Be sure of your feelings.
8) Have fun

Katelyn

Yes, they are.



These all sorta go together, in order to make sure that No means No, you should talk about things before hand so that you don't end up doing things that you don't want to and regret it later. It's easier to decide before the moment, and then follow it up, than it is to decide at the moment when hormones are running high.

Yes, exactly. It is a lot better to talk about things to make sure both of you are on the same page with things, and so that there are no regrets. It is better to talk about it, than to find yourself in an uncomfortable situation.

Katelyn

::nods::

Yep.

- Katie

KT, you have it worse than I do.........I am sorry...

Katelyn

Nah, it's ok -- we deal with it :)

So whay about Holiday dating tips? Anyone have any interesting holiday dating stories?

- Katie

Well Jeremy and I can't be together for Christmas, but we will get to be together for New Years. He is going to pick me up on the Sunday after Christmas, and then on Monday we are going to go to the Dells. Then we are going to spend New Years together at his house. Then on the 1st he is going to drive me back to O-Town.

Katelyn

Yah, about being your self, that's important and all ... be careful...
'cause see, even though the person is ment to like YOU for YOU, doesn't mean they need to see all the... uh... details,
what i mean is, create some kind of buffer zone,
and be ready that the other person might not like you for who you are (harsh, yes, i know)
so be nice, not overly nice like you're playin' it, but -natural
just as nice as you would be to ... you grandmother - sweet,

yeah you want it to work, but, don't fake it,
and don't throw him/her into the deep end on the first date.
They might be one of those people that like to wade into the ocean, not be pushed out of a helicopter in the middle of it.

does anyone get what i mean?
be you self, but be careful so show good sides 1st
that usually warms a person up to another.
even if there is a chance for you and whomever (being that you don't know much about this other person - such as you would w/ a good friend) it would be pretty certain that they don't wanna spend the 1st date hearing 'bout you not-offical-obsession w/ ... something (i think it would be safe to say FIRST in the company).

just put your best foot forward ... just make sure it's yours

and guys, if you can, be funny - that gets most girls - be relaxed
and be careful not to offend her on the 1st date (like if she is just acting weird - don't shoot her down... she might be nervous too), if she doesn't like your jokes, stop - even if your not ment to be together, you don't want her thinking you're an imbecile - it might ruin your chance w/ any other girl in the vicinity of 20 miles


happy hunting

Exactly. You should be yourself, but only show your good side first. Meaning you should be sweet and be "on your best behavior" once you start getting to know eachother a little better that is when you share other sides of yourself.

Katelyn

Ok I guess my previous reply sounded kinda bad. What I meant was basically you "naturally" only act a certain way with someone when you first meet them, and that is usually the good side of you. It is only because you are probably kinda nervous, or whatever. But then after you get to know eachother better you start to show eachother other sides of yourself, and I think that is really when relationships are decided because then you can see what the person is really like and you can see if that is something you can live with.

Katelyn

Just thought I'd post some general relationship/dating links.

Warning: some of these things might include some four letter words (like "like", "word", and "four" [along with "friend" if you listen to Cake]), so don't yell at me for not warning you. Also, please keep in mind that I did not write any of these, and they are not necessarilly my views, or even those anyone I know, so if something pisses you off, complain to the writer, don't blame me.

• Ladder Theory
• What happens when you tell a girl you'll call and you don't
• You can't make someone love you
• I just want to be friends
• The Friend Zone
• I can't tell the girl I love that I love her
• You are smart, I would like to make love to you
• and for hilarity's sake, from The Simpsons... Fuzzy Bunny's Guide to You Know What

E2 is full of great stuff, and you don't even have to know where to look...

tips for both sexes
 

Just this new years, I was out on the west coast, and my g/f stayed up till 3 in the morning to countdown with me, after I had also counted down with her. Nice, huh?

I don't know about you guys, but i date to have fun!
No rules, no regulations, I mean....how can it be fun if you're constantly wondering if you're doing it all right? It won't matter in the long run, becuase most of us are just in high school or college and personally i'm not looking for my lifelong mate at this point in my life. relaxation and honesty are things that make dating fun because neither person is hiding anything and we can laugh at anything.

less rules = less uptight
less uptight = more fun
more fun = good!

lauren

... What's the point of dating if not to find your 'lifelong mate'? I mean, obviously if you're dating with someone who bores you to death, you should end the relationship - but isn't the point of dating to find the person you want to spend the rest of your life with? You should be relaxed and honest with anyone. Don't hide things from people, both of you will only end up getting hurt in the long run.

[/end_semi-rant]

- Katie

I say be yourself, and as a guy I stick to being a gentleman. But you know the FIRST code of ethics (look at the back of the FIRST-SME card) works too. Paying on dates, its should be whoever asked. (Equal rights)

Definitely.. I broke up with a guy that I had been dating for two years cause i could never see myself spending my life with him. We fought 75% of the time! It's important to not settle for someone jsut because they like you. Date people that make you happy.. that you enjoy spending time with.. That you can carry on a conversation with. Long-distance or not

Tips on dates... let's see here.

Date (n)-1 : the oblong edible fruit of a palm (Phoenix dactylifera)
2 : the tall palm with pinnate leaves that yields the date.

Or to put it simply "Big rasins that make you poop." Another thing that should be known about dates is -

::someone whispers to Eddie what the group is talking about::

Oh, why didn't you say so. My major tip is to take a chance with a girl, and don't be afraid if she doesn't like you. I've lost a few girls who I'm pretty sure (now, anyway) liked me because I never tried and eventually gave up.

But then again, what do I know? I have to rely on Carolyn for advice on things like this. As you can see, I'm not too great with the opposite sex. Eh, there's always college.

simply the truth...the girl I took to my school's homecoming and to the movies once (she's also on 179)...and no we aren't going out yet....I've asked once (the FIRST and only girl) and she said no. We're both rather busy with IB schoolwork and robotics of course so neither one of us has time to devote to a long distance relationship. Maintaining a friendship that's right on the edge of going out (in a way) is tough as it is. But I took that chance...and its been a very interesting two years (well, this March) that I've known her. Also, definately go places (not necessarily steady) like me with someone you share a few common things. Despite our grade level differences (I'm in 12th, she's in 11th...but only 7 months and 3 days older...had to do explaining to parents) its actually a pretty good relationship (we could never get angry at one another) and love to be together, talk, write....but most importantly...it better be being together someplace. Last, it helps if the person's parents likes you....its a bit easier to go do stuff together (even if its as lame as walking up and down the pit area at the Championship).

well what am i doing here, i don't know anything. mwa ha ha ha... like, talking does help, i just can't very easily, woot... i worry too much. boo hiss to that

lots of other stuff?


I think different people have different priorities in life.

Some might be out there trying to look for their lifelong partner...a lot more are probably out there just to have some fun :D I think both attitudes are fine..as long as no one gets hurt.

But then again, what do I know? :cool:

Katie, sometimes we date to also find what we would like to see in a potential mate, and to find out what truly irritates us and that we couldnt deal with in a potential mate. It really depends on your goal in general though. That doesnt mean that every guy we date we think we would want to spend the rest of our lives with. Often times we just arent ready to make any such decision at early stages in our lives.

Sometimes we date to have fun. Casual dating with people when you are careful is good practice for the future when you are seriously dating. Please everybody note Im talking about "dates" and not "going out". Those two terms have become way too mutually exclusive....and they really aren't. You go on a date with somebody, possibly multiple times, but that doesnt mean there is an obligation to be their boyfriend/girlfriend. Also sometimes you can find somebody that while you wouldn't work going out, you would work with the idea of being friends. I agree with a lot that has been suggested by people in this thread. But I think for everybody, these would be good things to keep in mind.

On a final note, every time we date, we discover a little more about ourselves. The person who might seem like the perfect mate in the beginning, will likely not be the 'perfect mate' by the time you are in your 30's or 40's. Then again if you change with each other....they might be. My advice would be find somebody who is your friend, and you enjoy talking to; who always seem to make you feel good about yourself. After the original flush of romance that comes for newleweds is vanished somewhat, you will still be with somebody who makes you laugh, and who makes you feel special. And in that, there is some of its own romance and romantic feeling.

as far as I see, there is a trend going on here

No one knows anything
and I don't mean that in a mean way,
just matter of factly
I keep seeing
i.e.
"what do I know?"
and such well, isn't that just the point?

You're not supposed to know,
love is a fools game
as is life
you fumble through it
grasping in the dark
hoping you do something right.

so everyone, just calm down, there are no rules or regulations
do what comes naturally,

it's life, it's not that serious

First off, what's the difference between a girl that's a friend and a girlfriend. When you mention girlfriend, everyone thinks "going out...dating" and with the perveted teenage mind a few think "the girl who has dibs on you". This is what I've said so here goes....

The girl I took to my school's homecoming and to the movies once (she's on 179)...and no we aren't dating yet....I've asked once (the FIRST -one-and only girl) and she said no. We're both rather busy with IB schoolwork and robotics of course so neither one of us has time to devote to a long distance relationship (well she's 45 minutes south of me by car and doesn't live in the smae county, muchless go to the same school). Maintaining a friendship that's right on the edge of going out (in a way) is tough as it is. But I took that chance...and its been a very interesting two years (well, this March) that I've known her. Despite our grade level differences (I'm in 12th, she's in 11th...but only 7 months and 3 days older...had to do explaining to friends - parents were okay as far as I know) its actually a pretty good relationship (we could never get angry at one another) and love to be together, talk, write....but most importantly...it better be being together someplace. She maybe a blonde but she's highly intelligent...its an interesting as there are many dumb blonde jokes out there. Maybe the jokes on me. All I know is that she's definately the most highly attractive, intelligent, funny, beautiful, sexy, most intriguing, and interesting person I know. Just cause you go with somebody and do things on different occasions doesn't mean you're dating. Our problem is, people say we should just go out, start dating, why becuase you've been seen together in public multiple times with a member of the opposite sex too many times. That's the problem....in our case we've walked around holding hands (in particular Nationals). We don't want to date/go out exculsively with one another....we fear losing our great friendship. A friendship is far more important at this time in our lives than having a girl/boyfriend. if that makes any sense.

No one can predict the future...in my case, I may end up with my girlfriend Pamela from 179 (the one I've been talking about). But this casual dating or even going out occasionally to the movies or something is a way to get to know someone (so's writing but that's another story). Stick to maintaining friendships you have and make others, casual dating (I guess me and Pam are in a way) with someone, go head and do it. Again, friendship is far more important at this time in our lives than having a girl/boyfriend. if that makes any sense.

I feel the same way. My very first relationship was 7 months long, and this current one with purpledaisy looks like it will be MUCH longer. Being a man of commitment, I don't understand how some people are willing to have a one night stand and not feel guilty as all hell the next day. Whatever floats your boat, I guess.

I date to find what i want in a guy. If I find that I can't see my myself spending the rest of my life with him, then i've made another friend and i can specify my standards.I take relationships a little more seriously then maybe i should, but i always remain friends with the guys I date so my system for works for me at least.

Well, I'm screwed now, thank you very much. Maybe she'll dump my sorry $@#$@#$@# now, or maybe just let it fade and be even worse. Dunno really what's going on, you could ask any robotics person from my team and they'd tell you something's messed. I love my life, don't I. woot!

What I meant by casually dating, I guess its bad phrasing and different interpretations is that okay Pamela (on 179) and I are friends. So I asked if she wanted to go to my school's homecoming, the movies.....that's casual dating. Its not a one night stand, its in better words hanging out but Pamela and I aren't friends and we sure aren't dating one another exculsively. She could go with another guy somewhere sure, I don't own her and if we were dating she wouldn't, even then as long as we don't break our promises to one another (stuff like stay in school. don't do drugs...) I'd be fine. She has her friends and I have mine. Its respect for the other, trust in the other, time and effort into a relationship, and mutual agreements on certain issues (at least know how the other one feels) that make things in a relationship, even just a friendship like mine, work. The sad part is two friends go out, break up, and never speak to one another again. Pamela and I don't want that to happen so for now we aren't going to date. We will go on "dates" but we aren't going out, um search for the right word,..... steady. Though we'll probably end up dating someone else due to age and grade differences...see my previous post in this thread but for now I guess in my case Pamelaand I aren't dating yet.

excuse the pointless post
 

I want to say so much about dating and love...

so. much. I could type for hours and hours

But I won't

Re: excuse the pointless post
 

Then why'd did you post?

Also commitment is a very good thing, I'm trying to think here. I find myself first, even JUST MAKING FRIENDS, I judge character, intelligence, beauty, humor, etc... unfortunately with girls that I find I kinda like somehow end up being (all the factors) compared to Pamela and well for some reason Pamela seems to be better. I guess its cause I've known her so long and I constantly evaluate my friends for who they are (helps keep them straight...this one does this, this one is going out with who, this one likes this......its endless)....I don't want to be associated with a jerk. Just see my earlier posts in this thread.

heh.... well, I was freaking out about stuff... It's all... good.. ish...
(*flinch*)

It is also very helpful if your parents and your girlfriends parents like you. That fact makes life easier when they approve. I'm not saying your parents should control your life but if they're the ones controlling the car keys (heck they won't let me drive the 45 minutes to see Pamela down in Palm Beach Gardens) and money (I have no job).

Pamela's parents like me. My parents like her. It helps when we want to get together. That makes life interesting all the while because sometimes its useful like allowing us to go to homecoming together (we don't even live in the same county, much less go to the same school). My parents said don't cross the line and hers....well they haven't said anything to me, a few words to her (what...is none of my business..although I have a few ideas of what). They trust a lot when we're us together. They're actually very respectful and as far as I know don't make many comments (a few occasionally).

In my opinion... All these relationship stuff is not normal human behavior...

Just be good friends first, before you start dating. If anything you still have a good friend.

So true,
you should just start going out w/ someone b/c you have a 'feeling' you to would be good together.
1st get to know them, maybe you'll find out you don't even have
a desire to be w/ them and you like the friendship soo much more.

I firmly agree...which is partly why Pamela (179) and I aren't dating/going out. If we do later on in life, I cannot predict the future. Besides just cause you think you'd be good together doesn;t necessarily create a good relationship. A friendship you can base one off of as their is a relationship as just friends. You've learned more about one another and well you may decide you want a friendship more than a dating relationship.

I've done some thinking.....

First off, what's the difference between a girl that's a friend and a girlfriend. When you mention girlfriend, everyone thinks "going out...dating" and with the perveted teenage mind a few think "the girl who has dibs on you".

Consider this friendship is far more important at this time in our lives than having a girl/boyfriend. If that makes any sense.

But I am guilty of this being a human being. I told my best friend after I knew her for a month. Pamela (she's on 179) and I have been friends since 2001 KSC Regionals but we aren't dating. The important thing is that she knows know I feel and letting the other person know is important. Since it was a month after, I knew her well enough to admit it...nervous as heck but managed to get it across. It took me a while to figure out what to say, I forgot what as I was nervous, so it basically went....

Me: "Pamela, there's something I got to tell you." (hesitates)
Pamela: "What is it Mike?"
Me: (I pause and hesitate) "Somewhere in the middle of all this, I fell in love with you Pam"
Pamela: "Awwe." (and a little stunned)

Ever since Pamela and I have been very good friends. The downside is she's on 179 and I'm on 180. We live about 45 minutes away from one another but have different schedules as we are on different teams and go to different schools but are in the same tough program...the world of IB. Not to mention the fact that we're in different grades (right now she's a junior and I'm a senior in high school but we're only seven months & three days apart). And, yes I have taken her out to the movies once and also to South Fork's Homecoming (to you S.P.A.M.mers from SFHS that was there, that is the girl I was slow dancing with and talking to the entire evening). Which brings me to a dating tip (actually a few) for the guys

a) be a gentleman
b) when slow dancing...definately put your arms around her waist and if she let's you that's a good sign
c) also with b let her rest her head against your shoulder (which is a better sign than b)
d) with b anc c as well, watch it, don't step on her feet and guide her around the dance floor