Girls: Whats the best way to pick you up?
 

Ok, we all know from that other thread what not to do.
So what should guys do if they want to succusfully get a number or dinner?

Wetzel

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Research saves time and prevents slapping.
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Re: Girls: Whats the best way to pick you up?
 

Ahaha, pure [Edit: genius] . . will anyone answer, though?

Jeff: quite simply be polite, be nice, be kind and be sweet. and DONT be inappropriate if you dont want to get slapped!

I thought you were dating some "robotics hottie" wetzel... anywho shouldn't you be worrying about your robot, not all the girls around anyway? maybe that's just me ... but if you do try and pick someone up, be friendly, but not serial killer friendly, don't try and touch the girl, don't pull the "can i take my picture with you" and if you make some dumb pick up line that involves the word robot then just tuck your tail and run, really 95% of cases you should just hit yourself and turn around before the girls boyfriend on the team walks up and pummels you, but hey maybe that's your style...

Hmmm picking up girls...i'm assuming at the FIRST Competition...lol....well...from my experience of being a cute girl at the competitions...hahahaha (well at least I think I am)...one year the hotel we stayed at...another team (one from arizona that will remain nameless :) ) , was staying the floor above us, and our rooms had like balconys, and as soon as we arrived, the boys tried to pick up me and my friend Melissa...lol...they were just being cute, and asking what team we were from and stuff..."Can we trade pins" type of deal....

So if your looking to pick up girls...maybe go up to them, and ask them if they want to trade pins, and make small talk...hey, i know it worked for those boys...lol! Just be yourself...girls like that....yep....good plan....

Hey what about... No never mind. Well maybee... No forget that too. Hey just forget I said anything. Because you know I really didnt say anything. :rolleyes:

Don't use trading pins to pick up girls!!!! its bad realll bad, my team will laugh at you b/c it happens so often to girls on my team it's funny now! Offer the girl food... always catches my attention.... actually if I didn't know you I'd find it weird... hmmm.... I guess the best way is to make a comment about something to strike up a conversation then stop by and talk agian randomly during the day then when you're about to hit the parks ask if the girl has gone on a ride, if she says no, say you have to try it, you want to go with me? or if she says yes, say, wasn't it really cool? you want to ride it agian? groups equal good for going around parks so bring some friends along and have her bring friends along so its not weird b/c you don't really knwo eachother!

Re: Girls: Whats the best way to pick you up?
 

Wetz...what happened to your last signature?? Your robotics hottie dump u? That y u looking for ways to pick up new girls?

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guys want my number? ask my brother :D

Um treat the girls with respect, that could help.
Also don't come up and be all touchy-feelie, that is the worst thing a guy could do...

drats! There goes plan A!
*throws rose onto ground, smashes it with foot*

Onto Plan B...
*runs around corner, sound of car door slamming, tires screech in the background*

I always try and act relaxed, and try to ease into the situation. Walk up to her, and act natural.

letting your hormones/emotions take control of your mouth/body isnt the way to go. I'm a guy (trust me;) ) So gals, correct me if Im wrong, but acting macho as well as too "touchie feelie" is definitly a negative. Coming straight outta nowhere, reciting love poetry may also be a little weird, but may that be a good thing, perhaps, if done properly (plz someone help me out w/ an answer here)

Try to become friends before anything else. That way, even if she does have a boyfriend, the relationship is'nt built on nothing, anf you still gain a friend in the end:D It's always nice to have friends, even if the romance does'nt come out the way you expected (darn, i just bought a golden retreiver and painted the whtie picket fence!)

just my 2 cents, correct me if im wrong though, (or say so if I'm right :cool:.

Of course, if its poetry you want...not a problem

--Ben Mitchell

Ok, guys. Speaking from what really annoys me...

What NOT to do:

:mad: Don't do everything for us, we probably aren't on FIRST if we can't carry the control board or cut a wire

:mad: Don't act macho, we don't care how "incredible" you think you are.

:mad: Don't stereotype us girls. Most of us robotics girls, aren't the typical flakes (not insulting flakes!)

What to DO:

:) Be polite.

:) Offer to help, but don't insist if we refuse.

:) If you know us well enough (not first time meeting), talk about something we both enjoy.

Hope this helps!:D

A question for the ladies out there: Guys holding doors open for you: Good, bad, or indifferent? Is me being chivalrous a waste of time, or a good thing?

--Ben Mitchell

I always thought of it as a sign of respect but then again I have friends who find it offensive and belittling...simple answer: it depends totally on the girl. It never hurts to be kind though, guy or girl, and holding open a door for somebody is just common courtesy in my opinion. Now pulling out the chair for the lady...ive heard more debate over THAT then the door. And no Ben...its not a waste of time.
If you treat the lady with respect...you are doing just fine.

I think it is a good thing, I alway find it sweet when I guy does that.

Good!

Its so cute when guys are polite and hold doors open, even if its for someone else, no matter who they are holding the door for its still a good thing!

I'm stubborned personally... if a guy tries to hold a door open for me, I make them go thru it... but that's just me being me, it's still nice they offered tho...
*hugz to all as alwayz*
Ann-Marie- team 783

hmm, let's see what I've learned from this thread. What's the best way to pick up a girl? It Depends! lol, girls can't make up their mind, who would've thought :D ok, that remark prolly won't help me pick any of you up. oh well, I'm just wondering if I'm the only one that's realized from the replies that it pretty much completely depends on the girl.

Stephen

exactly

Women....
:rollseyes:

Wetzel

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Ducks out the back

holding doors open: good
being polite :good
being cooperative: good
offering help: good

being pushy: bad
being rude: bad
being chauvanistic: bad

and, yes, it does depend on the girl... ;)

hope this helps y'all

Well, yes. Too often guys assume there must be SOMETHING they can do to understand girls, forgetting that every girl is different from the others. Is every guy the same? Of course not. Your best bet is to find the type of girl you want to attract. Then ask a girl similar to your type what she likes. :)

One thing I havent heard mentioned...compliments are always good. But think out what you compliment first and make sure you actually MEAN that compliment. Also a universal one....treat the girl like she is your equal in intellegence. This might seem like Im stating the obvious...but Ive had it happen OH too many times to count. Which means respect...which I believe I already stated at one point. While certain things can depend on the girl, others are universal. Just paying attention, and LISTENING to what she says are always good things.

When you try to understand girls as a whole...you are doing a disservice to yourself and to the ladies out there. No woman is the same as another. That means that we all have different likes and dislikes. We are not a species to be deciphered. Which means we all act differently. Just try to figure out what you would LIKE to see in a girl, and look for that trait. And from experience, try to look at the personality as much as the looks. It will save you grief in the long run.

Step one to getting a girl:

1) Think about your approach
2) Ask Mike Soukup for advise, he has THE BEST dating advise
3) Really listen to that advise and do what he says
4)Try and try again

and the final step:

5) Life is like one big "Champagne Room"; she can touch you all she wants, but don't even think about touching her...:eek:

Ummmm adam...

you forgot to mention where they can TALK to mikey about dating advice....

Oh, you can find him around...he's got that one ear that is...oh man...SO sexy!

Try tigerbolt if you really want some good advise, we're ALWAYS willing to give advise in tigerbolt!

THATS true.... Im referring to the second part about tigerbolt I mean. the ear....well...Im withholding judgement till I see it a second time in person.

DEFINITELY a good thing, HOWEVER, not as a way to pick girls up. Just make a habit of always treating girls with respect (whether you like them or not!!) so that when you meet *her*, she will know exactly what kind of guy you are.

Whew! I knew holding doors open was a good thing. Thanks.

(sign of relief) I would want that gesture to come across as kind and courteous, not as belittling or macho.

I thought that holding the door for the person for the person behind you was just common courtesy. It's always annoying when the person in front of you just lets it close :)

Exactly. I always hold the door open for anyone -- regardless of sex.

Hold on, I'm still writing notes...LOL

I've been polite and all that, but it certainly helps if not only do you become interested in them, you are an interesting person as well. I've failed that test...

In priority order:

1. Place one hand under each armpit, and lift straight up
2. Clean and jerk, and hold in a full press over your head
2-A. If you are trying to lift twins, dumbbell lunges are preferable
3. Grab with one arm around the waist, lift, and balance on your hip
4. Sling 'em across your back in a fireman's carry


(Dave ducks and runs for cover) Sorry, I couldn't resist - I have been waiting for three days for someone to say this! :D

-dave

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"It is much more comfortable to be mad and know it, than to be sane and have one's doubts."
- G. B. Burgin

LOL dave!

Dave - haha,

You know, there is one other thing to consider. Just because Jill, Pamela, and I say that we appreciate guys holding doors for us, not *all* girls will always like that. Think about what kind of girl you want. Does she seem like she would appreciate guys showing some consideration, or is she a very independent person who would be insulted by that? Just something to consider.

Also, Greg and Zan, there is a difference between what you are talking about and what Ben was asking. Obviously, if there is someone behind you as you walk through the door, it doesn't matter if you are a guy or a girl or if they are a guy or a girl, it is common courtesy to hold the door for them. But i think what Ben was talking about (least what i was talking about) is if you are walking together with a girl. It is simply a sign of respect for the guy to step ahead and open the door for the girl. I have some girlfriends who will stand and wait until the guy opens the door for them, and others who will purposely step ahead so the guy cannot open the door for them. It really depends on the girl. If a guy wants to open a door for me, i will let him, but i would never pause and wait for him to do it if he doesn't act like he otherwise would.

so I tried really really hard to think of something to write here about being picked up...

but the only thing I could think of was how I don't approve of you picking girls up.

hmph.

I'll see you tommorow.

I'm the girl that will stand outside the door and wait for the guy to come back and open it, someone has to train these boys after all. Its a fun experiment girls, next time you go out with any guys on your team, don't open any doors, just see what their reaction is, I think youll be suprised.

ashley

You said that right! I think door holding should be done by whoever reaches the door first. I work with a man who is, by far, the most polite creature I've ever known. Even if his arms are full, he will rush ahead and open a door for you. Always opens the car door (and closes it behind you). Would probably hop out and open the car door for you to get out of the car if he were quick enough. Always pre-apologizes if he thinks he's going to offend you, which he thinks he does, quite a lot. It gets annoying. And since I know it gets his goat (why I would want his goat, I don't know) I always try to get to doors to open them for him! I think good manners are wonderful, as long as they are not overdone.

And boys, you don't want to be macho and overbearing (well, some chicks dig that) but neither do you want to be a puppy dog. If you're a puppy dog, you are most likely going to get someone like me, who eats puppy dogs for breakfast!

MissInformation

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It is loneliness that makes the loudest noise. This is true of men as of dogs. -Eric Hoffer

Yes, that was what i was asking, sorry if there was any confusion (it goes without saying that you hold doors open for people whoever they are if both are going through the same door)

I agree Greg, except when your brother (or other sibbling) is taking forever to go out the door and then i slam the door in his face....:D

Well, there are always exceptions :D

What about a revolving door?? :confused: :D
Do you let the person go first then you go, do you go first and let them come behind, do you both go together ?!?!? AHHHHHHH!!!!!:eek:

Evil! Pure evil!

...But if you pick your dates well, then this shouldn't be a problem, now should it? =)

BTW, I do hold doors just out of courtesy for people - date or not...I think it's just one of those manners things that EVERYONE should pay attention too.

Ever notice how many rude people are around? Just go to a mall and everyone has an attitude or something...

The best answer is you go together, or you let the guy go first if its a manual and they start pushing it around. Its complecated though. You could ask your date you know.....

This sort of thing be graphed and calculated for all possibilities, where is the manual? Equation? :D How about a elevator door, do you push the button or give the honor over to the other person?

Not evil, I think. I think it would be...amusing(;)), perhaps...

At least then you'd know who the "nice guys" are:p ! (or maybe its just me, I'd probably be the one holding the door open... ;))

Oh, and how about this one, You hold the door open and people just keep coming some even running to the door so they wont have to open it, when is enough enough and you should close it??

Does it really matter that much? Most girls could care less about the elevator door.

you mean... girls don't get pleasure from pressing random buttons that then light up?

sometimes we do...
but we aren't going to think any less of a guy if he presses the elevator button before we do, at least that is what I think.

The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.


remember, its just a joke

:eek: :eek: :eek:

Whoa there! He in no manner represents me or my beliefs on this matter!

(just for the record, I don't want any thunderbolts coming my way;))

Hey, we're FIRST team members. Why think that we are normal?

Yeah there is a decent one in the crowd, *sarcastic*I would hope that most guys aren't like Perseus. hehe. :)

whoa there!!
 

give me a break. You guys need to relax. i was just searching the web and saw the quote. I thought it was kind of funny and since it was kinda related to this thrad i posted it for the enjoyment of others

it in "no way represents my manner or beliefs" THats why i said it was a joke: something not to be taken seriously....



if it did offend you, sorry, it wasnt intended to. So, yearbook, i apologize if you got mad at me for the joke

Re: whoa there!!
 

I wasn't mad at you. I thought I had put a laughing smilie after my post, but I guess I didn't. I hope most guys wouldn't think that, though some do.

I understand it was a joke, so I have my own weird sense of humor to respond to such jokes.

Easy there killers...I don't want to have to break-up any cat fights ;)

More seriously...Can a guy be friendly to a girl, without the girl just assuming hes going after her?

depends on what you mean by friendly and depends on how well the girl knows the guy. I have friends who I know very well who sometimes mock flirt with each other and nobody assumes they are going after each other. I think it depends.

Well at least in my case, I'm one of those unassuming girls, unless you're being a major flirt I will never pick up on the fact yoou want to be more the friends. So if you talk to me, friends i always what I'm thinkikgn of.... guess thats what happens when you hang out with a robotics team... and play boys soccer.... I'd even dare say, after seeing certain guys at their worst I wouldn't want them to be looking for anything but a friendship, but thats just cause all my close friends are mainly male.....

So to answer your question more directly, yeh, I'll think you want to be friends, but most girls I venture to say woudl think you're looking for more if you just randomly started talkign to a girl....

Yeah they can, if you mean by being friendly just talking and joking. As long as there isn't an brushing up against each other or trying to spend all your free time with her, usually, at least for my friends and me, girl wouldn't take it as flirting

Come talk to me!!!! i'll be your friend!!! Seriously, i am the sort of girl who never gets a clue that a guy is after her until he actually asks for her number. I would love it if more guys just wanted to be friends (i realize that is hard for some of you, but that's how you get my attention :D)

I guess the lines between friendship and flirting are somewhat hazy...I'd rather have friends, though, they last longer.:)

65 posts!

If this keeps up, Brandon will need to make a subforum:D

this thread is interesting though, as personalities begin to emerge from advice... some more than others, i think ;)

I can't wait to go to florida next year! I can feel the sunshine already:cool: I'm really bummed out that i cant go this year:( but it guess that's how it goes...sniff

--Ben Mitchell

Amybeth, Ill be your friend:) lol. meet me in the pits at Nationals!
my team is 151! I totally know where you are coming from, well from a guy's perspective though!


Badjokeguy(aka: Greg)

Personally I have a lot of friends that are girls and I wouldn't really want to be more than that with them...

I think some 'couples' work better as close friends rather than a true couple...But then on the other hand lots make really good couples.

I'm all for guy/girl non-dating relationships.

after reading this thread i have concluded that best way to pick up girls is by creating a topic in a forum asking girls what the best way to pick them up is...

i dont know about anybody else but ive seen more girls posting here than any other topic so i think its working

lol, you know what? you just might be on to something...

Haha that's great - about the whole 'can you be friendly to a girl without her thinking you're trying to hook up with her' deal: the answer is yes!! Though I do know a few girls, who, if a guy starts talking to them they will automatically assume he wants her ... but those are exceptions to the rule ;) I'm presonally all for talking to anyone and everyone. Lol, if you're bored - come say hi! I'll be in 93's pit area at nationals :)

- Katie

LOL, yay!!! i have a new friend!!! See ya in florida, greg!!!

Haha, I was thinking the same thing.

shhhhhhhhhhhhh...They'll catch on....lol ;)

Wait wait guys i got an idea why don't you let the girls pick u up :p . Not all of us are shy.

Hey I'm all for that!

I hate having to ask girls out...I always mange to make myself sound like an idiot...lol

No, unlike what you guys think, you don't sound like an idoit, unless you start the convo with "Do you like me?"

I don't do that...lol (*phew*)

I generally start with small talk....Hows ur day...that kinda stuff...Then eventually 'Do you want to do something sometime'...

That a 'yay' or a 'nay'?

Yeah, that is usually a good thing. At least in my opinion.

We'll that ok, and what is wrong with i like u. I have to respect a guy that has the guts to just tel u straight out without the bullcrap. but harrsion ur aproach i like standard. how bout everyone be creative. but as a girl if there is a guy i find appealing then why wait for him to mak a move.

What about the introduction of compliments or 'observations'.

Such as "Hey yearbook I noticed your picture has been viewd 670 times"....

Good idea, bad idea?

:confused:Really it has? Dang that is a lot.
I take that as a compliment actually, so it is a good idea, i guess.

lol, yea it has....You're only 590 ahead of me :P

Dang...

observations are really good. So is something witty. Like in the case of FIRST stuff u can't really ask them out but u can get an email a screen name. dont just ask for it think of something cleaver. did u noe when elvis met his wife she said i always wanted to meet a king but noe that ihave i'm kinda disappointed. so something she will remember is good

...Is it just me or does what she said to him sound like an insult?

And yearbook...If we sit on my pic and hit refresh for a while we could get me up to your levels...lol

We could do that, but that would be wrong, since you won't actually know how many people wanted to view your pick...

well he remembered didn't he, you know how many guys are at FIRST so stand out thatz all. harrisionif u stop b team 334 i wanna hear orginality

same goes if you stop by team 86

You and your logic, YB ;)

As for stopping by any teams pits that will have to wait till next year...My team won't be in florida due to lack of funding...But we'll doing the CR, GLR, and Florida next year...The joys of no longer being a rookie team.

BTW, I expect to see both of your teams at the Canadian Regional in toronto next year ;)

Don't count on that...we can only go to KSC next year I think.

Hmmm canadian regional, how many NYC teams were there. We like it in our city, the filth, the smoke, the tourist that ca't cross streets and stare at building b/ c they are big. But we well see u in FL

KSC?...Kenndy Space Centre?

And you're already so close to Epcot (at least compared to me)...So all u guys have to do is win the KSC one and ur all set...

Or, we could get Delphi to give both our teams money - they've got enough....lol...That would be funny, teams sponsoring each other...

and there were a few NY teams at the CR...There were 19 american teams here...Not sure exactly where all of them were from.

We'll try to win,

Team sponsering other teams? Isn't that the same as mentoring?

I guess it kinda does....But Mentoring usally doesn't involve ca$h grants...Sposorship does :D

BTW...Methinks it would be easier to chat in like AOL/ICQ or something...lol

44933505 on icq HarryRocks69 on aol.

Yeah it would be, my SN is Yearbook50, I don't have ICQ

Haahahahaha delphi giving anyone money, ho abut he teams that can afford it pay for allannces (under tables of course) word has it that some of that happened at the NYC regional

Alright...

Time to get to a more 'instant' messenging system...lol

Could this be perhaps the longest thread ever?

I would say it is definately up there...At least in this conference.