First Question: You would'nt be a jerk at all. I think that would be a kind and sweet thing to do. He does'nt have anyone else to go with, right?

Second Question: I can't answer that either, since I've never done that. Maybe, if they tell you via a friend, they are too embarressed or..cowardly(?) to tell yuo themselves. Thye may also be acting, maybe on your behalf, thinking that by having a friend tell you, it would hurt less. Or he could be a real jerk.

Those are the only reasons I can think of right now.

first: its mad cool that your going as just friends...im going to my junior prom with my best-friend (who is a girl), now granted we used to have feelings for each other we are still going as just friends...so its cool that u dont like him more than a friend...

second: this is a weird subject cuz it is SOME guys, i know i have never dumped somebody like that and i never would..its just gay to dump someone through a friend like that....hes obviously a coward...i cant stand when people do that...and girls do it all the time....its happened to me countless times so i know the feeling...i get over those things easy though because i realize there are many more girls out there...so yeah hes to ashamed to talk to you about it...and he shouldnt be...but go find urself a new guy.... :p

At least, if he's doing it via a friend, maybe he's trying to do it in a way that is'nt (at least in his mind) hurtul. Maybe he figures if someeon you know well tells you, they can comfort you more than he can.

If he's doing it out of meaness, i feel no pity. But if he's trying to be kind, in a shy, embarressed (kinda cowardly) way, i can at least give him some points for trying. Not many, though.

Personally, I think that it is GREAT that guys and girls can be friends...Good friends at that. I think there should be more inter-sex relationships where the people are just friends.

...As for breaking up thru other people...All I can say is that it is cowardly...No way to really explain it, but you all know.

i dont know my problem is that it wasnt a friend that i know well i mean i had just meet the kid the at the begining of the year because he was going out with one of my friends..but that is another thing entirely....ummm......yeah he asked me so i could only assume that he doesn't have any one else to go with....thank you all for your advice:cool:

I think I speak for all of us when I say: "No problem, we were glad to help!"

And thanks to everyone, too, for answering my silly questions on the "other thread":D

We are a helpful bunch :)

i gotta problem here!

Okay......ummmm how do I start.......
Im a BIG flirt and i can't help it so i flirt alot right....

Ok wll there's these twins...Ben and Kyle and well i guess i kinda like em both.....i didnt think both of them would like me becauseim ugly and all right?
wellit turns out that someone told me they both like me and they both flirt with me in front of each other nad i flirt abck with both of them and it seems as though they try to compete to see who gets the most flirting from em or wahtever its hard to explain.....and nw that i knowthey both like me i dont want to go out with either one because they fact that they are both y relaly good friends and that they are twins and id see em alot together if i ever went out with either one of them.....i told one of their friends this and now he claims that hes liked me the whole time and since i dont wann go out with either of the twins that i should go out with him but then i think that would cause a problem between thier firenship ya know?
and im just all confused cuz its confusing on what to do because i dont wanna hurt any of them or ruin any of the friendships that are there ya know?
someone please help me and tell me what i should doooo!
thanks!


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nikki
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Hmmm...

Try just flirting a bit, and tabling the issue for now, just slowly drop the subject. Also, if neither of the twins asked you, well, that solves that. As for the friend...I'd quietly drop him too, without hurting his feelings or anything, Just act unavailible, and ease down on anything that would make him thing you were very interested.

Any chance you could find a fourth person to go out with? That would kinda solve things, for a little while, at least. Hmmm...this is quite a situation.

Otherwise, I think you are right in your decision not to damage their friendships. That was a very respondsible thing to do.

Good luck, and btw, when do you leave for BASIC?

hmmm, well ill get the sillyness outa the way...

They're twins...ask them both ;)

Alrhight, seriously...

I guess first of all you would have to decide which one you like more...Since they're twins im guessing they look the same, but they prolly act a bit differently from each other...

After you would know which one, I guess you would probably want to gradually see him seperate from his bro...Invite him over after school, but not his bro, that sorta thing...

Then you'd prolly want to ask him out...But somehow I would try to make sure the bro ur NOT asking out knows whats going on...Make sure he doesnt feel completely left out...Still be friends, etc..

I think about the bro's not getting along, I figure they are probably mature enough to be able to hand one of them having a g/f, and the other one not.

Dealing with the brother's thing is hard, and I know this is my first post here, but I can be good at this when I try, so give me a chance. I've had friends in that situation.

You have to realize that brothers, especially twins, share a deep bond, even if they don't act it. I hate to say it, but there is no way to go about this without hurting one of their feelings, especially if they both like you. As for my advice, you should try to figure out which one you like more, and be honest with the both of them.

Now, as for the original question, girls, you have to be perfectly honest with us. I've had girls run me in circles, and the effects are still lingering. Just come up to us and be yourselves. Most girls are charming enough in their own right that they won't need pickup lines and so forth. I try to do the same when I talk to women.

Hope that's somewhat helpful.

thansk guys=)
the thing is about the twins is they dont look alike i never knew they were twins till one day in rotc when we had our uniforms on and i saw they had the last name then they explained to me they were twins=)
hehe i guess im slow=)
oh well im gonan take it easy around them for a while and see what happens
thanks again

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nikki
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hmm ... I might have some expertice in this area since I'm a twin :) Seriosly, like picking up girls, i guess it just depends. personally, i might feel a little bummed out my brother got the girl and not me, but that's not going to get in the way of our relationship. we may be petty about it for the short term (we are brothers afterall :)), but we'll forget after a while.

Stephen

Dont put snow down the back of our shirts when we are carring cans

Since..
 

Since MattK decided to resseruct this thread after just over 7 months, I'll post my thoughts.

I've read through the comments and those plus my own conclusions..

Why does there have to be an asking? Just let it happen. If something doesn't come from it there isn't disappointment in close friends. If you let yourself get close but not attached until you both decide 'why not' then that's the best.

Final Answer: Let it be, it'll come around if it should