k, what I'm saying is.. I'm a HUGE flirt, like, I wear a chain that my best friend gave me with it written on it, it's my nick name, etc.... Well, anywayz, there was this whole thing with this one guy, and I majorly flirted around with him at his house one nite... I was so obvious about it, etc.. and then I mean, I kinda left it to him to make the next move I mean, how obvious do i have to be b4 a guy finally does something. I personally figure that after a while, I leave it in their hands, it's not fair that I have to do all the hard stuff, ya know?
Meh.. I dont know if I got my point across.....
*hugz to all as alwayz*
Ann-Marie -team 783

Usually when something like that happens, AnnMarie, I'll just randomly put my head on his shoulder claiming *I'm tired*...they usually get the hint then....

i don't know, ann. for me, it's like 'maybe she wasn't flirting, maybe she was being nice.' i mean, us guys (or me at least) are taking a risk in going for it, it's not easy. that said, though, i'm at the point where i'm gonna go for it. if a girl starts flirting with me, i'm gonna ask her on a date or something, and if i was wrong, oh well. but then, that's just cause i've never had a girl yet, and i'm tired of being shy.

Stephen

Aww Steve..... if we've changed one guy that's awesome.....
Melissa, as for the head on shoulder thing... hunn, we were on the couch, I was lying, with my head on his chest, we were kinda entangled.. how much more obvious do i have to get???ahhh! guys are so dumb sometimes!
*hugz to all as alwayz*
Ann-Marie -team 783

Ann-Marie - when that happens i would just kiss the guy, maybe he was just scared,and might not have ever kissed a girl before...

He'd kissed a chick b4.. I know his ex... but, i mean.. I'm really shy about that stuff... my first kiss(this past summer... *sigh*) I was going out with the guy for a month b4 we finally kissed... he knew about the whole thing and said, when you're rdy.... but I think he finally got fed up!
*hugz to all as alwayz*
Ann-Marie -team 783

well to be honest..my first kiss was with my first boyfriend...i had to wait about 2 and a half months before he would kiss me...

It's odd but it seems that relationships almost last longer with the anticipation of a kiss.... but I could be wrong...
*hugz to all as alwayz*
Ann-Marie -team 783

look again: you must have seen something wrong:rolleyes:

(I love that edit feature:D )

Yes I know this is a tangent....

I like the edit feature too...

Wow, talk about bored, I just read all 8 pages of this subject.

ANYWAY!!!

I would say something girls often don't do is go up to guys.

I know! I know! it's traditional for guys to do it but in our society today we are becoming more and more contemporary.

But yeah, I can't always just walk up and be like..."HEEY" to a girl, it just doesn't work like that for me. And then if you like your friend...that's a whole other discussion....

So yeah, I get stuck often!

I'll go up to the guy.. I'll start the conversation... I often do... but when it comes down to it, that's my part, then i flirt and wait.... and most of the time hope, that the guy can take a hint!! *sigh*
*hugz to all as alwayz*
Ann-Marie -team 783

Yeah, I might do that with guys I don't know well...

That's nice to hear...

Too often...they will just stare...and look from a distance.

The only problem with staring? You always are like, is it me? Especially if there's other people around. Oh well...Maybe it's just me...

Those happen to be the girls with no guts or the girls that think the guy should chase them...bleh

Bleh to them all!

meh.. i do my part.. what bothers me, is when the guy will flirt around too.. but then do nothing about it.. so we're stuck flirting around for weeks(months now i think) and I'm waiting for them to do something.. and eventually I either loose interest cause I'm so fed up, or just flirt when I see em but give up actively working on it until they do something!! ugh.. guys....
*hugz to all as alwayz*
Ann-Marie -team 783

In a way we all feel

Can't live with 'em can't live without 'em

Would anyone say that's somewhat true?

OMG I hate it when guys do that...they shouldn't respond to heavy flirting with heavy flirting if they aren't interested....

I'm not gonna say 'cant live with em' I'm just saying they drive me crazy.. but I luv em all the same... I just wish they werent so dense sometimes!
*hugz to all as alwayz*
Ann-Marie -team 783

yes that is true sometimes...depends

Dense... I haven't heard that word used to describe us yet.

Guess that's just one more thing I've learned

Oh well Mwahahah

Come on... guys cant take hints, etc,etc. we all know it's true, when girls are concerned, guys are dense! Anywayz, I luv you guys all the same.
*hugz to all as alwayz*
Ann-Marie -team 783

Ok....I go see a movie (a crappy one at that) and look at how much reading I have to do...

Ann-Marie...You flirt so much it's frightening...But also because of this no one knows how you ACTUALLY FEEL. If you flirt with everyone, then it becomes nothing special....and while I'm here is there something goin on between you and Mike? :rolleyes:

Also, when it comes to guys taking hints...Always remember this: If it is subtle, we simple cannot see it (or we are too scared to act on it). If you like us, then just flat out say it.

The whole kissing thing: When you kiss a guy (regardless of how dumb he is) he gets that you like him. Then how he reacts to that knowledge is anyones guess.

Also, just for the record, the difference between 'flirting' and 'friendly' is non-existance. When you're saying it you might think that you act differently or something....But unless the guy has known you for years, the average person will have no idea what your intentions are (I think this goes both ways for both sexes).

I have to agree with ya A-M, guys can be so dense...yet they won't admit that they are....

You tell'em Harrison!

dense...there it is again.

We can't see the obvious...it's the truth

Yes, I am a huge flirt.. I admit... but I flirt even more with the guys I like.... if you knew that i liked someone and saw me flirt with them as opposed to someone else, there is a dif. trust me, my friends have proven this...
Next, there is NOTHING going on between Mike and I, we're friends, like really good friends but not anything more. If you think that whole thing b4 was about Mike it SO was not.. it was about someone else, who you may know.. i dont know, but it doesnt matter....
*sigh*
*hugz to all as alwayz*
Ann-Marie -team 783

It's not a matter of being dense, its just a matter of girls being WAY more subtle than they actually think they are.

You say something that you think is a big flirt, but in reality its not.

Reversely, you say something that isn't meant to be flirty, but we take it as tho it is a flirt.

LaLaLa
 

Im really bored I dunno what to say but let me babble

I think I might have already said this on this board but.......Im the type of girl wh ogoes after what I want.....I mean if there's a guy im interested I'll flirt with him and let him know how I feel....Im to go getter type of girl......


But I have soem serious questions..........

Why do guys flirt back with a girl and lead her on and all then they like just forget about her and ignore her? WHAT IS THEIR PROBLEM!?



Guys say they can't understtand girls but ahlf of hte timewe cant udnerstand you guys either......I mean you say one thing but you mean something totally diffrent and then when you finally get your point across you end up hurting the girl.......why do you do this?


Ok I think 2 questions is good enuff ffor now I don't wanna starin you littlebrains TOO hard=)
HeHe JK guys!

Love ya
Nikki

GO SPAM!!!!!!!!!

Well....

To your questions SPAMcutie

I think that sometimes we guys like to just flirt whether or not we want the girl. I know I'm probably guilty of it cause I know I flirt a little more than I should. Most conversations I have with other girls are flirty, even though I don't always have any intentions pursueing it.

And as for the other one...I don't really know why we say one thing and do another...that's part of the guy stereotype..hehe

AHHH, The pressure!

First off, why do guys lead girls on:

In all honesty, some guy's are asses, no two ways about that. Most times tho, I think it is an innocent mistake - the guy takes a flirt as friendly, and returns with (what he thinks is) friendly...The girl takes it as a flirt....People get hurt.

...and I think that might of answered both your questions?

yea thanks o boh of you
you guys bot helped....kinda=)

this thred has been going on for years now! OMG! wel ln really year but you get my point!
LoL!
oH well osme of hte stuff is pretty funny......

HeHe


Ive learned alot from you guys
THANKS!

and to the kid from team 144
you shouldnt have any problems with girls....your WHOLE team is HOT!!! the girls should just come naturallly to you!!! HeHe!


I gotta go

Love ya al

Nikki

GO SPAM!!!!!!!!!

What about the people on teams that aren't hot teams? lol

Is inter-team dating allowed?

Flirting is like a sport... depending on how good you are at it affects if you're going to score... but.. on the other hand.. if you just mess around and play with the puck.. then its all fun and no seriousness... but its all just one big game...

I dun see a problem with interteam dating... plus you can gather intelligence while gettin ur fun...

Yeah, harrison just nailed it...

I'm shocked you would consider ME dense: I actually consider myself very sensitive to the feelings of others, the the point that I hold doors open for ladies, offer to carry stuff if their arms are full, and not curse in their presence.(well, i do that anyway)

So some guys may be dense, but not me:D (just wanted to get that message out there:D ;)

As for flirting and counter flirting (?)(you know what I mean)
basically what harrison said, some things are quite subtle, and may not be construed as flirting. Esp. if you know the person, or kinda joke around a lot by nature.

Like my avatar? An oak tree design in a stained glass window: both powerful and peaceful. As for a photo, I have yet to get a picture of myself that does'nt look like a screenshot from Shrek (j/k, i don't look like that:eek: )

"Flirting is just like a sport" is a line from a song I do beleive...

Mambo Number 5 by Lou Bega.

IDEA!!!
 

ok heres a idea.....we should all meet in a chatroom one night so we can see what kinda convo we have........hehe i think it would be pretty fun and pretty darn fnny lol!

tell me wha you think


Love ya
Nikki

SO SPAM!!!!!

good call... ugh.. mambo #5... like stabbing a needle in ur eye

Whats all ur AIM Screen names.. i'll start an AIM chatroom... mines SNOMANX

HarryRocks69

A picture is worth a thousand words...
 

Back to the original topic...

HAHAHAHAHAHAH.. omg.. thats awesome...

Scary...and VERY TRUE!!!!

see below

Isn't that pretty much the definition?

Wow.....

I'll make sure i let the team know what you said SPAMcutie

Your the first I've heard say that! Oh well, Compliments are always appreaciated here.

:D

What about girls who do the same thing to guys?

This has happened to me in the past, and now i'm understandibly gunshy about flirting.

As for the photo - guys are just a complicated too....
My AIM sn - Yearbook50

Ben - yeah, the avi's good...just find a good photo of yourself though....*then again..look at Harrison's photo*

I think inter-team dating should be allowed.

These are the girls that are *witches* don't let them discourage you from flirting, not all girls are like that...

*witches* ummm... please don't use that as the substitute... it's kinda... meh... you know what I mean...*sigh*
Anywayz, Ben I like your avatar... what do you think of mine? I think we both need to dig up a pic... hmmmm do I even have any decent ones... probably not..
*hugz to all as alwayz*
Am -team 783

That photo isn't completely true. Guys are as complex as us, sometimes more!

BTW, my AIM is Jillibean515

Every photo, every one, that i have of myself, I'm either asleep, or my head is behind someone else's, or i look like a top-notch dracula impersonator...

If i can get a good picture, Ill post it. Underwise, you'll need to use your imagination:D (don't get tooo carried away, now;) )

Whats everyones favorite love song?

lol...Isn't my picture so beatiful tho? I took it of myself... :D

Maybe I should get a better one?

as for fav love song...there are lots that are good...Altho I can't think of any right now...lol

Harrsion your pic isnt bad at all!
When i frst saw it i thoug wow! Canadaians aer HOTT! lol=) hehe

Id put my pic on thee but i dont knw how!
can anyonehelp me?!
wait maybe i shouldnt because then everyone would be scare of me...oh well
somone help please=)

My favorite love song is ummmm its ot all that lovey but i like You got it bad by usher

go to upload under site navigation, and upload your picture to the 'who am i' gallery. the rest happens automatically. but since we're on the topic of pics, now, what do ya'll think about my pic? it's kinda old (it's from last year's philly regional), but it's my favorite robotics picture :) (i wonder why :rolleyes: ) if i put another one up, i wanna get a good one with me next to the robot or something geeky like that :)

Stephen

Thanks
 

Thanks a bunch i knew how to put a pic in hte who am i ive already had liek three in there
i an know how to get it so its in the lil side thingie when i post on here
and about yur pic....yur a cutie but you look really young......how old r u?

oh, i was under the impression that if your pic is in the who am i gallery, it's on the side when you post. you can also put an avatar on the side (go to your profile to change that), but that's gotta be such a small file size, that if you want a pic of yourself it's prolly better to put it in the who am i gallery. now, i thought all i did was upload my pic and it started appearing to the side, maybe someone else can help?
oh, and yeah, i am kinda young i guess, specially since everyone else on my team is a junior or senior, and last year i was a freshman. now i'm 16, though, a little older i guess, but i'm still prolly young, oh well

Stephen

Favorite Love Song - that's a easy one 'Next 100 years' by Bon Jovi

Harrison - Of course it is beautiful...

Nikki - I was only actually joking about Harrison's pic...I thought he was cute too when i first saw it...

When you first saw it? As opposed to what you think of it now? ;)

btw, Dave Matthews Band - Crash

By now, I've seen some better ones of him...so I like the other ones better...

oh, you guys are into THAT sorta thing

No, we're not...just friends...

Harrison
 

Well I never said my opion changed I still think your a cutie.....I wanna see better pics!!!
I posted another pic on here it suckstho...liek all of my pis...oh welltho!!
lol


Love ya
Nikki
GO SPAM!!!!!!!!!!!1

Yes...Of course :rolleyes:

and thank u melissa and spam :D

uh huh... I'm still not buying it guys.
*hugz to all as alwayz*
Ann-Marie -team 783

Bleh
 

Why doesn't anyone believe about Harrison and I just being friends...

I know you two are friends. I believe you.

Yeah! *hugs Ben* Finally someone...

Props to you ben!

I believe you guys are friends.....yo just flirt alot hehe=)
its all good though=)




love ya
Nikki


GO SPAM!!!!!!!!!!!

Aren't we just being friendly tho??

This proves the point no one actually knows what friendly and flirty is...lol

I thought we were just being friendly...
but sometimes we do jokingly flirt..but its nothing...

Thanks nikki..so now it is just a-m and quian that think that...

Ann-Marie is stubborn as a....well lets just say she's stubborn...

and I don't know if Dave will buy it or not....lol

quain....a.ka. dave....is just jealous that no 1 is flirting with him :D

I think i like this theory.

I dont know maybe I am just a big tease but i always like put my head on my guy friends shoulders and like fall asleep and neways even when I do like them and they dont really know me well enough to know that I do that all the time they dont seem to get the picture.... ;)
neways I have two questions for you guys ok say my guy friend asked me to his senior prom would i look like a big jerk if i said yes but i didnt really like him as more than a friend???? I mean he is great as a friend but i dont think he would be someone i would ever date...and besides right now i am not really ready to date again my ex kinda dumped me in a way that kinda upset me....
so my second question is why do SOME guys dump girls in not so desirable ways like through one of the girls friends or something and yes I do realize that girls sometimes do that to but i couldnt explain that either thanks :) sory for rambling on like that when i talk i tend to do that

First Question: You would'nt be a jerk at all. I think that would be a kind and sweet thing to do. He does'nt have anyone else to go with, right?

Second Question: I can't answer that either, since I've never done that. Maybe, if they tell you via a friend, they are too embarressed or..cowardly(?) to tell yuo themselves. Thye may also be acting, maybe on your behalf, thinking that by having a friend tell you, it would hurt less. Or he could be a real jerk.

Those are the only reasons I can think of right now.

first: its mad cool that your going as just friends...im going to my junior prom with my best-friend (who is a girl), now granted we used to have feelings for each other we are still going as just friends...so its cool that u dont like him more than a friend...

second: this is a weird subject cuz it is SOME guys, i know i have never dumped somebody like that and i never would..its just gay to dump someone through a friend like that....hes obviously a coward...i cant stand when people do that...and girls do it all the time....its happened to me countless times so i know the feeling...i get over those things easy though because i realize there are many more girls out there...so yeah hes to ashamed to talk to you about it...and he shouldnt be...but go find urself a new guy.... :p

At least, if he's doing it via a friend, maybe he's trying to do it in a way that is'nt (at least in his mind) hurtul. Maybe he figures if someeon you know well tells you, they can comfort you more than he can.

If he's doing it out of meaness, i feel no pity. But if he's trying to be kind, in a shy, embarressed (kinda cowardly) way, i can at least give him some points for trying. Not many, though.

Personally, I think that it is GREAT that guys and girls can be friends...Good friends at that. I think there should be more inter-sex relationships where the people are just friends.

...As for breaking up thru other people...All I can say is that it is cowardly...No way to really explain it, but you all know.

i dont know my problem is that it wasnt a friend that i know well i mean i had just meet the kid the at the begining of the year because he was going out with one of my friends..but that is another thing entirely....ummm......yeah he asked me so i could only assume that he doesn't have any one else to go with....thank you all for your advice:cool:

I think I speak for all of us when I say: "No problem, we were glad to help!"

And thanks to everyone, too, for answering my silly questions on the "other thread":D

We are a helpful bunch :)

i gotta problem here!

Okay......ummmm how do I start.......
Im a BIG flirt and i can't help it so i flirt alot right....

Ok wll there's these twins...Ben and Kyle and well i guess i kinda like em both.....i didnt think both of them would like me becauseim ugly and all right?
wellit turns out that someone told me they both like me and they both flirt with me in front of each other nad i flirt abck with both of them and it seems as though they try to compete to see who gets the most flirting from em or wahtever its hard to explain.....and nw that i knowthey both like me i dont want to go out with either one because they fact that they are both y relaly good friends and that they are twins and id see em alot together if i ever went out with either one of them.....i told one of their friends this and now he claims that hes liked me the whole time and since i dont wann go out with either of the twins that i should go out with him but then i think that would cause a problem between thier firenship ya know?
and im just all confused cuz its confusing on what to do because i dont wanna hurt any of them or ruin any of the friendships that are there ya know?
someone please help me and tell me what i should doooo!
thanks!


love
nikki
g spam

Hmmm...

Try just flirting a bit, and tabling the issue for now, just slowly drop the subject. Also, if neither of the twins asked you, well, that solves that. As for the friend...I'd quietly drop him too, without hurting his feelings or anything, Just act unavailible, and ease down on anything that would make him thing you were very interested.

Any chance you could find a fourth person to go out with? That would kinda solve things, for a little while, at least. Hmmm...this is quite a situation.

Otherwise, I think you are right in your decision not to damage their friendships. That was a very respondsible thing to do.

Good luck, and btw, when do you leave for BASIC?

hmmm, well ill get the sillyness outa the way...

They're twins...ask them both ;)

Alrhight, seriously...

I guess first of all you would have to decide which one you like more...Since they're twins im guessing they look the same, but they prolly act a bit differently from each other...

After you would know which one, I guess you would probably want to gradually see him seperate from his bro...Invite him over after school, but not his bro, that sorta thing...

Then you'd prolly want to ask him out...But somehow I would try to make sure the bro ur NOT asking out knows whats going on...Make sure he doesnt feel completely left out...Still be friends, etc..

I think about the bro's not getting along, I figure they are probably mature enough to be able to hand one of them having a g/f, and the other one not.

Dealing with the brother's thing is hard, and I know this is my first post here, but I can be good at this when I try, so give me a chance. I've had friends in that situation.

You have to realize that brothers, especially twins, share a deep bond, even if they don't act it. I hate to say it, but there is no way to go about this without hurting one of their feelings, especially if they both like you. As for my advice, you should try to figure out which one you like more, and be honest with the both of them.

Now, as for the original question, girls, you have to be perfectly honest with us. I've had girls run me in circles, and the effects are still lingering. Just come up to us and be yourselves. Most girls are charming enough in their own right that they won't need pickup lines and so forth. I try to do the same when I talk to women.

Hope that's somewhat helpful.

thansk guys=)
the thing is about the twins is they dont look alike i never knew they were twins till one day in rotc when we had our uniforms on and i saw they had the last name then they explained to me they were twins=)
hehe i guess im slow=)
oh well im gonan take it easy around them for a while and see what happens
thanks again

love
nikki
go spam

hmm ... I might have some expertice in this area since I'm a twin :) Seriosly, like picking up girls, i guess it just depends. personally, i might feel a little bummed out my brother got the girl and not me, but that's not going to get in the way of our relationship. we may be petty about it for the short term (we are brothers afterall :)), but we'll forget after a while.

Stephen

Dont put snow down the back of our shirts when we are carring cans

Since..
 

Since MattK decided to resseruct this thread after just over 7 months, I'll post my thoughts.

I've read through the comments and those plus my own conclusions..

Why does there have to be an asking? Just let it happen. If something doesn't come from it there isn't disappointment in close friends. If you let yourself get close but not attached until you both decide 'why not' then that's the best.

Final Answer: Let it be, it'll come around if it should

Be yourself...

and don't say stuff about elephants...*cough*ian*cough*

Don't put cans down our backs when we're carrying snow...

I don't think that one should just let everything happen to themself, but being overly forceful with attraction is definetly not a good thing. If you're interested, express it, but know your, and the other person's, boundaries.

In my experience, having a lot of very good friends is more valuable than having a volatile relationship with a single person. But I can't say I have the best track record...

Re: Since..
 

Sorry bout that, I just saw a link in another thread.... and one thing led to another

Be nice to us, show off your smile. and make conversation. Then most likely you've got us. Otherwise... you are toast.

smiling...that seems to work a lot :D

i've learned that guys don't take hints....hinting doesn't work...they just don't get it, or they pretend not to get it (really annoying!)

anyways, going up and talking to the guy that's been eying you because he's too shy to talk to you*cough*cough* has been working pretty well for me! :)