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I think it's a good practice to make the team's expectations for members and code of conduct clear to everyone starting from the beginning of each season. If everyone is aware of these policies and they are enforced fairly and consistently, it should help to eliminate any gray area in making decisions about and disciplining students who act inappropriately and/or aren't putting in their fair share of work. For example, my team has a student handbook which is passed out at the beginning of each year - it includes information about the team structure, how the team runs and how the seasons work, but it also discusses the code of conduct and team member expectations. Students have to sign off that they have read the handbook and agree to abide by the rules in order to be considered members of the team. An example of expectations is that students must have a certain attendance rate in order to attend travel competitions. It's hard to be subjective when the rules have been explained to everyone at the beginning of the season. I'd suggest that your team think about setting up some sort of policies like these about behavior and expectations that everyone is informed of - it should help to eliminate future problems.

A mentor handbook is also a good idea - it will help to remind everyone of appropriate behavior and expectations for these adult role models on your team. For now, you should take the mentor aside and have a private conversation about your concerns. They might not have even realized that they were making people uncomfortable, which, while it doesn't excuse their behavior, will make them aware of the problem and help them begin to resolve it. Issues with both student and mentor conduct shouldn't be handled in a finger-pointing, name-calling manner - general discussions about expectations for the team and private conversations with people who are causing issues should be much more effective in solving them.