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Originally Posted by Jon Stratis
All too often, I've seen mentors take something out of a students hand in order to do the job, which sends the exact oposite message.
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Bingo. Number one way to disrespect a student. Or really anyone. Thanks Jon.
Beyond that, I think there are two different styles here. Thanks for helping me understand the other one. I suspect it's because I'm younger (and clueless), but I find that just trying to "give them the tools to succeed" is what makes me come across as a know-it-all. Because the truth is, I don't know all of those tools. In fact, at least in mechanical (with some great design mentors but no actual professional mechanical designers), there are times where
none of us knows.
In those situations, I find students respond better to efforts to gain their respect by working with them through problems, with the understanding that I don't know either. I think I tend to lean more on helping them with how
we can approach problems we don't know how to solve--versus a more knowledgeable how to deal with ones just
they don't know how to solve. Certainly a matter of degrees, but I'd venture that the approach to respect varies somewhat dependently.