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Originally posted by A. Snodgrass
Sometimes we date to have fun. Casual dating with people when you are careful is good practice for the future when you are seriously dating. Please everybody note Im talking about "dates" and not "going out". Those two terms have become way too mutually exclusive....and they really aren't. You go on a date with somebody, possibly multiple times, but that doesnt mean there is an obligation to be their boyfriend/girlfriend. Also sometimes you can find somebody that while you wouldn't work going out, you would work with the idea of being friends. I agree with a lot that has been suggested by people in this thread. But I think for everybody, these would be good things to keep in mind.
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First off, what's the difference between a girl that's a friend and a girlfriend. When you mention girlfriend, everyone thinks "going out...dating" and with the perveted teenage mind a few think "the girl who has dibs on you". This is what I've said so here goes....
The girl I took to my school's homecoming and to the movies once (she's on 179)...and no we aren't dating yet....I've asked once (the FIRST -one-and only girl) and she said no. We're both rather busy with IB schoolwork and robotics of course so neither one of us has time to devote to a long distance relationship (well she's 45 minutes south of me by car and doesn't live in the smae county, muchless go to the same school). Maintaining a friendship that's right on the edge of going out (in a way) is tough as it is. But I took that chance...and its been a very interesting two years (well, this March) that I've known her. Despite our grade level differences (I'm in 12th, she's in 11th...but only 7 months and 3 days older...had to do explaining to friends - parents were okay as far as I know) its actually a pretty good relationship (we could never get angry at one another) and love to be together, talk, write....but most importantly...it better be being together someplace. She maybe a blonde but she's highly intelligent...its an interesting as there are many dumb blonde jokes out there. Maybe the jokes on me. All I know is that she's definately the most highly attractive, intelligent, funny, beautiful, sexy, most intriguing, and interesting person I know. Just cause you go with somebody and do things on different occasions doesn't mean you're dating. Our problem is, people say we should just go out, start dating, why becuase you've been seen together in public multiple times with a member of the opposite sex too many times. That's the problem....in our case we've walked around holding hands (in particular Nationals). We don't want to date/go out exculsively with one another....we fear losing our great friendship. A friendship is far more important at this time in our lives than having a girl/boyfriend. if that makes any sense.
No one can predict the future...in my case, I may end up with my girlfriend Pamela from 179 (the one I've been talking about). But this casual dating or even going out occasionally to the movies or something is a way to get to know someone (so's writing but that's another story). Stick to maintaining friendships you have and make others, casual dating (I guess me and Pam are in a way) with someone, go head and do it. Again, friendship is far more important at this time in our lives than having a girl/boyfriend. if that makes any sense.