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I can't casually date. i have too passionate a personality. my solution? don't date unless i'm willing to be serious and can see myself marrying the guy. does that work for everyone? no. I can be friends with a guy and it goes no further than that, but once i start to put the label dating and making it one-on-one, i become very emotionally invested. again, that's me. I also have very specific ideas of what i want in a husband, so i don't date just anyone. I also am totally comfortable being single. I want someone special, who i can cry with, and is willing to cry with me. Someone who can understand i've had a bad day and just want to be held. someone who can tell me they've had a bad day. someone i won't fight with often, but when we do, we become closer when we make up. I want someone who won't laugh too hard at me for being a hopeless romantic. I want someone i can be completely honest with. i want the kind of relationship where when we've been married 20 years, we want to be together more than we did when we got married. the sweetest thing i ever heard was a man say of his wife that he thought her more beautiful 20 years after their marriage than he did on their wedding day. I want a husband who will say that. i can see myself marrying my current boyfriend, but that may not happen. i don't know. my basic tip is know yourself. if you can casually date, go for it. if, like me, you can't, know that about yourself. don't serial date because you can't be single. second tip: be honest with yourself and him. don't lead him on, but don't play too many games - he might give up.
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