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I've done some thinking.....
First off, what's the difference between a girl that's a friend and a girlfriend. When you mention girlfriend, everyone thinks "going out...dating" and with the perveted teenage mind a few think "the girl who has dibs on you".
Consider this friendship is far more important at this time in our lives than having a girl/boyfriend. If that makes any sense.
But I am guilty of this being a human being. I told my best friend after I knew her for a month. Pamela (she's on 179) and I have been friends since 2001 KSC Regionals but we aren't dating. The important thing is that she knows know I feel and letting the other person know is important. Since it was a month after, I knew her well enough to admit it...nervous as heck but managed to get it across. It took me a while to figure out what to say, I forgot what as I was nervous, so it basically went....
Me: "Pamela, there's something I got to tell you." (hesitates)
Pamela: "What is it Mike?"
Me: (I pause and hesitate) "Somewhere in the middle of all this, I fell in love with you Pam"
Pamela: "Awwe." (and a little stunned)
Ever since Pamela and I have been very good friends. The downside is she's on 179 and I'm on 180. We live about 45 minutes away from one another but have different schedules as we are on different teams and go to different schools but are in the same tough program...the world of IB. Not to mention the fact that we're in different grades (right now she's a junior and I'm a senior in high school but we're only seven months & three days apart). And, yes I have taken her out to the movies once and also to South Fork's Homecoming (to you S.P.A.M.mers from SFHS that was there, that is the girl I was slow dancing with and talking to the entire evening). Which brings me to a dating tip (actually a few) for the guys
a) be a gentleman
b) when slow dancing...definately put your arms around her waist and if she let's you that's a good sign
c) also with b let her rest her head against your shoulder (which is a better sign than b)
d) with b anc c as well, watch it, don't step on her feet and guide her around the dance floor
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