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Disclaimer - I'm not a programmer - but I understand the solenoid:

A solenoid has a normally open and a normally closed condition. If your steady state condition would be the closed (rod inside cylinder) then hitting the momentary button on the controller sends the command to activate and change that state - but when you let go, it will go back to steady state.

You could do a number of things to get what you want - use a joystick or switch on the controller rather than a momentary button - so it "stays" in the activated state - or you could program that the button changes the condition from off to on. Push once for out, push again for back in. Probably a bunch more programming options - like I said, that isn't my specialty.