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Presently, I feel like I have no idea how to actually reduce my involvement. I show up to meetings, I see things that look like they won't be done if I do not invest myself in them, and I feel obligated to do so. I can't be the only one who struggles with this, and hopefully some other mentors who have dealt with similar issues can weigh in.
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You've got to let things go undone. It's a marathon, not a sprint, and chances are it doesn't really matter if those holes are exactly 1.125" apart, or that gusset plate is a little crooked, or that boring bar goes back in exactly the right place. Maybe a student will even notice that it doesn't fit, or that the gusset looks bad, or that they cant' find the boring bar at the next team meeting and learn from the experience!
I definitely struggled with this as a first year mentor. I remember getting pretty upset at a freshman for something really stupid in retrospect (I asked for something, maybe a certain sized drill bit?). After the fact, another mentor said something to the effect of, "Come on man, he doesn't even know what you are asking for!" which was of course the truth.
I was lucky enough to not be in a leadership position, so I could take days off. This was really important to keeping me sane -- and you also discover that when you don't show up the world continues.
It isn't easy, but you've just got to decide what's really important and start letting the less important things end up below the waterline. Focus on the fundamentals, and over time you'll find that students will become more competent and more of those things will end up above the waterline.
The stronger the team, the easier it is to keep your head in the game. If you take some time off I'd strongly recommend coming back and spending a year or two with strongest team in your area. You'll build a network of people that will help keep your head above water in the heart of the build season, and you'll learn way more about mentoring than you could teach yourself.
Tone is really important. If you're really stressed, chances are good you'll come off as a jerk (from personal experience).
In my experience, high school kids do not respond well to authoritarian mentoring. Keeping your stress level down by having other mentors to lean on, and not sweating unimportant details can really pay benefits by making the students respond to you much more positively.
I hope that is helpful