[jweston]

I have a small suggestion to consider, although it has nothing directly to do harassment. It has more to do with empowering people...

Whenever you feel compelled to say, "Let me help you with that" or "Let <insert name> help you with that" instead ask "Would you like some help with that?" It might seem like there is no difference but it's actually huge. The former is a command. The latter is an inquiry. With the former, the helpee has to risk confrontation by rejecting the help. The second allows for a polite decline. I've found that the command form of help happens a lot more if the helpee is younger than the helper or is female (extra likely if the helpee is both).

If your offer of help is declined, please do not try persuade or force your help. If your offer of help is accepted, that is not permission to the helper take over the task. It is up to the helper to take their cue from the helpee in how they can be of assistance.

There's a time and place for commands. Commands are great if someone is doing something dangerous or for a delegated team tasks coming from your team organization. Offering help should not come as a command.

The way we talk to each other matters. It affects the patterns we fall into. If you want to make a change, this is a place to start.