[Chris is me]

Originally Posted by anonymous123

And that is the fundamental point where we disagree, Madison. I do not (can not) know what it feels like to be "trapped in a man's body", to “have no choice”. If I showed up to a FIRST event in a dress, to me, I would feel like nothing more than a man wearing a dress. I would still have a man's body, underneath the dress. To me, I would still be a man. Until I made the choice to undergo a complete physical change to transform my body, I do not think I could feel like a woman, and I would not identify myself as a woman until the transformation was complete. For me to do this would be my choice. Unlike some, I do not know what it feels like to "not have a choice". What I know about how I feel determines my stance on this issue, and the way I see it, it seems to me like a choice. I think that the best way I to determine gender of a person is to use the gender of a person's body. This is just my opinion, and it likely won't change until I see scientific fact that proves otherwise. I hope that my explanation can help everyone else to understand my thought process in reaching my opinion and my point of view on this.

I really don't follow this logic at all. You're essentially saying that because you are cisgender, you can't understand the experiences of transgender people, which in and of itself is fair. But you then conclude that transgender people don't exist and have a choice? Because you're cisgender, and if you "decided" to be trans it would be a choice, it must be a choice for everybody? How can you reach that conclusion, particularly when you know and freely admit that your experiences are different from those of trans people?

It would definitely make me very uncomfortable to be in a situation like that. And yes, I value the well-being of myself and my family above that of others around me, regardless of the gender, race, ethnicity, or sexual orientation of those around me. Don't we all?

Ultimately what I'm trying to get at here is this - why do you feel unsafe around trans people? The implications of posts like yours are that trans people are somehow threatening to the safety and security of cis people. You don't come out and say that directly but you keep bringing up safety and comfort so I have trouble figuring out a different meaning behind your words. Trans people are not more dangerous than cis people; they're not more likely to violate or abuse their peers (much the opposite actually - more likely to be the victims). What is the fear here? What harm do you expect when trans boys room with cis boys, or trans women room with cis women? To be completely honest, I think your worldview is informed by some prejudiced misconceptions of what trans people are actually like.