Our team participates in the clothspin game, but we hardly ever actually need to establish any rules about it. They are simply non-verbally understood to be something along the lines of:
1) If you know the person, and the person is not offended by the act, it is OK.
2) If the person is wearing large amounts of spirit wear (our team wears fluffy white YETI hats, I have seen other people wearing capes and fedoras) it is probably okay to pin to that (I have walked around the pits for hours without noticing clothespins sticking straight up from my YETIs ears)
3) If the person has clothspinned you or your friends while walking past your pit, it is DEFINETLY okay to walk by their pit and go for a targeted stealth pinning.
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Originally Posted by Akash Rastogi
2) I do see kids targeting girls a lot and I find it rather annoying knowing that a student of mine may be attracting unwanted physical interaction
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You make some other points about how it is a non-consensual act, and I agree in a perfect world we should all agree about how we treat each other, but I have never observed this specifically. This is partly because the clothspinner is trying to not be noticed. People can really only be pinned on spirit wear or the ends of very long clothing without the person clearly overstepping their boundries (If a person can not understand that walking up to a stranger and pinching tight clothing to put a clothespin on is inappropriate, we need to take more then just clothespins away from them). If the person feels violated afterwards, then the person doing the clipping already violated how close the clippee like to be within people. What I am saying is not that clipping is an okay substitute for direct inappropriate touching, but that clipping should be treated like a direct touch. I have had my YETI hat pet more times then I probably know about it, and I am okay with that. I have also been hugged more times then I have wanted (usually by team members, but I still am not a hugging person and "did not consent/reciprocate"), and that is okay.
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Originally Posted by Alan Anderson
Lots of students enjoy the clothespin tagging game, on both the tagger and taggee sides. I don't want to participate, but I also don't want to ruin the game for the willing participants. Asking for consent spoils the fun. So how about explicitly identifying the tag targets? People who are happy to get pins clipped to them could wear a distinctive sash or wristband. Anyone not displaying the "target consent" item would be out of bounds.
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I would just like to remind you that physical contact is not even required to make someone feel uncomfortable. (Noting that this situation is gender neutral, because this applies to everybody) A stranger trying to start a conversation with you may be absolutely fine, because you love to talk, or terrifying. But either way, we do not consider this stranger with good intentions rude. It is only if they continue their social interaction past the point where it should be understood that they should stop talking and leave that they are rude.
For better or worse: We do not require people to wear "I am comfortable with spontaneous social interaction" signs