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Re: Guidelines for Parents

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Originally Posted by GreyingJay View Post
In other words if we say "I appreciate what you suggested, but we are going to do this instead", the unspoken part is "...because I said so". Which, in the heat of the moment, is a battle of wills that only gets people angry.

I would say instead, something like "I appreciate what you suggested, but the students decided to do this, and they've been working hard at it since January, so we're going to respect it." Or "I appreciate it, but there's a process we need to follow and it would be unfair to the students if we went around that." Don't make it about your will versus theirs, make them see that it's what's best for the team.
Yes I agree, clarity on where decisions are coming from, and why, is very important. I meant that sentence as more of general form of stating the decision and moving forward, rather than a specific way to phrase what you say. Who decides what changes to make at a competition for instance can be tricky, but it needs to be clear.

For instance, I was imagining a particular logistics decision I made this past year in which case both parties were aware of how the decision was reached and were aware that I was the one making the final call. The phrasing fits that situation well but can be modified for others.
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