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Originally Posted by Nick Seidl
The conversation with the other mentors is what spawned my post, not the other way around. The problem I run into is I am having a hard time sharing my thoughts with them due to the distance between my brain and mouth. Additionally, they are all good about sharing their opinions (which is awesome!), but I'm running into problems getting that conversation to a conclusion. Lots of talking, not much listening to each other or coming to conclusions going on. How do I play referee between the grown ups?
I realize this thread will probably attract some her-dur posts, but I'm hoping to find the toad of truth in the swamp of posts.
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Sorry,
a bit reactionary on my part. CD is a mess for this time of the year.
In seriousness, it sounds like you need to come up with a decision making process with the group of mentors. "Hey guys, I've noticed we have a hard time coming to conclusions so here's my idea for how we can do that". It can be as simple as "quick verbal vote" or dictatorship-like-final-call-by-lead-mentor if you've got one mentor who is making decisions. I suggest some kind of happy medium with a tie-breaker rule or decision-tree.
As a bonus, one handy trick for these types of discussions (and really all types) is to never assign ideas to people or associate ideas with people. It's not "her idea" or "Timmy's idea"... it is "an idea about XYZ". This helps to remove personalities from the decision making process and causes people to look at ideas dispassionately.