[Bharat Nain]

This is crucial and important. Its simple to do, easy to follow and it makes sense. Its called not criticizing, conedemning or complaining.


Cause and effect: When you criticize, condemn or complaint, all that happens is the other person gets a bad feeling about you. Now lets see, you do so because you want to get your point across. But all that happens is the other person gets a bad feeling about you, even if he follows what you do, he/she does it half-heartedly.

Why not do something which could get your point across, make them do what you want them to do happily and full-heartedly, rather than the normal way?

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E.g: Scenario: Robot Workshop.

Adam is working with the electrical system.
John[The head supervisor] notices Adam is being lazy and not insulating the wires well. Here is how the conversation goes:

John: Adam, Why on earth dont you stop being lazy and insulate the wires well?
Adam: Bah.. Dont worry, IT'll work.
John: I will have to get you off the fabrication team if you dont follow the rules.
Adam: [In his mind] WHATEVER. WHO CARES ANYWAYS. He never means it.
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Now Lets say John did things differently:
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John: Adam, You are doing a awesome job with those wires. You seem to have a good knack with those wires.
Adam: Oh! Thank You
John: You might wanna insulate those wires well, rest is just great.
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Now tell me, what would work better? You got your point across, made the other person feel happy about what you want them to do, and Adam did it full-heartedly. It just makes sense.