Oddly that last statement did not upset me, it actually made me laugh. Even with the rules in place as they are now one of the team members has on multiple occasions done "Interesting" things with boys, including in the back seat of my mothers car who was chaperoning the trip for an extra hand. The mentors were told by both myself, other team members and by my mother and the mentor from my school said and I quote "She's a senior, she's graduating soon, its petty." Honestly I don't think this was "Petty" We're not really asking for us to show uber amounts of affection, in fact recently the rules are looking pretty nice if they'd actually do something about the people who break them. Truthfully all I want is to be able to hug my boyfriend if we win. We won the last competiton that we went to and I hugged EVERYONE, Encluding my boyfriend, and when I hugged him I got yelled at and told that if they ever saw it again they'd kick me off the team for the rest of my highschool years. Honestly it seems like whatever IS NOT written on the rules is fine, So we can't hold hands, kiss, make-out, hug, or anything like that. But biting is okay, licking is okay, other stuff is alright, ahh this makes me laugh. sorry if I sound sorta sarcastic, I don't mean it that way.
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Originally Posted by Mike Martus
I have been watching this thread to see how it worked out without throwing in my 2 cents. Well here is my 2 cents.....
All teams need clear written enforced rules in the form of a Team Handbook. The formation of the handbook should be made up of "Best Practices", elements from other handbooks that work and most important input from the entire team. When we talk about input students MUST realize that there are school rules and corporate rules that must be followed. The handbook is a combination of all of these in a format that the entire team can live with.
The Team Handbook must also be a "Living Document" that changes and meets the current needs of the team. It is a very important element to keep it appropriate and up to date.
On our team we have more girls than boys, and yes relationships do develop during the course of the year. We stress that at events, on trips and at work-sites team rules be followed. These include traveling in groups of a min. of three persons, no hand holding or displays of affection aimed specifically at your boyfriend/girlfriend (many hug often when greeting parents and friends - this is acceptable).
Our rule is very simple - it should not appear that you are boyfriend/girlfriend at any time. Each team member has a job to do and is expected to do it as professional as possible at all times. We have many other rules that you can review by downloading the White Paper that is our team handbook. There are many examples of handbooks in the white papers section.
I know that this next comment will upset many students, but here it is.
The adult leaders are responsible for you and your actions at all events associated with the robotics program. As responsible leaders putting their careers on the line at every event they need to be very careful to protect ALL team members. The adults will have to answer for any situation that occurs on a trip or working on the robot. I will not spell out the situations as I think you can use your own imagination. This includes safety, relationships between students and parents or other adults that assist the team. Since the adults are in charge they are allowed to make some rules you do not agree with in an effort to protect the program. The key word is "protect" and most adults know how to balance these protection rules.
My 2 cents.
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