I think it is
interesting that you bring this up Cody -
not crazy or out of line like others here claim your thoughts to be.
When I think about it, I realize that the problem that you pointed out really has to do with human nature - not FIRST in particular. I can pretty much guarantee you that almost every human being has experienced difficulties practicing what they preach (I am no exception

). People have been aware of this aspect of human nature for millenia ("Let he without sin cast the first stone"), and the general consensus is that hypocrisy, in a utopian world, should be avoided. But,if hypocrisy were against the law, it would be impossible for people to make any changes in their viewpoint. Contrary to the opinions of some, I believe that it is a great sign of courage and intellect when a person is able to reform their views - as opposed to taking a stance and standing by it, even when it becomes painfully obvious that they are wrong. FIRST allows people to discover the less-than-ideal aspects about themselves, and gives them a positive atmosphere in which they can make a change.
Organizations such as FIRST exist in order to make an impact upon the rest of the world which is positive. FIRST would not be able to spread it's message if the perfection of every participant was a prerequisite. Gracious professionalism is something that the organization encourages us to
strive for. If we can only embody that value 90% of the time, or even 80% or 70% of the time, we are still making a positive cultural impact.
Just because we are striving for it doesn't mean we are going to be perfect 100% of the time. Nor does it mean that it is hypocritical for us to encourage this change in other people. If gracious professionalism is a value that we support, than nothing should stop us from supporting it. None of us are perfect, but participating in an organization like FIRST gives us the opportunity to grow as human beings. The goal isn't perfection (and the organization would be pointless if perfection were required in order to participate - we wouldn't have anyone to change or inspire!), but improvement. If we can all contribute to the betterment of society, why should we let our own imperfections stop us? The more we can show the world our "good side", the more the world will be influenced by our model.
Good questions Cody - don't let anyone discourage you from raising good ones.
Jaine
Edit: One thing to add -
You are right that FIRSTers should not speak to others in the "holier than thou" manner you took issue with. However, what those people
should do instead is realize that no one is perfect (including themselves),
but because of their values, they are still obligated to try to make the world a better place. If that involves sharing their opinion, that is fine, as long as they treat the other person with respect and as an equal. Personally, I believe most FIRSTers fall under the latter category - showing humility and compassion. Occasionally, someone will abuse the ideals of FIRST by percieving the world as black and white ("me good, you bad"). This action in itself does not adhere to the values of gracious professionalism, and I encourage people to avoid it. As a general rule of thumb, it is a good idea to try to stand in another person's shoes and treat them as your equal. It's called respect.