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Re: The Butterfly Effect

People have an idea of how others should act. Everyone forms their own opinion of what others say or do. It's just natural.

Sometimes that is based on the situation you are in - remember the furor over the "You lie" comment? Saying something at the wrong time or in the wrong place does reflect poorly on the individual.

If you are identified with a group of people, the actions of the individuals in that group reflect the entire group. We are so used to the political disclaimers on broadcasts, "The opinions of the participants do not necessarily reflect the opinions of this station, the management, blah blah blah." But that's legalese. What a person says does reflect on the company he keeps. That's why mom warned you about not hanging around with the "wrong crowd". That's why people dressed in uniform - whether that be of a team, a band, a military unit, the clergy - must always reflect the standards of the group to which they belong.

There are times that a leader of a group should be made known about the activities of one of the group. That way the leader can correct the behavior if necessary. A mentor can advise the mentee of what impression is being made by those comments, and why it is important to create the correct impression. If the mentor does nothing, he is not doing his job in being a good mentor. The mentee should not be concerned with losing the respect of the mentor, unless he does not respect the suggestion to change.

Yes, words can have a wide-ranging effect. In the Internship thread we were discussing the effect of words when a potential employer Googles the applicant. If those words indicate a bias or prejudice, or indicate a lack of ambition or work ethic, that candidate's chances go down very quickly.
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