What constitutes "Not having a life"

[Duke461]

--To me, having no life has no absolute definition--
The problem with what constitutes "not having a life" is that it's completely subjective. In other words, no one can define what not having a life entails. A guy on the baseball football and basketball team at my school might tell me i have no life because i do robotics 24/7. My sister might tell me i have no life because i play video games and computer games at home. But I might tell someone they have no life because all they do is play sports, or read books, or chill at wal-mart .
---Point being, it's YOUR decision if you have a life or not. If you enjoy what you're doing, regardless of it's productivity in society's eyes, you "have a life".

[MrForbes]

having 3,972 posts on CD?

[Andrew Schreiber]

Originally Posted by squirrel

having 3,972 posts on CD?

Good, I still have some time before then.

[Francis-134]

The concept of "having no life", in my opinion, is a childish concept. It predicates on the idea that one particular way of social interaction or a particular hobby is superior to another, which is simply not the case.

[Joe G.]

Originally Posted by squirrel

having 3,972 posts on CD?

I think 21,214 is the cutoff. At that point, you are legally considered a "bot."

[Andrew Schreiber]

Originally Posted by Joe G.

I think 21,214 is the cutoff. At that point, you are legally considered a "bot."

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Ed is catching up...

[DMetalKong]

Not having a life means worrying about not having a life

In all seriousness, if you take a step back and look at yourself and don't like what you see, take the steps to change yourself. If you have no problem with who you are, hear what other people say, but don't necessarily listen to them.

[JaneYoung]

This is a topic that has made me think for many years. I don't often voice my opinion on it because I haven't figured out how to say what I'm thinking, succinctly and clearly. I'll give it a shot today.

I've sat through many Kickoff and Championship events and listened to the wisdom of Dean, Dr. Flowers, and Dave. I've listened and listened and listened. And, I've met and talked with many of our outstanding mentors in FIRST. When talking with them, I have listened and listened and listened.

One of the main reasons that I've stayed involved as mentor is because of all of that listening and the wisdom that I've gleaned from it. There are many parts of the FIRST philosophy that have to do with hope for our futures. Hope for a very bright future. Hope. When I listen, I'm not hearing that we should only associate with our robotics friends. I'm not hearing that we should just think about the here and now and the pleasures that our skills and talents can create for the here and now. I'm hearing more about leadership development and impact on our world in a positive way via our skills development and implementation. Discovery, adventure, problem-solving applications, and thinking are constants. By being involved in a program like FIRST, it enables all of us to constantly look at the big picture and realize that it is adaptable, able to shrink or enlarge, dependent on our thinking, applications, understanding, awareness, and impact. This big picture concept applies to the FIRST community as a whole, the leadership of the FIRST community, the individuals that make up the FIRST community, and the world that we are impacting.

Realizing that the program revolves around the recruitment, growth, and development of our youth, I understand that many (probably the majority) of the people who move through the program and on into careers, may choose to work within the parameters of a smaller picture rather than challenging/pushing the boundaries of the bigger picture. A gaming community, amateur or professional, serves its purpose just as NASA serves its purpose. The career decisions (via education and goal setting) allow the participants of the FIRST programs to move in the direction they choose towards the purpose they want in their careers and lives.

The 'not having a life' opinion expressed by the theater person, could mean something along the lines of becoming comfortable with the thinking involved as students and as professionals, keeping the picture small.

Jane

[Tom Line]

Looking back at the time I spent playing video games, I wish I hadn't played them nearly as much. Even something as mundane as reading (which has the same sitting-still aspect that video gaming does) results in a general increase in knowledge, assuming you're reading some worth-while books.

Evaluate what you spend your time doing, and ask yourself if you're really adding value to your life. If you're spending a lot of time not adding value to your life, then you may want to revise where you spend your time.

That's really the key that I think most young adults don't really grasp. What seems important to you now probably won't be all that important in 5 years when you're worrying about getting your first serious career-style job, or applying for grad school, or trying to secure a loan for your first new car.

Ask yourself where you want to be 5 or 10 years from now and whether or not the way in which you spend most of your time is going to improve the chances of making it there. About 99% of the time, playing video games isn't going to get you very far. Of course, the same could be said about atheletics, or many other pursuits. Being one dimensional almost never pays off in the long run. Perhaps 'having a life' means, for the most part, that you're NOT just one dimensional.

[Nomadic Mentor]

As others have said "having a life" is subjective. Only you can decided whether or not you "have a life." For me, my baseline is weather I bring value to my life and those of my friends. It seems to me that many think that there is only one correct way for "having a life" ...their way. This is an interesting question what constitutes a "life" in this relative sense. What is the common denominator between all different style of "having a life". Any one feel like doing a philosophical definition and analysis?

[Ed Law]

Originally Posted by Tom Line

Evaluate what you spend your time doing, and ask yourself if you're really adding value to your life. If you're spending a lot of time not adding value to your life, then you may want to revise where you spend your time.

I like how you put it. Tom, if I may, I would like to add something to what you said.

"ask yourself if you're really adding value to your life or other people's lives"

I hope this will make some of us feel better. You do have a life if you add value to other people's life without adding to your own. I think another way to look at it is "Does your life have a purpose?"

[Koko Ed]

Originally Posted by Andrew Schreiber

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Ed is catching up...

I've always said I don't have a life.
Now I have mathematical proof to back it up!
HOORAY! (aw now I'm depressed... )

[Jared Russell]

Not having a life means not taking the time to do the things you enjoy doing. No matter what they are.

[h1n1is4pigs]

i would have to say that if you do not have a life you are dead, and since you are obviously not dead you have a life. problem solved

[Bill_B]

The most common occurrence of the "get a life" suggestion comes from people who cannot see the value of what occupies your time. They are also unable to formulate a ready explanation or defense for their own activities. Their error, of course, is apparently that they expect you to realize they are more worthwhile and respectable than you simply because they have parroted those three syllables. On the other hand, it is more polite than the ruffian, two syllable phrase that is unsuitable for mixed company.

That is not to say you should not subject your repertory of activity to scrutiny on a recurring basis, as mentioned above in this thread. Seek advice from those whom you respect. You can almost certainly ignore the envious oafs who try to elevate their own status by belittling yours. Be polite. Avoid using the 1-finger salute in response.