Dating Tips

[MRL180YTL2002]

I say be yourself, and as a guy I stick to being a gentleman. But you know the FIRST code of ethics (look at the back of the FIRST-SME card) works too. Paying on dates, its should be whoever asked. (Equal rights)

[chellyzee93]

Definitely.. I broke up with a guy that I had been dating for two years cause i could never see myself spending my life with him. We fought 75% of the time! It's important to not settle for someone jsut because they like you. Date people that make you happy.. that you enjoy spending time with.. That you can carry on a conversation with. Long-distance or not

[EddieMcD]

Tips on dates... let's see here.

Date (n)-1 : the oblong edible fruit of a palm (Phoenix dactylifera)
2 : the tall palm with pinnate leaves that yields the date.

Or to put it simply "Big rasins that make you poop." Another thing that should be known about dates is -

::someone whispers to Eddie what the group is talking about::

Oh, why didn't you say so. My major tip is to take a chance with a girl, and don't be afraid if she doesn't like you. I've lost a few girls who I'm pretty sure (now, anyway) liked me because I never tried and eventually gave up.

But then again, what do I know? I have to rely on Carolyn for advice on things like this. As you can see, I'm not too great with the opposite sex. Eh, there's always college.

[MRL180YTL2002]

Originally posted by EddieMcD
My major tip is to take a chance with a girl, and don't be afraid if she doesn't like you.

simply the truth...the girl I took to my school's homecoming and to the movies once (she's also on 179)...and no we aren't going out yet....I've asked once (the FIRST and only girl) and she said no. We're both rather busy with IB schoolwork and robotics of course so neither one of us has time to devote to a long distance relationship. Maintaining a friendship that's right on the edge of going out (in a way) is tough as it is. But I took that chance...and its been a very interesting two years (well, this March) that I've known her. Also, definately go places (not necessarily steady) like me with someone you share a few common things. Despite our grade level differences (I'm in 12th, she's in 11th...but only 7 months and 3 days older...had to do explaining to parents) its actually a pretty good relationship (we could never get angry at one another) and love to be together, talk, write....but most importantly...it better be being together someplace. Last, it helps if the person's parents likes you....its a bit easier to go do stuff together (even if its as lame as walking up and down the pit area at the Championship).

[tatsak42]

well what am i doing here, i don't know anything. mwa ha ha ha... like, talking does help, i just can't very easily, woot... i worry too much. boo hiss to that

[KennethToronto]

Originally posted by Katie Reynolds
... What's the point of dating if not to find your 'lifelong mate'? I

lots of other stuff?


I think different people have different priorities in life.

Some might be out there trying to look for their lifelong partner...a lot more are probably out there just to have some fun I think both attitudes are fine..as long as no one gets hurt.

But then again, what do I know?

[A. Snodgrass]

Originally posted by Katie Reynolds
... What's the point of dating if not to find your 'lifelong mate'? I mean, obviously if you're dating with someone who bores you to death, you should end the relationship - but isn't the point of dating to find the person you want to spend the rest of your life with?
- Katie

Katie, sometimes we date to also find what we would like to see in a potential mate, and to find out what truly irritates us and that we couldnt deal with in a potential mate. It really depends on your goal in general though. That doesnt mean that every guy we date we think we would want to spend the rest of our lives with. Often times we just arent ready to make any such decision at early stages in our lives.

Sometimes we date to have fun. Casual dating with people when you are careful is good practice for the future when you are seriously dating. Please everybody note Im talking about "dates" and not "going out". Those two terms have become way too mutually exclusive....and they really aren't. You go on a date with somebody, possibly multiple times, but that doesnt mean there is an obligation to be their boyfriend/girlfriend. Also sometimes you can find somebody that while you wouldn't work going out, you would work with the idea of being friends. I agree with a lot that has been suggested by people in this thread. But I think for everybody, these would be good things to keep in mind.

On a final note, every time we date, we discover a little more about ourselves. The person who might seem like the perfect mate in the beginning, will likely not be the 'perfect mate' by the time you are in your 30's or 40's. Then again if you change with each other....they might be. My advice would be find somebody who is your friend, and you enjoy talking to; who always seem to make you feel good about yourself. After the original flush of romance that comes for newleweds is vanished somewhat, you will still be with somebody who makes you laugh, and who makes you feel special. And in that, there is some of its own romance and romantic feeling.

[Firewolf]

as far as I see, there is a trend going on here

No one knows anything
and I don't mean that in a mean way,
just matter of factly
I keep seeing
i.e.
"what do I know?"
and such well, isn't that just the point?

You're not supposed to know,
love is a fools game
as is life
you fumble through it
grasping in the dark
hoping you do something right.

so everyone, just calm down, there are no rules or regulations
do what comes naturally,

it's life, it's not that serious

[MRL180YTL2002]

Originally posted by A. Snodgrass
Sometimes we date to have fun. Casual dating with people when you are careful is good practice for the future when you are seriously dating. Please everybody note Im talking about "dates" and not "going out". Those two terms have become way too mutually exclusive....and they really aren't. You go on a date with somebody, possibly multiple times, but that doesnt mean there is an obligation to be their boyfriend/girlfriend. Also sometimes you can find somebody that while you wouldn't work going out, you would work with the idea of being friends. I agree with a lot that has been suggested by people in this thread. But I think for everybody, these would be good things to keep in mind.

First off, what's the difference between a girl that's a friend and a girlfriend. When you mention girlfriend, everyone thinks "going out...dating" and with the perveted teenage mind a few think "the girl who has dibs on you". This is what I've said so here goes....

The girl I took to my school's homecoming and to the movies once (she's on 179)...and no we aren't dating yet....I've asked once (the FIRST -one-and only girl) and she said no. We're both rather busy with IB schoolwork and robotics of course so neither one of us has time to devote to a long distance relationship (well she's 45 minutes south of me by car and doesn't live in the smae county, muchless go to the same school). Maintaining a friendship that's right on the edge of going out (in a way) is tough as it is. But I took that chance...and its been a very interesting two years (well, this March) that I've known her. Despite our grade level differences (I'm in 12th, she's in 11th...but only 7 months and 3 days older...had to do explaining to friends - parents were okay as far as I know) its actually a pretty good relationship (we could never get angry at one another) and love to be together, talk, write....but most importantly...it better be being together someplace. She maybe a blonde but she's highly intelligent...its an interesting as there are many dumb blonde jokes out there. Maybe the jokes on me. All I know is that she's definately the most highly attractive, intelligent, funny, beautiful, sexy, most intriguing, and interesting person I know. Just cause you go with somebody and do things on different occasions doesn't mean you're dating. Our problem is, people say we should just go out, start dating, why becuase you've been seen together in public multiple times with a member of the opposite sex too many times. That's the problem....in our case we've walked around holding hands (in particular Nationals). We don't want to date/go out exculsively with one another....we fear losing our great friendship. A friendship is far more important at this time in our lives than having a girl/boyfriend. if that makes any sense.

No one can predict the future...in my case, I may end up with my girlfriend Pamela from 179 (the one I've been talking about). But this casual dating or even going out occasionally to the movies or something is a way to get to know someone (so's writing but that's another story). Stick to maintaining friendships you have and make others, casual dating (I guess me and Pam are in a way) with someone, go head and do it. Again, friendship is far more important at this time in our lives than having a girl/boyfriend. if that makes any sense.

[purpledaisy]

I can't casually date. i have too passionate a personality. my solution? don't date unless i'm willing to be serious and can see myself marrying the guy. does that work for everyone? no. I can be friends with a guy and it goes no further than that, but once i start to put the label dating and making it one-on-one, i become very emotionally invested. again, that's me. I also have very specific ideas of what i want in a husband, so i don't date just anyone. I also am totally comfortable being single. I want someone special, who i can cry with, and is willing to cry with me. Someone who can understand i've had a bad day and just want to be held. someone who can tell me they've had a bad day. someone i won't fight with often, but when we do, we become closer when we make up. I want someone who won't laugh too hard at me for being a hopeless romantic. I want someone i can be completely honest with. i want the kind of relationship where when we've been married 20 years, we want to be together more than we did when we got married. the sweetest thing i ever heard was a man say of his wife that he thought her more beautiful 20 years after their marriage than he did on their wedding day. I want a husband who will say that. i can see myself marrying my current boyfriend, but that may not happen. i don't know. my basic tip is know yourself. if you can casually date, go for it. if, like me, you can't, know that about yourself. don't serial date because you can't be single. second tip: be honest with yourself and him. don't lead him on, but don't play too many games - he might give up.

[MarkF]

I feel the same way. My very first relationship was 7 months long, and this current one with purpledaisy looks like it will be MUCH longer. Being a man of commitment, I don't understand how some people are willing to have a one night stand and not feel guilty as all hell the next day. Whatever floats your boat, I guess.

[chellyzee93]

I date to find what i want in a guy. If I find that I can't see my myself spending the rest of my life with him, then i've made another friend and i can specify my standards.I take relationships a little more seriously then maybe i should, but i always remain friends with the guys I date so my system for works for me at least.

[tatsak42]

Well, I'm screwed now, thank you very much. Maybe she'll dump my sorry $@#$@#$@# now, or maybe just let it fade and be even worse. Dunno really what's going on, you could ask any robotics person from my team and they'd tell you something's messed. I love my life, don't I. woot!

[MRL180YTL2002]

Originally posted by MarkF
I don't understand how some people are willing to have a one night stand and not feel guilty as all hell the next day. Whatever floats your boat, I guess.

What I meant by casually dating, I guess its bad phrasing and different interpretations is that okay Pamela (on 179) and I are friends. So I asked if she wanted to go to my school's homecoming, the movies.....that's casual dating. Its not a one night stand, its in better words hanging out but Pamela and I aren't friends and we sure aren't dating one another exculsively. She could go with another guy somewhere sure, I don't own her and if we were dating she wouldn't, even then as long as we don't break our promises to one another (stuff like stay in school. don't do drugs...) I'd be fine. She has her friends and I have mine. Its respect for the other, trust in the other, time and effort into a relationship, and mutual agreements on certain issues (at least know how the other one feels) that make things in a relationship, even just a friendship like mine, work. The sad part is two friends go out, break up, and never speak to one another again. Pamela and I don't want that to happen so for now we aren't going to date. We will go on "dates" but we aren't going out, um search for the right word,..... steady. Though we'll probably end up dating someone else due to age and grade differences...see my previous post in this thread but for now I guess in my case Pamelaand I aren't dating yet.

[hixofthehood]

I want to say so much about dating and love...

so. much. I could type for hours and hours

But I won't