Making STEM a better place for women

[carpedav000]

One possible solution would be to have mentors sit in areas where a female student could potentially be bothered by male student[s].

Example:
There is a group of male students sitting around a female student. If there is a mentor sitting with them, they will be less encouraged to do anything wierd.


Besides that, maybe try calling out the offenders? From experience (not with this issue) getting called out is so embarrassing that you will not do whatever it was again out of fear of getting called out again.

[Akash Rastogi]

Originally Posted by carpedav000

Besides that, maybe try calling out the offenders? From experience (not with this issue) getting called out is so embarrassing that you will not do whatever it was again out of fear of getting called out again.

While it is a short term deterrent, this doesn't teach the student right from wrong.

[popnbrown]

Originally Posted by Akash Rastogi

While it is a short term deterrent, this doesn't teach the student right from wrong.

Completely agree, it would be a better approach to:

Originally Posted by Mechvet

To refer to your specific case, pulling the (male) student aside, and having a talk about how his actions are perceived can do him a lot of good,

Frankly, I think it's a discussion to have with the offending student to make him (or her) more aware of his/her actions.


Some of the things I do on my team:

• Encourage a student who wants to do something, no matter what it is (if it's reasonable)
• Ensure equitable opportunity (technical students have to do non-technical things, and non-technical students do technical things - sometimes I have to push this)
• No activities that leave out any students (team wanted to do a lock-in in school but we can't do co-ed lock-in)
• Be aware of students activities beyond the team (I'm generally aware of schoolwork/grades, other extracurriculars)
• Like Akash mentioned: a genuine open door policy
• Listen to any student that wants to talk, and sometimes it's just listening
• And personally, I remind myself "You're a role model everything you do students will remember".

I think my views are really well summed up by Mechvet:

If I'm going to mentor someone, I'm going to be involved in their life as a positive force.

[hstanger]

As a female mentor and engineering student, I can affirm these are definitely issues for women in STEM, along with many other issues.

The suggestions I see on here are great. But there is one recommendation I would add: teams need to seek out female mentors! There are interactions that female mentors are more likely to pick up on and they provide some insight into these issues. Female mentors also set role models for their female students and give male students another opportunity to interact with females in an engineering role before they are in college or the workplace.

And I would say also to keep conversations focused robotics as much as possible to prevent both parties from focusing on appearance (whatever they choose to talk about at lunch is different, but not while the team works). And make sure female members are just as willing to get in there and work on the robot, they can pick up a drill for themselves and don't need someone to load the drill bit in for them, etc.

[popnbrown]

Originally Posted by hstanger

teams need to seek out female mentors!

The few female mentors I've worked side-by-side with have been some of the best, but they are very hard to find. Not just technical mentors, but mentors in general. I also have a general problem recruiting mentors, but I'd be interested in hearing any advice for recruiting female mentors.

And I would say also to keep conversations focused robotics as much as possible to prevent both parties from focusing on appearance

I actually slightly disagree with this. I think moving the topic festers the behavior or issue, especially because if they don't act that way in front of you

(whatever they choose to talk about at lunch is different

I equate this sometimes to tool safety. I'd rather the student do something unsafe in front of me, so I can help them understand the need for safety, then do it when I'm turned away. I think this applies to behavior as well.

[MysterE]

A few additions to make here -

While some of these problems take place in regards to girls while they are within their own team, I find that there are many more issues to deal with at competitions. This is especially true of student to student interaction among teams.

First, I have had to instruct my students in a couple of important notes:

#1: Never give a student's cell-phone number or contact information to another student. While I cannot keep students from exchanging information with each other, I have found some of my male students giving information about one of my female students when requested from an interested person on another team.

#2: Carefully monitor hotel interactions. While I would like to believe that the standards of every team is the same, there are some that have no problem with students from either gender congregating in hotel rooms and the like. While I do not mind hallway interactions, I am always concerned when a female OR male student finds their way into the room of another team.

#3: This is perhaps the most sensitive but most important: Just because someone is a mentor/parent/adult, it does not mean they are safe. Recently, I had a student approach me expressing concern over an adult who seemed to be tracking them in the stands. The adult would consistently stare and it made the student uncomfortable. I did not hear about it until after a situation where the adult exited the stands right behind the student and followed them down the stands closely. When the student turned, he attempted to start a conversation.

We have to remember that beyond simple student to student interactions in our teams we also need to teach our students to understand that the perception of safety is not always true. It's unfortunate but because we host events that are open to the public there will always be situations that can arise. What I generally tell my students is the following:

A) Always stick together - This is not always possible but as much as they can I like students to have at least one person with them at all times. This is especially true if they are going to be outside of the arena and sometimes even if they are going to the restroom.

B) Trust your instincts - If someone is making you uncomfortable, distance yourself from them and tell one of your mentors. While a mentor may not be able to directly deal with someone who is making a student feel uncomfortable, they can be made more aware of the situation and help mitigate in whatever way possible.

C) Always Inform - If something happens, whether it be an altercation with a student or an adult, never be afraid to tell a mentor. We always have both male and female mentors or parent volunteers available at each competition. If someone does something that you feel is inappropriate, you should never feel embarrassed to let us know.

D) And lastly - Embarrassment can save your life. This is perhaps the most difficult yet the most effective form of safety. If someone will not leave you alone, get loud and do whatever you can to get out of the situation. It doesn't matter if you are wrong or right because trusting your instincts is always better than not. What I told the person who was dealing with the adult in the stands was that next time they needed to step aside and allow the person to go ahead of them. If that did not work they needed to look at the person and in a firm and loud voice they needed to say "You are making me uncomfortable, please leave me alone."

Generally this will deter anyone who is being overly creepy - especially as many people don't even recognize they are doing it. If not, or if they try to hold a conversation, repeat the phrase but louder. At some point, someone else will notice and should help. As a last result - you yell. Yes, it may be embarrassing to you, but it will also call attention to what is going on.

The truth is that making STEM a better place for women goes far beyond what happens in the interactions between our own students. As mentors, we have to take a proactive stance to guard and protect both our young men and women at home and at competitions. Of course there are a myriad of other things that we need to tackle here to truly help women feel supported in their role as a STEM leader but safety is first and foremost and security is often taught not just assumed.

[hardcopi]

As a mentor and father to a teen daughter (and the mentor who inevitably ends up with 5 or 6 females riding with me to events) I have a slightly different perspective. The interaction between the girls and the guys on our team really doesn't seem to have anything to do with STEM persay.

Part of it is certainly developing a thick skin, but that goes both ways. The girls I have seen who do well in Stem (albeit my experience is limited in this area because I am a solo programmer by trade) all do so because they don't see themselves as needing different or preferential treatment. They seem themselves as programmers, engineers, etc. Their gender doesn't really play a role. If a guy gives them a hard time then they give them a hard time back. If the guy is a creep then you tell them off or you report them.

When we have a male (or female for that matter) student behaving inappropriately we just tell them to calm down, relax, and if need be the mentors will pull them aside and have a talk with them.

My daughter I am sure would have a better handle on this, she started her freshman year knowing nothing about robotics and now 4 years later she was a Deans List Finalist, President of the Team, Drive Captain, President of the Student Council and Leader of the Programmers on our team. (I could go on but needless to say I am proud of her).

I am also pretty proud of all the girls on our team, they aren't bullied by the guys on the team and in roles of leadership throughout. Not a single one was given their role without deserving it.

[Katie_UPS]

Originally Posted by popnbrown

The few female mentors I've worked side-by-side with have been some of the best, but they are very hard to find. Not just technical mentors, but mentors in general. I also have a general problem recruiting mentors, but I'd be interested in hearing any advice for recruiting female mentors.

One quick tip for recruiting female mentors: Don't recruit female mentors, recruit mentors.

"We want you to mentor our team because we want a lady mentor/positive female role model" is way less inviting than "We want you to mentor our team because of your X, Y, and Z skills." The former makes me valuable only because of my gender (something I have no control over) and the latter makes me valuable for the set of skills and knowledge I have worked to acquire and improve upon.

I'm not saying you can't ask women to be mentors or recruit them more heavily. I am saying that you should find value in your female mentors beyond their gender.

[Jon Stratis]

The problem with recruiting female engineers really comes down to numbers. According to some statistics I've heard before, only 13% of engineers are female, and the percentage can be worse when you look at specific engineering fields.

My experience at companies I've worked for shows that very few people want to dedicate the time and energy to mentor a team. Maybe 1/1000 people. Now, that's fine when you look at trying to recruit someone (non gender specific) to mentor your team, as there are a lot of comeanies out there, and hundreds of thousands of engineers you could draw from. When you start applying filters to your recruitment criteria (must be female, or must be a specific type of engineer, etc), your pool of potential recruits rapidly decreases, and your left looking for a specific needle in a haystack full of needles that aren't quite right.

My team doesn't actively recruit female mentors, despite being an all girls team from an all girls school. We recruit mentors, and those mentors ensure there's a gender-neutral attitude in everything we do. the female mentors we have fall into three categories: parents, teachers, and returning former students. It just happened to work out that way.

For those female student here, I want to ask - which is more important to you, having a female mentor to look up to, or having your mentor (regardless of gender) show confidence, support, and respect for you? At the end of the day, that's all us poor males can really do to help you grow!

[ATannahill]

Originally Posted by MysterE

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A) Always stick together - This is not always possible but as much as they can I like students to have at least one person with them at all times. This is especially true if they are going to be outside of the arena and sometimes even if they are going to the restroom.

B) Trust your instincts - If someone is making you uncomfortable, distance yourself from them and tell one of your mentors. While a mentor may not be able to directly deal with someone who is making a student feel uncomfortable, they can be made more aware of the situation and help mitigate in whatever way possible.

C) Always Inform - If something happens, whether it be an altercation with a student or an adult, never be afraid to tell a mentor. We always have both male and female mentors or parent volunteers available at each competition. If someone does something that you feel is inappropriate, you should never feel embarrassed to let us know.

D) And lastly - Embarrassment can save your life. This is perhaps the most difficult yet the most effective form of safety. If someone will not leave you alone, get loud and do whatever you can to get out of the situation. It doesn't matter if you are wrong or right because trusting your instincts is always better than not. What I told the person who was dealing with the adult in the stands was that next time they needed to step aside and allow the person to go ahead of them. If that did not work they needed to look at the person and in a firm and loud voice they needed to say "You are making me uncomfortable, please leave me alone."

Generally this will deter anyone who is being overly creepy - especially as many people don't even recognize they are doing it. If not, or if they try to hold a conversation, repeat the phrase but louder. At some point, someone else will notice and should help. As a last result - you yell. Yes, it may be embarrassing to you, but it will also call attention to what is going on.

Public embarrassment can be very detrimental to teenagers, especially when it is in regards to socially awkward students interacting with the other gender. B and C should come before D if it is at all possible. As you stated, people who are being creepy are often not aware of it and should be told in a constructive way by someone that they trust. Mechvet has posted how to handle this conversation.

Originally Posted by Mechvet

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To refer to your specific case, pulling the (male) student aside, and having a talk about how his actions are perceived can do him a lot of good, as well as remove the negative situation for the female student. The exact phrasing here is something you've got to CAREFULLY consider. Crushing the student's expression of affection isn't the goal. The goal is to explain that another person isn't perceiving their affection the same way, as well as to put into context the professional manner in which the student SHOULD act.

In summary, sometimes telling someone they're not acting right is what needs to be done. It's not a natural feeling, but it gets easier over time.

[MechEng83]

As far as internal team dynamics, we do a few things to address these types of problems.

1st, we have a team handbook that outlines specific behaviors that are wholly not acceptable. This is emphasized throughout the year.

2nd, we have occasional girl and boy meetings, specifically to discuss issues and situations that have happened and may arise and how to handle them. My students know both what is expected of them and what to do if they are put into an uncomfortable situation both within and outside the team. For the boy meeting, I highlight that it's not just their own behavior they should be concerned about, but others too. Watch out for your teammates and help them out in whatever situations they are in. I have never been part of the girl meeting (no guys allowed), so I only know what I've been told about what gets discussed, but it's important to know that your team has your back.

3rd, I insert myself into situations at events where I notice guys creeping on my female students. I introduce myself in a friendly, yet forceful, manner as their mentor and ask if there's anything I can do to help them out. The creeps tend to get very uncomfortable and leave quickly when they've been caught. Hyper-vigilance is unfortunately necessary at times.

[techhelpbb]

To me this is a social interaction.
There are plenty of ways to creep people out in a social setting regardless of gender.

If it gets to the point that someone feels uncomfortable they should feel safe enough to come forward and to report the issue. The person that is causing the issue should feel safe enough to tell their side and have a learning moment.

People do awkward things and sometimes they do so mindlessly.
We can overreact or we can manage that.
If these situations fail to be managed - then you make sure they can't escalate.

[Sperkowsky]

Lets keep in mind that this is natural.

There are quite a few socially awkward male and females in robotics so these situations can get worse. And, the lack of females with the interest can extenuate the situation but regardless this is life.

I am not advocating for creepy behavior but normal flirting and tries at a relationship with other members or members from other teams are to be expected.

We all are high school students after all.

[Libby K]

Originally Posted by Sperkowsky

Lets keep in mind that this is natural.

There are quite a few socially awkward male and females in robotics so these situations can get worse. And, the lack of females with the interest can extenuate the situation but regardless this is life.

I am not advocating for creepy behavior but normal flirting and tries at a relationship with other members or members from other teams are to be expected.

We all are high school students after all.

I think I get what you meant with this statement, but if that 'normal flirting' makes a student on my team uncomfortable, the offending student needs to be checked up on, not approached with the attitude of 'oh well, this is life'.

If it's an issue of alienating a teammate, male or female, with creepy behavior, then the issue has to be dealt with.

You're hovering right around a 'boys will be boys' (I guess in this case, 'nerds will be nerds') mentality with this post - I hope you can clarify what you're actually trying to say.

[Just Doug]

The thing that bugs me the most is when I notice sexism on the part of the student members of our team. We correct it as quickly as it happens, but we don't have a mentor there for every exchange that every student has. We try to handle it in the same way that the team handles bullying, because really it is the same thing. Outside of that maintaining an open line of communications helps with many issues.

Our student president started a high school club that interfaces with SWE a few years back. It has done wonders for recruiting girls onto the team. I don't want to make too many conjectures about why it works, but I am under the impression that it provides an environment where the students are more comfortable talking about problems that happen in the STEM arena.

-Doug