Mentors: What's something you wish you knew going in?

[OZ_341]

Originally Posted by PayneTrain

When you mentor, focus your involvement in FIRST primarily (solely?) on the team. The kids, their parents, the kids, mentors, the sponsors, the kids and the kids are the priority. Working with multiple teams should take a back seat. Developing your own portfolio should take a backseat. Building a social circle in FIRST should definitely take a back seat, and volunteering in FIRST might even need to take a backseat. It is a marriage in FIRST where you and your team are the same entity. Anything you do that is not in the best interests of your students is a waste of everyone's time and effort.

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THANK YOU FOR WRITING THIS!!! Too many mentors in FIRST regard this as some sort of personal challenge or a social club for adults or even worse, they are trying to climb some imaginary ladder that does not even exist.

FIRST is about the KIDS!

[marshall]

There is some great advice in this thread.

The moment that a student takes ownership of a project, accomplishes a task without being prompted, or does something I thought was impossible... that moment never gets old and it happens a lot.

[Jay O'Donnell]

Don't make it about yourself. Especially if you are an alumni turning into a mentor, put your ego at the door and put everything into helping your students grow both as FIRSTers and as people.

And just because you are a mentor doesn't mean you can't keep learning. None of us know everything. Keep learning so you can more effectively teach your students.

[Steven Smith]

Most of this is written under the assumption of a newer mentor looking to grow a program to a "high level". That is a personal/team decision though, and I'm not implying that is the only route to take.

• No one is perfect, and mentoring is a trainable skill that you get better at over time. It's good to have a 1/3/5 year plan, but it is also equally important to keep chipping away and make solid progress.
• Along the same lines, know your faults, surround yourself with people you trust to give you critical feedback when needed. Accept your faults, do what you can to minimize them, and delegate around them if needed. AKA, if you stink at planning and organization, you need to find someone to help you with it if you are the lead mentor.
• There is always more to do than time. FIRST gives us an endless buffet of opportunities. I'll second the comment on how good it feels to see a student (or a new mentor) knock something out with minimal instruction. It is awesome for them personally, but it is such as relief as you transition someone from a resource drain (in an acceptable way, people need training) to a new resource, as they can help with projects, help train new people etc.
• Again, along the same lines, you need to manage the amount of resource "drainers" and "suppliers" in your group. If you have 5 people that know what's going on and bring in 30 newbies, it will stress everyone. Focus on training people and getting them over that hump. You can't do the work of 5-10 alone, you have to train your team.
• Everyone has something to give or contribute. Find out what the skills are of people in your group and practice organization and delegation. You can't grow people if you try to do it all yourself. Nine times out of ten in the offseason, it is more important to grow the person than to do the thing... during build season, it's maybe more 50/50 for me.
• Make sure every meeting has a purpose. Don't just meet to hang out. It will burn you out. Leave time for planning and to be able to come in prepared.
• Focus on what's important. Write it down. Review it annually, you'll be surprised at how much you have accomplished.
• Know what is holding your team back. If you don't know, talk to mentors on other teams and get their perspective. It's too easy to look at the Tier 1 teams, and start selecting items off their "done list". I'd argue for many, it is the lack of team skillset (thoughout the team) and inability to plan and execute effectively. It is likely not... the fact that your pit isn't as cool, or that you don't have a $50K CNC machine. However, building a pit can give you an opportunity to train/plan/execute. Almost every offseason project should be viewed as a training exercise in some way.
• Communication is critical. Find a way to keep info out in front of your team. However, you need to watch over-communication. Not everyone is "on board" like you yet. Give people the information they need, and an avenue to get more if they choose.
• Document things. Blogs are great, just don't obsess over quality or audience. I shoot for one a week and to spend under 15 minutes writing it. It's ok to just have a blog for you, to remember what you do. Take lots of pictures, you'll love looking back at them in 2-3 years to see how far you came.

[jweston]

1. Knowing how to set boundaries. It's ok to say no. It's even ok for you to not be there for every little thing that happens in your knowledge domain.

2. 90-95% of robotics is planning. If it's important, prepare for it as if it's going to happen well ahead of time, even if there's almost no odds on it happening. This includes good things like going to Worlds as well as bad things like a part failing.

3. Knowing when to let kids fail. You don't learn much from success. Failure should not be considered a judgement but a datapoint and a challenge to work through.

4. When traveling by bus over very long distances (more than 8 hours each way), hire a reputable bus company that drives in shifts, even if it costs more. Your team will be safer and the ride will be more comfortable.

[Conor Ryan]

0) Before the season starts, do a SWOT analysis of what your team is good at and what you are going to struggle with. Year after year teams struggle with the same issues (ex. Programming) and do nothing to fix it.

1) Do you really need that expensive machine? Probably not. For every 5k+ machine I've seen a team buy, I often wonder why they didn't buy 3 new control systems and made a significant investment into the programming that the team does.

1b) Invest in your weaknesses! Is programming a challenge? Make it the team goal to over come that challenge and prioritize it's success over everything else.

2) Push students into stretch roles! Do not give out responsibility based off of seniority. This is an educational experience and you can embrace it! People can amaze you if they are given the opportunity.

[waialua359]

Originally Posted by jweston

2. 90-95% of robotics is planning.

Great advice on this thread about beind kid focused.

I'd also argue that the planning part is 99.99%!

Do things before deadlines are even talked about.

Plan for failures. When something doesnt go as planned, have alternative contingency plans in place.

[PayneTrain]

Originally Posted by waialua359

Great advice on this thread about beind kid focused.

I'd also argue that the planning part is 99.99%!

Do things before deadlines are even talked about.

Plan for failures. When something doesnt go as planned, have alternative contingency plans in place.

To make it as simple as possible, I try to look at FRC as a program where teams can have tiers, and if you can't satisfy conditions for the lower tier, you can't advance to a higher tier. If you don't know how to plan, the technical experience of human resources does not matter. If you lack the concepts of project management and a competent and deep technical knowledge base, the shiny toys and workshops you have are useless.

Trying to figure out HOW to do things in FIRST is so difficult because while there are great resources out there from Hall of Fame teams that can direct you how to run a team, there is no resource out there that tells you how to run YOUR team. You can't be 1114. You can't be your local powerhouse. You can't be a carbon copy of your old team. Learn how to emulate, but never waste time trying to imitate. Forge your team's identity and culture and let it grow naturally in an environment you nurture.

[Karibou]

You are there to teach and guide others, but that does not mean you are exempt from being a listener and learner as well, and that goes for both practical skills and personal development. I did kind of come into mentoring with that expectation/understanding, but still found myself constantly surprised at how much I was always learning.

And also, it's surprising how quickly you can use up vacation days/PTO...

[Eric Scheuing]

It's easy to get carried away. Sometimes it's helpful to take a step back or take a night off to clear your mind. Remember, as much as you're there for the students, you can't help them if you're not taking care of yourself too.

[Pauline Tasci]

Originally Posted by Jay O'Donnell

Don't make it about yourself. Especially if you are an alumni turning into a mentor, put your ego at the door and put everything into helping your students grow both as FIRSTers and as people.

And just because you are a mentor doesn't mean you can't keep learning. None of us know everything. Keep learning so you can more effectively teach your students.

Couldn't of said it better myself.

I think the greatest part of being a mentor, and especially a young mentor like myself, is you are learning with your students in many cases.

And that is so cool.

[mrnoble]

I'm with Koko Ed on this one. Robotics was a significant contributing factor to the ending of my marriage. I'm choosing to cut back to two or three days a week now, but it's way too late. Still, it's not really the robots or the competition, it's working with the students and seeing them thrive. I guess we all make our priorities.