Please dont... But HOW?

[Bharat Nain]

Originally Posted by monsieurcoffee

I think there are more than enough threads to address such an issue, and I think the moderators can do that as necessary. I mean no offense, just that reading this feels like reading a variation of Ken Leung's thread (stickied).

But for what it's worth, nice example with Crowley. Though making is a connection between a criminal and forum users is a big of a stretch

I agree with you very much. But you see the thing is, I noticed in all other threads, there is no one specifically addressing people on the HOW. I just posted one tip, which really does not make sense now, but we go into advanced stuff(no, its not too hard to understand), it might help atleast some people in their life.

[Bharat Nain]

This is crucial and important. Its simple to do, easy to follow and it makes sense. Its called not criticizing, conedemning or complaining.


Cause and effect: When you criticize, condemn or complaint, all that happens is the other person gets a bad feeling about you. Now lets see, you do so because you want to get your point across. But all that happens is the other person gets a bad feeling about you, even if he follows what you do, he/she does it half-heartedly.

Why not do something which could get your point across, make them do what you want them to do happily and full-heartedly, rather than the normal way?

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E.g: Scenario: Robot Workshop.

Adam is working with the electrical system.
John[The head supervisor] notices Adam is being lazy and not insulating the wires well. Here is how the conversation goes:

John: Adam, Why on earth dont you stop being lazy and insulate the wires well?
Adam: Bah.. Dont worry, IT'll work.
John: I will have to get you off the fabrication team if you dont follow the rules.
Adam: [In his mind] WHATEVER. WHO CARES ANYWAYS. He never means it.
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Now Lets say John did things differently:
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John: Adam, You are doing a awesome job with those wires. You seem to have a good knack with those wires.
Adam: Oh! Thank You
John: You might wanna insulate those wires well, rest is just great.
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Now tell me, what would work better? You got your point across, made the other person feel happy about what you want them to do, and Adam did it full-heartedly. It just makes sense.

[Bharat Nain]

Tip # 3

*Okay, I should not criticize, then how should I handle a situation?*

The Answer is:

1) Praise first, and then criticize, if you cant avoid criticizing.
2) Put it in terms, that a mistake is easy to correct.
3) Do it Sincerely

A postive attitude helps. The reason I say Sincere, is when you talk to people, wheather u want it or not, people know whats in your heart and mind. Its just the way things are.

The Big Key: You have to sincerely get intrested in other people, for others to like you, and thats when they like you, and you start becoming famous, prosper in life. From what I have seen around in the forum, Ken Leung is a person of that sort. There may be many of you, like that...

Anyways that all for today
laters

[ProjectDEAD]

simple fact of the matter when u have a diverse set of people you cannot sit their and talk about religion/politics/and other such things that ppl take offense 2...

secondly alot of people have to realise regardless of what these people say its just forums... and you also have to realise that most of these ppl wont even look you in the eye in real life... so whenever i feel like im going to start fighting with someone i just realise whats the point... they are just kids my age or younger (im 17) or adults that dont know how to be adults trying to get a rise out of someone to make them feel good about themselves via a computer because they cant in real life... its sad and it helps me feel sorry for them(the ppl starting fights that is)...

[Bharat Nain]

Originally Posted by ProjectDEAD

simple fact of the matter when u have a diverse set of people you cannot sit their and talk about religion/politics/and other such things that ppl take offense 2...

secondly alot of people have to realise regardless of what these people say its just forums... and you also have to realise that most of these ppl wont even look you in the eye in real life... so whenever i feel like im going to start fighting with someone i just realise whats the point... they are just kids my age or younger (im 17) or adults that dont know how to be adults trying to get a rise out of someone to make them feel good about themselves via a computer because they cant in real life... its sad and it helps me feel sorry for them(the ppl starting fights that is)...

AWESOME POINT. You got the right attitude. This is so good and so important I am going to repeat it "they are just kids my age or younger (im 17) or adults that dont know how to be adults trying to get a rise out of someone to make them feel good about themselves via a computer because they cant in real life... its sad and it helps me feel sorry for them(the ppl starting fights that is).."


Human beings starve for recognition, they want to be great, and treated great. That is why we are at FIRST, and that is why when our team is playing on the field, we cheer for them, and we are just praying in our hearts, "C'mon [drivers name], please win".

It is a fact nobody can deny. Thats why when you praise somebody, they feel good about you and themselves. If you sincerely praise someone, they will like you.

[ProjectDEAD]

well just alot of emotion about in competitions... everyone likes to win, and no one likes to lose, but hey, how else can we be humbled! and learn!

[Bharat Nain]

True... We eventually do find joy in hanging out with people out there, even if we lose the competition. Fortunately, most of the teams on FIRST are humble. Otherwise we would have a FIRST Riot