I cant get my program into a hex file

[Chriszuma]

Well I could tell you to read the manual, but it is just as easy to tell you that when you hit the "Build All" icon in MPLAB, it creates the hex file automatically in the folder in which you're working (assuming it compiled and linked without error). In IFI Loader, navigate to the directory in which you were just working and select the hex file named after your project. If there are two hex files there, the one labeled "default" is the original, unmodified one.