FAHA: Mentor + Team problems

[Bharat Nain]

The following is an anonymous response.

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Dear Anonymous,

“God, grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
the courage to change the things I can;
and the wisdom to know the difference.”

At one time or another, almost every one of us has experienced what you say is happening with you. We all get dirty looks, treated unfairly, and our efforts go unappreciated. What separates self esteem and contentment from anguish and despair is how each of us deals with it. For some it rolls like water off a duck, while others get their feelings crushed.

You are at an age when it’s time to decide where you fit in. Are you going to let them get you down, or will you accept the things you cannot change?

It’s all a matter of perception. Sometimes a dirty look is like a baby’s smile, not really an emotion, but caused by gas. What matters is that you know you are a “go-to” guy. What doesn’t matter is what you think you know about what others think of you.

So, the best that you can do is all that you can do. If others fail to notice, then that’s their failure, not yours. If others are arrogant and self centered, then that’s their hang-up, not yours.

Do not try so hard to please them. Please yourself instead.


Regards,
Old enough to know the difference.

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FIRST-a-holic Anonymous mailbox is a place to share your concern and frustration about your FIRST experience anonymously. It is the perfect place if you just want someone to listen, or ask for advice when you don’t know what to do. Submit your letters today at the FIRST-a-holic anonymous mailbox forum. If you wish to respond to this thread anonymously, please PM Beth or Bharat with your response and thread title.

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