Dating a Non-Geek

[MattK]

I see interest, her mom is a computer science major. I think she is just sick of it. I know there is potental.

[Madison]

Originally posted by D.J. Fluck
Changing someone is bad, changing yourself on the other hand can be a good thing....

but there is a difference between forcing interests and overcomming fears. I used to be an anti-social quiet shy person and look at me now. I don't stop talking....

Right. </sarcasm>



People change in all sorts of ways. I have.

[Erin Rapacki]

Oh, where can I start...

Originally posted by MattK
or just leave her the way she is?

The way you worded this makes her sound like a piece of meat that might need more preparing. It is wrong, even if you don't mean it or catch yourself implying it, to think you have the right to change somebody, especially a girlfriend. If you two were meant to be the thought of changing her wouldn't even cross your mind.

On a lighter note: Think of WHY she likes to be with you. Is it because of your personality, your 'geekiness,' or is it something else? Once you figure out why she likes to be with you, you guys can grow on that.

I've learned from personal experience that it is a good thing to keep at least ONE thing that you love doing... to yourself. I understand that you might want to change her so you two have something to talk about, but you can still talk about it. If she asks and inquires a lot about the technological stuff you do, great! If she doesn't, don't take it as an omen... try something else that you two have in common. But if it bothers you that much... don't take her dignity and personality away by trying to change her, declare friendship instead and go for someone else.

So here's my point, go through the relationship day by day and enjoy your time spent together no matter what you two are doing. Do NOT come up with some ultimate plan to turn her into the perfect partner, because whether or not you succeed, you will be dissappointed. So try to understand... most of the time, people cherish other people mostly because they are different. Enjoy it, don't exploit it.

[Adam Y.]

Originally posted by Katie Reynolds
First of all:

Geek

1. A person regarded as foolish, inept, or clumsy.
2. A person who is single-minded or accomplished in scientific or technical pursuits but is felt to be socially inept.
3. A carnival performer whose show consists of bizarre acts, such as biting the head off a live chicken.
- Katie

Dam there is the proof that I'm a geek.

[FotoPlasma]

Originally posted by wysiswyg
Dam there is the proof that I'm a geek.

Yeah, I'm with ya... Anyone got a mop or something? I'm not sure how to clean up all these chicken bodies...

[Adam Y.]

Yeah, I'm with ya... Anyone got a mop or something? I'm not sure how to clean up all these chicken bodies...

Notice how it said bizzare acts not just biting heads off of chickens.

[Jnadke]

Mmmm..... chicken....


On a college diet chicken heads sound good right about now... I wonder if KFC sells any...

[Joe Matt]

Wow. That's what I want to see, Mike and Fluck before!

[DanLevin247]

I am "dating" a "non-geek" in a sence, just depends on your "deffiniton" of "dating". I think you should be your own "person" and not have to "change" yourself to "date" a "non-geek". "Personallity" is where it truley "counts". "Date" a person with a similar "personallity" or one that you are "compatable" with instead of "bothering" with "geek" or "non-geek" "status". And always, use "quotations".

[evulish]

I wish I had _any_ kind of girlfriend.

[Madison]

Originally posted by evulish
I wish I had _any_ kind of girlfriend.

*Lose* the sunglasses.

[Christina]

Originally posted by D.J. Fluck
Changing someone is bad, changing yourself on the other hand can be a good thing....

but there is a difference between forcing interests and overcomming fears. I used to be an anti-social quiet shy person and look at me now. I don't stop talking....

DJ...I agree with you on this one. Forcing someone to change is a bad thing, but helping someone change into someone they *want* to be can be a good thing.

~Christina

[evulish]

Originally posted by Michael Krass
*Lose* the sunglasses.

Oddly enough, I can't actually find them.