Dealing with disapointments

[Daniel_LaFleur]

Originally Posted by pSYeNCe

Well then, I have a question for you all.

My disappointment this year is that my mother banned me from FIRST. Her reason is one I can't talk about here, but I assure you it's not sound. My FIRST team meant everything to me and I dedicated tons of time to it, and made some of the best memories of my life at meetings and (especially) competitions. I had intended on making two more years of memories, too (Junior here).

How am I to do better/deal/change her mind? I've tried convincing her and she won't budge, and we just don't have anything else like FIRST around here. Everyone here knows how exhilarating it is being on a team. I'm sure you can understand my frustration.

(I realize the topic here has been on competition disappointment, but *technically* the subject of the first post just said "Dealing with disappointments" )

Because we don't know the reason, we cannot directly answer your question. That said, I can give you some advice about dealing with people when they obstruct you from your goals. Most times the person obstructing you believe they are the right thing and their job. Calling their decision/reason not sound is counterproductive (and probably unwise).

Instead you should start asking questions about their reasoning. Questions like ... "What are your concerns?" or "what do I need to do to be able to do this" ... etc. Approach their decision from a rational point of view.

Remember: Sometimes brick walls are put there to see how much you really want something