Are Chief Delphi users thin-skinned?

[Cody Carey]

Nobody in real life paints a number on me that everyone else everywhere can see... a number that will cause pre-concieved Ideas about me. i.e.) You don't know whether or not I am the most popular kid in my school.
( I was talking about figurative dots too)

AND...

If you are in a professional environment, of course you have a reputation, but we are in a peer environment, Not many people choose whether or not they are going to hire anybody based on chiefdelphi.

[Joe Johnson]

Originally Posted by Cody C

Nobody in real life paints a number on me that everyone else everywhere can see... a number that will cause pre-concieved Ideas about me. i.e.) ...

You in right... ...In real life, you paint the number on your OWN forehead.

How you dress, how you look, what expression you have on your face, your body language, etc.

You may not see the number but it is there.

People make unfair, unscientific, snap evaluations of other people all the time. It is the norm, not the exception.

Think about it.

Joe J.

[Daniel_LaFleur]

[quote=Cody C]Nobody in real life paints a number on me that everyone else everywhere can see... [\QUOTE]

Untrue...While it may not be a number, you give yourself a reputation (For better or for worse). In your actions, your words, and your mannerisms you are being judged by your peers, always.

In business, that reputation will make or break you...It will get you that great promotion or hold it back.

Here in CD, we can only see the words you have typed. And that is all we have to go on. Until your reputation exceeds those little red / green dots you will be percieved by them, and the posts you make. Choosing those words wisely is sometimes an artform.

Disagreeing with someone is fine as long as you do not degrade or attack the poster. Reread your post and ask yourself -- are you discussing the message or the poster. If it is the poster you should probably re do your post.

Anyways, this is just my opinion on the subject.

[Steve W]

Originally Posted by Cody C

When Two people have a dissagreement, does a red dot appear over one of their heads that lets every single person that sees them know that "He is a bad person because he has a red dot above his head, no. "reputation in real life is between two people... also, You didn't comment on the thread closing that I mentioned, yet you still told me to think about what I post... I just want to let you know that it took me at least 6 diffeerent revisions of that post to get one that was fit for this forum.

Sorry to rain on your parade but reputation is not between two people. I have worked for 31 years in a company where your reputation arrives well before you do. It doesn't take long to lose a good reputation but it takes years to get it back. I have learned that hard way that there are ways to speak your mind and still have a good reputation. It is a skill that your must learn and the sooner the better if you plan on succeeding in the business world.

[Chriszuma]

Originally Posted by Steve W

Sorry to rain on your parade but reputation is not between two people. I have worked for 31 years in a company where your reputation arrives well before you do. It doesn't take long to lose a good reputation but it takes years to get it back. I have learned that hard way that there are ways to speak your mind and still have a good reputation. It is a skill that your must learn and the sooner the better if you plan on succeeding in the business world.

I've experienced this phenomenon of disproportionate effort required to gain or lose reputation just by being on a robot team. After I do something stupid it takes a long time for people to stop hassling me about it. But when I finish the electronics board and the operator interface on schedule, my respect level doesn't really increase that much.

... It just makes me want to sing an Aretha Franklin song...

[Nuttyman54]

I would like to propose an alternative to jumping on the Negative Rep button. While it can be useful, it often has the effect of getting the person more mad and bitter (and often quite defensive), rather than actually solving the problem. The solution: Follow Arefin Bari's method.
In the game hint discussion this year, I made a post that was quite harsh on one of the senior members of the forum. Instead of giving me negative reps, Arefin sent me an IM (PM's will work too) and calmly asked that I remove the post. I did. Problem solved, no feelings hurt, and no reps lost. I felt that it got the message across much better than negative reps would have.

[Koko Ed]

I go to alot of messageboards and it is a serious balancing act on how to conduct the board.
I call CHiefdelphi the Clean Room because it's like a pure environment here. There is no trolls (a HUGE messageboard problem) and the drama threads are really minor annoyances (try any thread on race and religon and watch things get ugly fast).
About the only other messageboard that was "on course" as CD is CG Talk which is all business. On other boards the poster don't repsect one another. Often engage in name calling and thread hijacking commonly, insted of debating like ratinal adults. Will resort to posting mocking threads or even vulgar images to belittle other poster and have multiple accounts so they can engage in trolling.
Yeah alot of what the mods have to do may seem like mind control but if the mods weren't here, believe me, CD would be a VERY unpleasant place to be.

[stevek]

I have gotten annoyed this year and last on almost every post I had. It makes it harder and harder for me to make the time to come here. There are a lot of very smart students that are savy and computer literate, Yet some have no true real world experience. I have owned my own company for over ten years and support dozens of other compaines in Video/Web/Graphic Design/ and Multimedia Technologies. I often stick to forums on these topics. I feel everytime I post a technique or solution to a question, I get lambasted. Recently A user made a new tread on Web Hosting for FIRST Teams- So after his sales pitch, I posted a reply that didn't discount his offer but offered an alternative- By the end of the page- I got told that my sugested company was no good (by somone who admiting to having no experience with the company- go figure) and then I was told if I didn't want the first guys company than just don't use it. I was furious. I couldn't believe that I couldn't make a sugestion without being jumped all over. I find the same when people talk about different programs. I get people that are religious about some free download or some "in-thing" and my time tested professional sugestions (which offen offer different price range solutions) gets destroyed by people that have no real experience.

I'd love people to be more tolerant and take sugestions as just that. I'd also love people with no experience on subjects to refrane from being so adiment. Its ok to have oppinions- but why attack everyone elses who differs.

Good luck as the weeks wind down.

[andyhoyt911]

Originally Posted by pyro20911d

Yesterday when making a post about rookie teams I got walked all over


What Does everyone think? After getting trampled and receiving -120 rep points i could use a little help

well doug, it could be because FRESHMEN arent all bad, just like rookie teams. after all, everyone's gotta start somewhere. [[pointing out the obvious]]