I surround myself with technology all day, everyday. I am now dating a non-geek girl (dont get me wrong, she is wicked awsome! ). Should I try to bring her into technology or just leave her the way she is?
I guess it depends if she’s even remotely interested in anything that deals with technology…
Erm, if you have to change her to like her, dump her.
Do the world a favor. Thanks.
NO I really like her. Its just that she isnt a geek
*Originally posted by MattK *
**NO I really like her. Its just that she isnt a geek **
I’m fairly certain you answered your own question.
Think, all of this could’ve been done without the ChiefDelphi forums involved at all. Wow.
My humble opinoin on the subject is that you should NOT try to make her into a geek. Your doing that will not help anyone at all, ever.
If you’re happy, though, cool.
First of all:
Geek
- A person regarded as foolish, inept, or clumsy.
- A person who is single-minded or accomplished in scientific or technical pursuits but is felt to be socially inept.
- A carnival performer whose show consists of bizarre acts, such as biting the head off a live chicken.
Do you really want to be dating a girl who bites the heads off of live chickens?
Second - Like Michael said … why would you want to change her? I know this one girl … she was a drama/theatre person and she started dating someone from our team. He was the captain of the football team and our best machinist. We had a bad year in 2001, and he was thinking of not coming back. A big deciding factor in his not coming back to our team was this girl. She changed him into who she wanted him to be … and she didn’t want him on the team (there are huge discrepancies between the drama department and the tech ed department). Anyway - she turned him away from the team, and while she is happy with who he is, he is now void of personality. Not who he used to be. He pretty much stopped talking all together now… It’s kind of sad.
So, no. You shouldn’t change whoever this girl is. As a matter of fact, you should never change anyone. If they want to change, that’s great. But don’t do the changing for them.
- Katie
DO NOT change a person. If they want to change let them be the one to do it. Do not force them to change either.
So you want her to become a chicken decapitator, like you?
don’t change her. if you want her to like computers, maybe introduce her to computers, but like they say, you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink. if she’s not a techie, and she doesn’t want to be, tough luck.
*Originally posted by MBiddy *
**So you want her to become a chicken decapitator, like you? **
for once…I actually agree with you…
Changing someone is bad, changing yourself on the other hand can be a good thing…
OO I wish you guys would have known me as a freshman…im not the same person.
but there is a difference between forcing interests and overcomming fears. I used to be an anti-social quiet shy person and look at me now. I don’t stop talking…
so take it from me, if this person doesnt want to be interested in all of this, dont try to make them, they will hate you in the long run
i second that motion, all the way. from being the quiet shy person to mr. talkative
*Originally posted by D.J. Fluck *
I used to be an anti-social quiet shy person and look at me now. I don’t stop talking…
We really have a lot more in common than just being teenage, human males in America…
Definitely attempt to get her interested in technology. If she doesnt like it, no big deal. Forget it. One thing you dont have in common shouldnt screw you up. However, theres always the opportunity that she might. I mean, how did you get into technology in the first place? Probably it was through a friend or relative or some other connection. You should definitely not force the issue, obviously.
I see interest, her mom is a computer science major. I think she is just sick of it. I know there is potental.
*Originally posted by D.J. Fluck *
**Changing someone is bad, changing yourself on the other hand can be a good thing…but there is a difference between forcing interests and overcomming fears. I used to be an anti-social quiet shy person and look at me now. I don’t stop talking…**
Right. </sarcasm>
People change in all sorts of ways. I have.
Oh, where can I start…
*Originally posted by MattK *
**or just leave her the way she is? **
The way you worded this makes her sound like a piece of meat that might need more preparing. It is wrong, even if you don’t mean it or catch yourself implying it, to think you have the right to change somebody, especially a girlfriend. If you two were meant to be the thought of changing her wouldn’t even cross your mind.
On a lighter note: Think of WHY she likes to be with you. Is it because of your personality, your ‘geekiness,’ or is it something else? Once you figure out why she likes to be with you, you guys can grow on that.
I’ve learned from personal experience that it is a good thing to keep at least ONE thing that you love doing… to yourself. I understand that you might want to change her so you two have something to talk about, but you can still talk about it. If she asks and inquires a lot about the technological stuff you do, great! If she doesn’t, don’t take it as an omen… try something else that you two have in common. But if it bothers you that much… don’t take her dignity and personality away by trying to change her, declare friendship instead and go for someone else.
So here’s my point, go through the relationship day by day and enjoy your time spent together no matter what you two are doing. Do NOT come up with some ultimate plan to turn her into the perfect partner, because whether or not you succeed, you will be dissappointed. So try to understand… most of the time, people cherish other people mostly because they are different. Enjoy it, don’t exploit it.
*Originally posted by Katie Reynolds *
**First of all:Geek
- A person regarded as foolish, inept, or clumsy.
- A person who is single-minded or accomplished in scientific or technical pursuits but is felt to be socially inept.
- A carnival performer whose show consists of bizarre acts, such as biting the head off a live chicken.
- Katie **
Dam there is the proof that I’m a geek.
*Originally posted by wysiswyg *
**Dam there is the proof that I’m a geek. **
Yeah, I’m with ya… Anyone got a mop or something? I’m not sure how to clean up all these chicken bodies…