(Goes back to bait department. Picks up can. Goes to front of store and buys can and walks outside. Opens can exposing worms.)
*Note: These are all based on MY experiences. I make no claims as to others’ experiences.
I will answer this question by basically telling the story of my FIRST journey over the last seven years.
In high school, sophomore through senior year, I was on Cyber Blue 234 in Indianapolis, IN. I was even lucky enough to be a co-captain my senior year. During my time on the team, occassionally a team alumnus would come back to help out during the build season. I remember this bothering me a lot as a younger member on the team, when they were people that I had not been able to grow a friendship with as a student. I felt that they were intruding on the new team’s ground. I felt that they should move on and let us take the lead on the team. Of course, I was thankful for their contributions to the team. They had been members before we had a dedicated machine shop or the kind of support (financial and mentor) we had when I was a new member. Yet, I felt that it was my turn to see what I could do on the team, and as long as they were there, I would never be able to grow.
Upon graduation I went to Purdue University in West Lafayette, IN to study engineering. Purdue is about 70 miles away from the south side of Indy where my high school is located, so being a “mentor” for that team was not really possible. However, if the distance had been shorter, I still don’t know if I would have been able, emotionally, to mentor. My girlfriend at the time (now my wife) was a member of the team, my younger brother was a member of the team, and I had really strong friendships with the students remaining on the team. Some of them had been on the team as long as I had, since I started as a sophomore, and I didn’t feel right coming back as a former team leader because of how I had felt when I was in their situation. I also didn’t feel as though I could adequately separate myself from the “friendships” to a mentor relationship. I’m not saying that I wouldn’t consider the mentors my friends, but the type of friendship is very different between two students and between a mentor and a student, or, at least it was for me.
At the time I graduated, Purdue University sponsored one team, 461. During my freshman year, as I tried to get my feet underneath me with the transition to college, Purdue began another team, 1646. I chose not to be involved because I wanted to focus on school. I was in the engineering honors program which took up most of my free time. Also, I still felt as though I would have a hard time being a mentor to students who were possibly only one year younger than me. However, I did still stay involved with FIRST on a less commitment level, checking the forums, watching the kick-off, etc. I wasn’t involved with a specific team in any aspect, but I kept FIRST in my mind. That also happened to be the first year of the Boilermaker Regional. This is where my life took an unexpected turn. I was asked if I would like to be a backup emcee or game announcer for the regional. The goal was for me to study what some of the best in the FIRST buisiness do (Blair Hundertmark and Dan Green in this example) and eventually transition to where I could be the primary. I accepted the invitation and have never looked back. That year, I backed up Dan at Boilermaker and at Midwest. The next year (sophomore year), I was primary GA at Boilermaker. The year after (junior), I was again primary GA at Boilermaker and the GA on Curie in Atlanta.
Game announcing wasn’t all I did sophomore year. The summer prior, I spoke to a rep from Purdue FIRST who mentioned that Purdue was starting a third team. She asked if I (and a few other younger college students) would be interested in mentoring that team. At that point, I felt like I had grown enough that I could separate myself from high school students, so I accepted. Mentoring an established team is hard work on it’s own…mentoring a rookie team is even harder. We had school board issues, school administration issues, work space issues, etc. The one thing that wasn’t an issue was the students. The students on that team were so driven that it pushed the mentors to do their best for them. They were fantastic; I honestly cannot say enough about them. The season was stressfull but memorable. The robot performed well, the team won a Rookie All-Star, and qualified for The Championships. However, my grades began to severely suffer. I was putting SO much time into the team that I was struggling with my coursework, and I knew that GPA was an important factor for most employers, especially in my industry (aerospace). Eventually, I had to skip the trip to Atlanta with the team to catch up on classes and spent the next two years at school trying to raise my GPA back to where it was (it’s much easier to drop it quickly than raise it quickly, I realized). I needed to focus on me; the team would survive without me. It a hard pill to swallow sometimes, but Scott Ritchie (234 founder) put it best at our senior banquet. He said, “You guys (the seniors) did some great things, but you can and will be replaced.” He was right. I thought the team at Purdue would fall apart without me. Instead, the next year, they were inches away from winning a regional, and one of their mentors won a Regional WFA. They had endured some hardships, but the students had perservered and had thrived. They continue to inspire me as most of them will be seniors this year.
One other thing Purdue FIRST did that year was amend the Purdue FIRST constitution. As a group, we decided that students who joined the college organization could not mentor their own team as a freshman. We thought this would be good for the team at the high school as well as the student. There was a lot of debate about this change, and it came down to a vote. Not everyone was happy with the rule, but the reason they were not happy were the same reasons we didn’t want them to be mentors for that team…mostly they had friendships which tied them to the team as a student. We did not want them to have to give up FIRST, on the contrary, we wanted them as involved as the wanted to be, just not specifically with their team.
So, I took two years off from mentoring so that I could get myself right. I graduated (May), got married (June), and started a job (July) this summer. In September, I went back to 234. I had spoken to some of the mentors (only two really remain from when I was a student) and they had agreed it would be ok for me to come back. The entire student populus on the team has turned over, so none (or at least very few) of these students know me as Collin the former team member. They know me as Collin the engineer and mentor, which is how I wanted it. We were standing around after one meeting and one of the mentors said, “We always knew you’d be back. Sometimes, you can just tell.” So much has changed on the team over the last four years that it’s like coming back to a totally different team, which is kind of nice. I don’t try to put the team into the box it was in when I was a senior. The team has its own life that I get to be a part of this year, for which I am very thankful and very excited.
Hopefully this begins to answer your question. In summary, I personally couldn’t balance mentoring and being a student. Yet, there are those that have balanced both quite well. The hardest thing to remember is, even if you take a few years off, FIRST will be here when you’re able to come back. It may look a little different, but different isn’t bad…it’s just different.
Good luck.