If you think that there isn’t a difference between the way females are treated compared to males, then you’re part of the problem. From many incidents that have been brought up about how females are treated, the biggest issue is that they blow it off and don’t want to deal with the real problem. So I’ll explain the problems I have had.
Why would we listen to a girl!
Being on a mostly male dominated team is tough. The most difficult thing is when a girl tries to become part of the build. No matter how hard I tried, the guys wouldn’t listen to my ideas. Towards the end of the season they started to listen to me more and more and I heard a lot of “you were right”. Of course I wasn’t always right and I did hear “it doesn’t work” but it was better then getting my ideas pushed aside because I was a female. However only a select few listened.
Even with all the things that have happened involving girls not being listened to and how it has been brought to the leaders attention, they seem to not care.
Am I that useless?
During the season there were many times where if I was doing something that a guy wasn’t doing then it was “unfair”, as if a female is doing it then a male has to also.
At one specific outreach event, while I was doing something, one of the mentors compared me to animal saying that if a girl is allowed then the crazy “animals” can too. As much as I don’t want these things to hurt and how they might not mean to do any harm, it is sad to see that this is what the worlds “jokes” have come to.
Girls don’t get the credit
This year there was a lot of arguing about how to go about approaching the game. I assumed many teams had this issue because of how many ways you could approach it. In the end, designs were chosen. I had been apart of one of the major designs yet I didn’t get any credit, instead someone else did. The only thing I got credit for was basically that “I was a girl on the team”, woohoo. I know I’m a girl and I know that I’m on the team. To most people this wouldn’t mean anything but after your team reaches high achievements I believe that one of the members shouldn’t spend that night balling because of how they have been treated.
The only reason I want to say all these things is because people and judges ask me “how do you think we get more females involved in first?”. I absolutely love first and the community but these things are starting to change my mind. At this point I’m questioning if it is worth all the emotional stress. I don’t even have the courage to tell some girls that joining the team will be amazing. I don’t want any other girl to go through this, to be treated this way, it’s just not okay. How do I deal with this?