The term is often abused in this way - but I will profess that during my time on these forums, I’ve seen it used in good faith and misinterpreted as something malicious about as many times as I’ve seen it used genuinely in bad faith.
This is something where I think we, as members of the forum, entirely have the power to make the situation a whole lot better by adopting a policy of being charitable. As I mentioned in an earlier post, not only does doing that lessen the chance of sustained misinterpretation, but it also robs the ability of genuinely ill-intentioned posts to start drama in the first place.
The OP then asks members of the forum to draw a line (well with 13 questions its more of a hyperplane) in the sand between robots where one specific aspect of the robot is Mentor Built™ and robots where that aspect is not, and lazily re-brands it “Mentor Coded.”
The OP makes no attempt to separate the obviously derived new term from the originals derisive context, thus it is entirely reasonable for readers to assume that the OP has no intent of doing so.
Yeah, and this was a bad way to frame the post and the OP could have done better. Won’t argue there.
When so many people “misinterpret” the OP, it’s the OPs fault, and they are either incredibly bad at communicating, or are just lazily covering their butts.
Since the OP recently graduated, and I know most mentors attempt to teach their students to communicate effectively, I’m betting on option two.
I’m not sure what the value of assigning fault is, here - I don’t think it changes the fact that most people who are reading this and getting angry have the very simple option of just “not reading the OP as a callout when it contains numerous caveats saying that it is not one and moving on.”
I suppose one might object that doing that allows the OP to function as a sort of dogwhistle, and there’s something to that, I guess; but I’d really just ask, at that point, a dogwhistle to whom? I don’t think there’s some populous underclass of closeted-mentor-haters on Chief Delphi who need to signal to each other. Even if there were, why care about them?